To be honest don't actually know who he is, have maybe heard the name before but will definitely check him out now - the Scandinavian subject matter is of particular interest.OT but hey...why not with these heavy topics- Grayson Perry is great doing documentaries...the coven recently had a whole class system discussion and Grayson P. also did three episodes on class and it was done excellently I thought. He showed himself as very sweet and sensitive.
I hope not, but trial by twitter appears to be a thing.She has literally given so much away anyone who knows her and knows where she lives now know where this man lives. This could go very wrong. The only people who should know this information is the police and social services. The hit mob do not need to know
It is dangerous, I hope her army of flying monkeys or locals won't do anything horrible. She mentioned a certain type of car but it is not clear if the alleged person still drives that car (brand)...so someone might do something to someone else's car. Even if 'only' the tyres get pierced it could result in a terrible accident.I hope not, but trial by twitter appears to be a thing.
I am speaking from experience too. I have said things in upset, not the right frame of mind and felt awful after it.You’ve managed to put what I was thinking into words. My browser doesn’t seem to want to let me quote from two pages of the thread, but also what Lanie said about hoping she’s not done it in the middle of a breakdown and will regret it really hit home for me.
When I first disclosed to someone it was impulsive after being triggered by something someone else had said. The person I told was not the right person to tell at all, for a multitude of reasons, I worded it all incredibly badly and I had so much regret afterwards. I can’t imagine how amplified that would be if I’d declared it on Twitter for thousands of people. I don’t actually read her initial thread as planned, to me it sounds like she’s just typed and typed. The additions less so, those seem much more attention seeking.
I posted earlier that it was like Meghan and Harry's allegation of racism. A really, really serious matter, that deserves proper investigation, but going public without naming the person causes a shitstorm of speculation and ill-will, and crucially, it allows no right of reply, no justice. Whether deserved or not, it is a fiendish and devious revenge.The whole thing is very wierd. I don't know what to think. I wonder if SB's dad minds being discussed? He seems v private. I just think she seems to be revelling in it all now. Successfully taken attention away from a murdered woman.
I don't know if I believe her. Or do I? Whatever - she 100% should not be going about it this way. And almost identifying the man? A very dangerous path to take.
I do have a horrible cynical feeling she is angling for work.
Yes. Grayson and Philippa are capable of very nuanced introspection, I would trust them to handle any difficult subject sensitively.OT but hey...why not with these heavy topics- Grayson Perry is great doing documentaries...the coven recently had a whole class system discussion and Grayson P. also did three episodes on class and it was done excellently I thought. He showed himself as very sweet and sensitive.
I don't mean to single you out, as someone up-thread said this too, but this is a very damaging thing to say to or about a survivor of SA. It implies the onus is on them to report to prevent the abuser from doing it to someone else, which is false. The onus is on the abuser to not abuse people. Whether someone reports or not is entirely up to them, and the guilt of not reporting (and often the guilt of reporting) will weigh very heavily on some already laden shoulders.I have no doubt that parts off this may be true, however whether it is or not she needs help.
...surely you would want to make sure they couldn't do it to anyone else by reporting it again?
This is what I was trying to say, you’ve put it better than I did. It just feels like the way the whole series of tweets were written was for dramatic effect. Again, I’m not saying I don’t believe it. I just feel that there are a million other better ways that it could have been told.The twist reveal that the friend was SB’s dad felt icky. Twist implies plot.
Yes this absolutely. There’s just something about her tweets that feel so manipulative. Been feeling guilty all day about feeling that way about someone’s trauma!This is what I was trying to say, you’ve put it better than I did. It just feels like the way the whole series of tweets were written was for dramatic effect. Again, I’m not saying I don’t believe it. I just feel that there are a million other better ways that it could have been told.
Plus what if the 'wrong' primary school teacher is suspected? It's just utterly irresponsible. And also could prove highly prejudicial if it did actually come to trial couldn't it?I posted earlier that it was like Meghan and Harry's allegation of racism. A really, really serious matter, that deserves proper investigation, but going public without naming the person causes a shitstorm of speculation and ill-will, and crucially, it allows no right of reply, no justice. Whether deserved or not, it is a fiendish and devious revenge.
That happened where I am, a group of people beat up a paedophile to the point he was in hospital for a year before passing away. Except he wasn’t a paedophile, they got it completely wrong.She has outed someone who lives close to her parents, a former teacher with a description of his car. I am certain that people in her area will be curtain twitching at the moment and emotions running high. I just hope there is no vigilante mobs that take action into their own hands, things can take really terrible turns especially if people end up targeting the innocent.
I would love, just for once, and only because it's Jack who puts so much out into the public, to hear from one of the friends who was actually there. Where are they? Where have they always been? Just one time, see some support from one of these invisible friends"There's a lot more to this story"
"I've left out some of the more horrifying details"
I feel very weird about this. I can't quite articulate why, but it's this kind of "it's so so awful I can't discuss it" that seems to encourage filling in the blanks or something. She did the same thing when speaking about the ex-girlfriend who abused her during her pregnancy:
It wouldn’t be long, however, before everything escalated into the final incident, one Sam* says is so “specific and extreme” she does not feel she can talk about it without identifying those involved. The police were called, but it did not lead to a conviction, and years later, she remains afraid.
* she was anonymous in this article, but later revealed her identity.
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