Basically reiterating what
@Definitelyme is saying but instead of saying the screaming makes you sad try something like “We don’t hit/scream/insert behaviour here, that is NOT ok. I see you’re really frustrated/angry/upset because of *insert thing that’s making them sad*. It’s ok to feel frustrated/angry/upset. Why don’t we try and do something else to take your mind off it or we can come back again another time” etc, you get the jist. They will more than likely always keep having said tantrum (because 2 year olds are the devil reincarnated
) but as they get bigger they’ll be able to understand their emotions a bit more and regulate them and tell you they’re feeling said emotion rather than tantruming. I’m already starting to see the benefit of this technique with my 2yo and certainly with my 3.10yo.
I have no advice for the actual screaming though, I usually just give them a cuddle if they let me and if not I say ok, I see you feel that way, let it out and once you’ve calmed down we can cuddle if you’d like.
I think there’s a huge difference between tantruming because they can’t regulate their behaviour/emotion and actually being naughty. Don’t tell them off if they can’t express their feelings, obviously do tell them off if they hit/throw things etc because they need to know that affects others!
(just wanted to edit to say that I know this technique sounds massively wanky but I too was shocked to find shouting my head off all day because my 2yo was being a dick did not work and did in fact just make us both unhappy
who knew !!!!)