something about 'no whinging' just doesn't sit right with me, for someone who supposedly works with the NSPCC and does work on the importance of early years, and speaks on her own abuse a lot, surely she'd know that toddlers of Pearl's age probably 'whinge' because they're learning to regulate and express their emotions and need to be guided with this in a supportive way. By putting it on a daily to do list for her implies that they regularly tell her off for it, or tell her to just stop whinging.
Not that I'm saying that they're abusive towards her since I really don't think they are, or that anyone to ever tells their toddlers to please stop whinging is wrong, because it can be frustrating, but to put it on a list of things for her to do each day just seems a bit odd? Also she's 3, she doesn't have the cognitive capacity to focus on a goal that she has to keep up for the whole day, she needs small manageable tasks to build up her self esteem and sense of responsibility, like making her bed or putting away her toys.