Oh my goodness, thank you for saying all this because I feel so similarly and I find it very hard to be open about. I have always had a very hard time with work and my confidence is absolutely battered.
I’m fed up of being at home with the kids all the time and I would love to find something that works for me. I’m terrified of not being able to cope though, I feel like such a crap grown up!
I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
I am so glad I’m not alone but so sorry you’ve had the same struggles. Can relate to every word. I felt a bit nervous about sharing because there’s a bit of stigma attached to admitting that you struggle with working, I think some people assume you’re looking for excuses not to work, but I’m glad people on this thread get where I’m coming from. I wish I was one of those people who just got on with work and didn’t let it overwhelm them. Life would be so much easier, we’d have more money, I’d be setting a better example to my kids, I’d worry less about the future regarding pensions etc.
You’re definitely not alone. I have been at home with kids for 6 years after a lifetime of random jobs that don’t make anything approaching a cohesive CV. 6 months here, a year there, no progression or obvious timeline and no real skills acquired on the way. A mish mash of everything. I wish I could just write at the top ‘I used to be a shambles but actually I take strong medication that helps and could probably do what you asked me to if you gave me a chance.’
Literally me. My limit for most jobs is, or was back before kids, about 3 months. After that I tend to start crumbling and getting awful anxiety that would just get worse and worse. Longest I’ve stayed in a job was 9 months and that was because it was temp contract and knew there was an end point. I started to genuinely hate the place towards the end though and it was a struggle to see it through. Felt so ungrateful because it was a decent job and I was lucky to get the experience, but I just hated it to the point of tears every day.
Definitely not alone. I quit my job a couple of weeks ago because I couldn't cope. Again. Sometimes all I get done in a day is the school runs and that's because I literally have to. I constantly feel like I'm lazy and a tit excuse for a human being. Today is the first day this week I haven't gone back to bed after the school run and even that feels like an achievement. Is anyone else constantly exhausted?
I've got an interview on Monday for a job which is only 4 hour long shifts so I'm hoping if I get it, it will be manageable. Will be a big drop in pay from my last job but my thinking is that its better to do a job I can carry on with rather than keep getting burnt out and quitting.
Good luck with your interview. 4 hour shifts definitely sounds like the sort of hours I could cope with. I find long shifts so daunting.
I do the thing where I go back to bed after the school run too, and yes the school run/kid care is literally all I get done in a day too only because like you say it has to be done. It’s such a bad habit I’ve gotten into but sometimes I either can’t deal with all the things I need to do around the house that day or feel terribly depressed so I hide away. Which of course makes everything worse and makes me feel worse, yet I never learn.
It was scary bringing up the work thing I must admit, it’s not something I’ve seen talked about a lot so I honestly thought I was alone in feeling like this and that people would tell me I needed to suck it up and stop being lazy. I’m glad people can relate but it really sucks we feel like this in the first place and it affects our lives so much.