The ‘losing and gaining the same 7llb‘ really resonates with me.
The weight thing makes me sad for her. I also spent 20 years losing and gaining the same 7llb and then my best friend died of cancer in 9 weeks and it made me realise that the biggest challenge for me was to find a balance between living my bleeping life and striving for the healthy, skinny body I will always want. I’m 5”9, 10 stone 7llb and about a size 12. I’ll always want to be a size 10 but have worked really bleeping hard on myself so that I know it’s more important to enjoy food and drink with my family and friends, have a drink on a Friday night, and generally not deprive myself.
Like Nicki, I suffered from PND with my kids and had to always be ‘doing’ and out at activities. To be fair, my kids are all teenagers now and I can recognise now that I did what I had to do get through and survive, and they’ve turned out ok! But I can absolutely see that i could have made life easier for myself and for them. I am much calmer now, more relaxed, let them follow their own interests and we have learnt and grown together in terms of understanding how to relax and spend quality time together. My husbands family are amazing and have taught mine how to play daft games and not have to be ‘doing’ all the time. I always thought their approach was a bit pointless (they have all sorts of ridiculous family games) but with maturity I have realised that in fact those ‘pointless’ activities and games at home are the ones they remember and the ones that matter the most in terms of actually bonding with your kids and forming a relationship with them. My own parents used to just sign me up for activities and I was a performing monkey really. I wonder if that’s what Nicki experienced so she doesn’t know any better?
Nicki has her priorities all wrong in my eyes. I would genuinely love to see her be more honest and relatable; she clearly doesn’t share her actual challenges and that’s a shame.
Thank you for coming to my ted talk.