I do feel sympathy and can’t be snarky, as I was sleep deprived at this time last year and was hallucinating it was so bad.
HOWEVER
I survived by going to stay with my parents for a few days at a time, meaning they could look after me and baby. I continued to breastfeed at night, but was able to have multiple naps to catch up while they took care of my son and cooked dinner etc.
If you had a supportive loving family nearby, which she clearly does, I don’t know why she would let it get this bad. I had my baby in lockdown, before the government thought to announce that you could have someone over to help if you had a baby, and the first month was so lonely that as soon as lockdowns eased and bubbles were introduced I jumped at the chance to have people help me.
Absolutely no one is expecting a new mother to single handedly do everything, she needs to use the support network around her