We have an ikea kura bed which we used as a floor bed with a frame (like below) and now at 6 he uses it as his ābunk bedā. When we introduced it at 20 months that was his move to his bedroom, before that we had 100% cosleptNever actually thought of this! Thank you! Will show my hubby and might give it a go
No I donāt agree with it really. When I say cry it out I literally stepped away from the door I was still upstairs and 2 steps away and didnāt leave him for longer than 2 mins. He got so upset .. thereās no way they are going to go asleep when theyāre that upset. Iāve heard good things about floor beds too. Weāre thinking of getting one. Co sleeping is hard work I feel like I donāt always get a good nights sleep but In his own room i was up about 4 times a night trying to get him back down for long periods of time. I have a physical job so I need sleep to functionNever actually thought of this! Thank you! Will show my hubby and might give it a go
I know what you mean! Some of my friends/family said I should just let him cry it out etc but I don't have it in me to do that! Just doesn't sit right with me letting him cry himself to sleep!
Chances are, it isnāt a learned behaviour but a genuine display of emotion. It isnāt anything you are doing wrong.
that is very helpful, thank you!
I think this is so perfectly put, and love it. I struggle to remember this at times, and the reminder is always welcome so thank you
I had mine but it was last January (although that was in a lockdown). They look at gross motor skills, fine motor skills, speech, they usually ask mine to do puzzles/blocks to see how they interact with materials given, they chat about eating, sleeping and potty training. I think they weigh and measure too but my then 2yo point blank refused to get on the scales so we didnāt bother.Has everybody had a 2 year review for their toddlers?
We saw our health visitor a grand total of once during lockdown and never had any interaction since. Just been invited for a 2 year review but Iām at work and I canāt be bothered waiting in on my day off for them to be honest as itās our day together and we go out and do fun things so Iām going to cancel it. Am I actually missing anything? I have no concerns about my little one
Mine was on my due date in December. He was 2 in the September. To be honest, it was such a waste of time. It was so much better with my daughter (12) and my son (6) I was looking forward to it, and showing the HV what he could do, but she didnāt really do much. Asked me a couple of questions, I told her he was under review for his ears, she didnāt mention speech therapy, and we were out after not even 10 minutesHas everybody had a 2 year review for their toddlers?
We saw our health visitor a grand total of once during lockdown and never had any interaction since. Just been invited for a 2 year review but Iām at work and I canāt be bothered waiting in on my day off for them to be honest as itās our day together and we go out and do fun things so Iām going to cancel it. Am I actually missing anything? I have no concerns about my little one
I had mine for my son and it was a waste of time all about a tick box sheet which bothers me anyway as I donāt think all children should be compared to a tick box as they learn/develop at their own pace. Think my appointment was over in 10mins if you have no concerns thatās the main thingHas everybody had a 2 year review for their toddlers?
We saw our health visitor a grand total of once during lockdown and never had any interaction since. Just been invited for a 2 year review but Iām at work and I canāt be bothered waiting in on my day off for them to be honest as itās our day together and we go out and do fun things so Iām going to cancel it. Am I actually missing anything? I have no concerns about my little one
We never got a 2 year reviewHas everybody had a 2 year review for their toddlers?
We saw our health visitor a grand total of once during lockdown and never had any interaction since. Just been invited for a 2 year review but Iām at work and I canāt be bothered waiting in on my day off for them to be honest as itās our day together and we go out and do fun things so Iām going to cancel it. Am I actually missing anything? I have no concerns about my little one
Aw, thank you. I wish I was as well put together when itās actually happening! Anger was, and is, the bit I struggle with most, it used to so upset me when they were smaller and it was always in public too! DH is captain cool, calm and collected with it (I think years of being in the army has worked some kind of magic
). But I try and think that Iāve had plenty of āungraciousā moments in my adult life, and if someone was ignoring me, telling me to just calm down or shouting at me back, it probably wouldnāt have helped or ended well.Oh gosh this is the exact same in our house! My husband is Mr Chilled, so laid back, and I am very quick to anger which has unfortunately passed on to the kidsAw, thank you. I wish I was as well put together when itās actually happening! Anger was, and is, the bit I struggle with most, it used to so upset me when they were smaller and it was always in public too! DH is captain cool, calm and collected with it (I think years of being in the army has worked some kind of magic
(Secretly mentally prepping myself for the teenage anger we have lined up to start in the house in the next few yearsā¦)
my husband often mumbles āI dread when she (my eldest, very like me in all ways) is a teenagerā 
My daughter is the double of me. She scowls just like me tooOh gosh this is the exact same in our house! My husband is Mr Chilled, so laid back, and I am very quick to anger which has unfortunately passed on to the kids
Iāve got a photo of us both scowling and itās so alike Her Dad says how sheās a nightmare at times and itās cos sheās half mine Iām gunna have it when sheās a teenager. Iām dreading it already! But I have to admit the temper tantrums are very few and far between since I started āgentle parentingā.. my dad was always a shouter and could never really reason with us and thought shouting made it better etc, I always used to say shouting makes it worse. And it does! I try and not raise my voice but just be stern with what I say. Seems to work. Obviously every child is different so what works for us might not work for anyone else very well.Kids, especially at her age, learn so much through play. And although they're just "playing" it's actually supper beneficial to them.So just wondering, how much do you get out with your toddler. For instance- in my case itās just myself & my daughter who is 2. She goes to nursery Monday&Tuesdays and Wednesday and Thursday sheās at home with me. I always feel like I have to be out and about with her, at toddler groups etc.. and she enjoys them. Fridays she goes to a family members as I work (to save nursery fees too).. atleast once a month we go to the zoo (annual pass). I split the weekend with her Dad, so on the day we might go to the park or on the swings, or go for a walk in the woods etc. She has lots of toys and plays with them too at home so sheās never really bored.
I try and have one morning where we chill and just do nothing.. I feel like I do too much with her though compared to other mums on my Facebook. I just feel guilty when we are inside not doing a great deal and sheās stuck in front of the tv. The reason for my post is Iāve just gotten over covid and weāve been pretty much housebound and sheās not been as bored as I thought she would be
How much do you do outside/groups with your toddler?
Thank you, reassuring! I just get mum guilt if sheās āstuck insideā, but saying that we go on holiday next week so Iām wanting a few chill days too! It got to the point were she did Mon&Tues nursery, wednesday toddler sense, thursday farm school and Friday she would be outside most of the day with family if weather was nice! I got to a point were I thought canāt do this anymore Iām as tired as she isKids, especially at her age, learn so much through play. And although they're just "playing" it's actually supper beneficial to them.
The more they're left to play by themselves and not entertained, the more they tend to learn
We don't go out that often, apart from for a walk or something just to get some fresh air and they're very happy to just be playing inside
Lockdown taught me they didn't need to be out doing things all the time and were actually more content just inside playing
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My daughter loves being outside. Even when itās snowing or lashing it down she wants to be out. I agree - if we go even to the zoo I get us an ice cream and a fridge magnet all adds upNappies
