Completely agree. If you applied this to a to someone who was addicted to say, heroin who had been clean for 2 years but then took a small dose, you wouldn’t still say they had been clean for 2 years would you?a) in my humble opinion it is wrong for someone who says they go to AA to say they have been sober for two years except for a “small relapse” (I mean what the duck is that? As soon as you take the first drink you’ve relapsed, just because you weren’t on a two-week bender doesn’t mean it counts less). I didn’t get sober at the first attempt and was in and out of AA for about two years before I stopped drinking but I’ll just add those two years on, they weren’t all life or death binges. She opened the AA door but continues to say stuff that goes against what AA is all about. I hate to think people who are thinking about going to AA take onboard what she says.
There is no shame in starting from day 1 again. Everyone knows it is difficult being an addict (in whatever form) and that is why there is support available.
But once again the universal standards for society do not apply to her.