Fucking hellWe live on a busy street that’s for a school at the top. One morning a few weeks ago, I opened the front door and mimi A went running near the road (thankfully a car wasn’t coming flying down) this is the only time in her life she’s ever ran near the road. Usually she stops and says “check for cars mummy” ….. the time she went near the road I absolutely went mad. To the point where she cried. I used harsh language like “do you want to die?”.. I made it clear she could get hit by a car and potentially die. Scaring her to a point where she knew she shouldn’t have done it worked.
also - if we are in Asda or anywhere else and it’s busy and she goes to run off, again I say things like “do not run off somebody could take you and then I’d never see you again” (abit dramatic I know although it doesn’t happen but she stops doing it..!!!!)
I think you need to sit him down and explain what may happen if he runs off and it’s not safe etc, or can you say to him if he runs off he’s going on reins?
Yeah, I wouldn't expect a toddler or anyone under 6 for that matter to understand that they needed to wait until I'd slept so they could have their tea.Rant alert why are kids such entitled A holes sometimes. Busy day with swimming, clubs etc etc. at 4 o clock I said I just want a quiet half hour to have a snooze, so go up to the bed. Eldest comes with me to put YouTube on, crack on I say but be quiet. I doze off and she wakes me up for snoring. FFS try again, she wakes me again. I reiterate that I’m not cooking dinner til I’ve had my half hour and the more she keeps waking me the longer it’ll be.
safe to say I didn’t get a kip and it’s now 5:30.I can’t bring myself to cook as I’m too bloody knackered so it’s toast and yoghurt all round then bath and in bed for all of us by half sixjust why can’t they grasp the simplest of instructions. An uninterrupted nap and I’d have been a different person
Be really kind to yourself. We all know that losing our shit isn’t the way we want to parent. We know it’s not a good way to deal with things.Anybody else suffer with massive mum guilt?
3yo had the biggest tantrum today and I lost my shit after a really shit day just not listening or doing anything as told. But now they’re in bed I’m sat down and want to cry. I am pregnant so v hormonal and emotional but I don’t want to be a mum who shouts and loses my shit. Going to hope for a better day tomorrow and work on myself. I feel so crap I crept into the bedroom to give a kiss on the forehead and felt so sad![]()
I see a lot of my younger self in you. I was a single parent when my daughter turned 1 until I met my husband not long after her 4th birthday, and those days were tough, and the worst days of my life. Please remember she is still only little. Asking her if she wants to die, will put the fear of God her, and she honestly doesn’t need to be hearing it so young. Even if it works and she doesn’t do it again
its harsh langague but if it scares her she wouldn’t ever do it again.
And it’s true she could be taken - it happens!
I agree. I can’t believe someone would threaten a 6yo (still a baby!) that their access to food is being withheld until they get what they want. I’m actually in disbelief, haven’t ever heard anything like it.I'd apologise to your 6yo![]()
Not sure wanting food makes someone (who has no way to access food themselves) entitled or an arsehole tbh. Obviously we all do things differently but I cannot imagine Ever telling my kids to shush and go hungry because I want a nap. To me, that would make ME the entitled arsehole.Rant alert why are kids such entitled A holes sometimes. Busy day with swimming, clubs etc etc. at 4 o clock I said I just want a quiet half hour to have a snooze, so go up to the bed. Eldest comes with me to put YouTube on, crack on I say but be quiet. I doze off and she wakes me up for snoring. FFS try again, she wakes me again. I reiterate that I’m not cooking dinner til I’ve had my half hour and the more she keeps waking me the longer it’ll be.
safe to say I didn’t get a kip and it’s now 5:30.I can’t bring myself to cook as I’m too bloody knackered so it’s toast and yoghurt all round then bath and in bed for all of us by half sixjust why can’t they grasp the simplest of instructions. An uninterrupted nap and I’d have been a different person
How old are your kidsRant alert why are kids such entitled A holes sometimes. Busy day with swimming, clubs etc etc. at 4 o clock I said I just want a quiet half hour to have a snooze, so go up to the bed. Eldest comes with me to put YouTube on, crack on I say but be quiet. I doze off and she wakes me up for snoring. FFS try again, she wakes me again. I reiterate that I’m not cooking dinner til I’ve had my half hour and the more she keeps waking me the longer it’ll be.
safe to say I didn’t get a kip and it’s now 5:30.I can’t bring myself to cook as I’m too bloody knackered so it’s toast and yoghurt all round then bath and in bed for all of us by half sixjust why can’t they grasp the simplest of instructions. An uninterrupted nap and I’d have been a different person
I'd apologise to your 6yoYeah sorry I’m just tired and aggy![]()
I took my daughter to the toilet before her ballet class today as she said she needed to go. Apparently it was “just a few farts as I dont want to hurt anyone’s nose”. I mean don’t mind me squatting here holding you on‘Maybe we don’t sniff other people’s privates’ - a sentence I never thought I’d have to say![]()
I agree. I certainly don’t want my children to be ruled by fear at all, especially fear of death. I think that’s absolutely crazy, personally.Is scaring the right thing to do![]()