and Dad took me out for breakie which was really nice
the way she says it is hilarious
I was in a similar situation, my partners Uncle who see a lot is a proper judgemental dickhead. I was a sahm and he’d make comments about me just ‘relaxing at home’ ‘not paying my way in life’ bla bla bla. Asked me if I have a job yet everytime I seen him. I did get a job, I’m a healthcare assistant in a nursing home and when i told him i got a job he told me it weren’t a proper jobHello all! I haven’t posted in these threads for a while, my kid is 2 next month somehow, but I need to rant somewhere, so I apologise.
I quit my job last year as I wasn’t ready to return (they were dickheads and I’d rather spend my time with my son) and fortunately, my husband earns enough.
My toddler started nursery a couple days a week at 18 months, so I’ve been looking for a job since then, got to the final stages to a few of them but haven’t been successful. Anyway, I’ve been feeling really shit and borderline depressed about this, and I’ve had a few comments from people (men) that have made me feel even shitter.
Brother: ‘You not got a job yet?’ Me: ‘yeah, being a mother’ Brother: ‘Easiest job ever.’
Dad: ‘You got a job yet?’ Me: ‘No.’ Dad: ‘Lazy sod.’
A dad who lives local: ‘Any luck on the job front, or are you just chilling?’
What do I say back to these twats? Has really put in perspective how little people (men) think of mothers.
dunno how that works cos a job is a job but it tipped me over the edge cos i’m proud of my job and what i do so i told him to fuck off and mind his own business he’s not said anything since. It may not be ideal to say exactly that but just stick up for yourself and say you are trying to do what is best for you and your child, and it’s non of their business. The right thing for you will come when it’s the right time. Good luck 
My 5yo is going through the death obsession stage due to one of our neighbours sadly passing away just before Christmas. My partner and I weren't sure how to broach this especially as we don't believe in an afterlife. We kept everything as factual as we could, based on articles we found on the Cbeebies website. But we still worry about whether we said the wrong thing or not. He does ask questions about whether someone would die if they were hit by a car or if a plane crashed and I just reply very factual to say yes, that could result in someone dying then try to move the conversation onto something else. It’s so frustrating when you know something is just done with you.
Maybe waking her up to pee during the night is a better idea than limiting drinks in a hot country?i don’t know, maybe! When we went to Haven in April she was in pull ups and she was dry at night so if I compared the two I just seem to think it’s the excess fluids she’s having that are causing bed wetting. My friend just said to limit drinks from 4pm and make sure she goes for lots of wees between tea and bedtimeshe’s just woke up and her pull up is full to the brim of wee and the beds wet. I’m actually shocked at how much wee one child can produce
Standards for everything seem to be higher for babies and children than adult - sleeping, eating, behaviour, weight - there are people who genuinely seem to expect them to be tiny robots that eat/sleep/behave better than adults. They’re kids ffs have a day off
Girl I have two arses to change, they shit in sync, I've not the time to be taking 4 legs outta two pairs of pantsThey are so expensive, for less nappies
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Yer. I think @WhatABore thought you meant pants as in underwear
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WHAT?! You’re being a silly sausage now
That sounds really rough for you both. You seem to be blaming yourself, thinking it’s something you’ve done, but please don’t. You cannot stop a meltdown, and it’s not a time you can get through to a child. You just need to give her a safe space to ride it out. Tell her “I’m here if you need me” and stay close. If she’s lashing out “I won’t let you hurt me, I’ll be in the other room if you need me”.Really struggling with my 3.5 year old and her behaviour. It’s just the two of us at home and she attends nursery full time 4 days a week (and has done since she was 10 months).
She doesn’t listen to me. At all. It’s like I’m not in the room. Ignores everything I say. Lashes out if she can’t get her own way. A few moments ago she put a cat toy on my leg and the cat immediately jumped on my legs with his claws out, she does this all the time knowing what the cat will do. She throws things and hits me during these rages too. I don’t get where she’s learning it, I monitor her screen time, I tend to follow a gentle parenting style (where possible). I don’t know how to stop the meltdown/rage episodes once they start. It’s getting where I’m scared to take her anywhere through fear of it happening in public
My daughter is always smiling and happy at nursery and I’m constantly told she’s had a great day and then it starts as soon as in the car on the way home, the crying and whining. I think she holds in her big feelings all day and then explodes when she’s home in a safe place with me.
going to have to spend the morning at the park now instead 
Thank you. I was half expecting them to suggest it based on their feedback on how hard it is to get her to follow the rules there. I think I’m just feeling a bit worried about the next steps and don’t want to feel like I’m forcing a label on her. She’s always been strong willed and an “orchid” type of child. She needs a lot of nurturing which has been my privilege to provide. I guess it’s just scary now she’s going out into the world and not getting that understanding. Having a diagnosis will help with that, I’m just feeling a bit overwhelmed now it’s finally on the table.
Leaving a kid in nappies when they are dry because they can’t be bothered to change wet sheets is awful. There are mats you can put on a bed or even get a waterproof bed sheet
As @Definitelyme says, anyone commenting on a child's weight is a dick head in the first place.
Oh they were very, very wrong! Sure even myself I’m all happy smiley lovely colleague at work all day. I get home and I’m so grumpy
