I am able bodied. I have some sympathy for what she is saying. He had a choice to not use a wheelchair, that is contrary to her experience. She can’t just rise up and using grit and determination, she is paralysed. No amount of grit and determination will get her moving. The same will be true for many, probably the majority of wheelchair users. He also used the word lazy relying on a wheelchair. However, others have no choice and it can feed into a negative trope that some wheelchair uses are idle rather than needy.
But he is not a spokesperson for disabled issues in the same way that she is. He was just telling his story. He meant no harm. And Judi meant no harm either - she treated him the same way she would treat any other fit guy - a bit of a comedy leer - equality leering! If I were Judi I would be annoyed at that.
I think she might go on LW to talk about it. She will certainly be talking to production about it.
I quite like her. She can be snippy at time but no more than gobby Denise or moany Colleen. She has been dealt a hard set of cards to navigate life with and she is dealing with it magnificently. She has a good career plus she has global recognition as a leading figure dealing with disabilities, she was recently at a White House event.