+1 to this. One of my fondest memories from the first year and a half of dating my partner (after that we moved in together) was the excitement when I'd get ready and go to meet up with him.
I was so giddy and couldn't wait to see him after a few days since I actually had the chance to miss him.
I can't imagine skipping all of that and going straight to my granny PJs and braids that make me look like Pippi Longstocking. You take away some of the magic by skipping steps. No wonder they're so bitter and unhappy.
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I'm not saying being at home in your cozy PJs with your partner is sad, I love that too. There's just a time for everything and relationships go through stages for a reason.
Also I know someone else said this but WTF !! Inviting a stranger into your home is scary and reckless. Doesn't matter that you've seen them around.
I've had a colleague that I worked with everyday for years that turned out to be rapist. Seeing someone occasionally and the fact that no one said anything bad about them means nothing.
Carrie was lucky that Joel turned out to be ok, but that doesn't make her actions less dumb and dangerous. There are loads of scary stories out there.