See, one of things I remember most about the whole Alex Day situation was that Carrie was really bad at victim blaming when it all came out. I understand she was relatively young (I want to say 19?) but her main issue seemed to be 'these girls slept with my boyfriend!' rather than 'my boyfriend coerced/bullied our friends into sleeping with him!', to the point of texting at least of the girls to chew her out
I don't remember if she ever apologised or acknowledged that what she did wasn't right (and maybe she did and grew from it) but that was the point where I started losing respect for her and it became difficult to regain it, especially with how she dealt with the Pete thing.
Obviously if she ever did feel unsafe in her relationship, that's not okay - but when you're a public figure, especially when your relationships have been as public as hers, you kinda don't get that luxury of only revealing what you want to afterwards. People were always going to guess identities, etc, and by trying to hide those aspects - yet also deliberately giving indirect hints such as liking correct 'guesses' - it almost made it seem a bit insincere. And I understand that's quite unfair to say because it's a really tricky and entirely unfair position to be in, where you can't only reveal what you feel comfortable with because everyone already knows too much... but withholding that level of honesty from your audience while still wanting the sympathy that comes from being honest makes it a lot harder to give that sympathy - if that all makes sense?