Something that I have just been picking up on recently are certain vibes. I was in a relationship with someone a lot older when I was younger from about 2002-2006 and when you have no confidence you just go along with the relationship and act and believe the relationship is right. Why would you break up with that person because they are sensible and older? But then being with them could involve some things that could make it difficult.
thinking back on something that was over 15 years ago and I had forgotten. I was18 and going out with a35 year old who was emotionally abusive. He was smart and used to throw water in my face. It was a horrible tactic thankfully I left him 13 years ago and I had blocked most of it out.