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I took a look at her latest video, many, many things that she is saying makes no sense:
She said she didn't call her Surgeon because it was late when she got home from the Hospital. Okay, but why didn't she mention the Bleeding while AT the Hospital??? Does she think only the Surgeon can help? And, the staff would have reached out to her Surgeon to let him know; so she didn't have to go another night with questionable bleeding.
She keeps mentioning that the blood may be from the Chemo/radiation/meds, but none of that makes sense either, and if she just called the office, she would know!

Denial is based on knowledge, but stupidity is based on ignorance! As almost everyone has mentioned here, she's hoping it'll just go away.

Odd that she's mentioning about VlogMass, because didn't she say in another video not too long ago that she can't make plans because she's unwell?
She said she feels like December is the last month...... ya, because it is!!! lol

What I find odd with her too, is praying in front of the camera. I think Prayer is personal, and it always sat kind of wrong with me. That's probably just me.

Blah, Blah, Blah... about her favorite shows

Then she says: "I just want to say thank you to you who see's a comment that isn't very nice and you will write Block and Delete, tick, tick, tick. Honestly, thank you so much, like sometimes I feel bad blocking these people, but it's good to get rid of any negativity, towards this channel and us." By negativity, she means honesty, and from the very people who helped build her channel.

It makes her happy to go through the comments for support, and helping each other. How is she helping others??? There's no honesty on her channels besides the color of the T-Shirt she is wearing that day!

Sorry it's so long. I watched this one with a good friend who is a Surgical Nurse and she shook her head all the way through, and agrees, that something is not adding up. Doctors/Specialists aren't that incompetent. She also reiterated that all Doctors can be reached especially Oncologists when a Patient is going through treatment, and Royal Marsden has some of the Best in the world.
I had surgery a few years ago for endometriosis and I could always get through to my surgeons office if I had any questions. My doctor also was able to contact him when a question arose and heard back from the surgeon quite quickly.

I am actually wondering if the surgeon dropped her? Wasn't he the only surgeon to offer to do the surgery?
Something isn't adding up.

Also, I actually think Tiffany looks quite ill in her latest video.
 
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I had surgery a few years ago for endometriosis and I could always get through to my surgeons office if I had any questions. My doctor also was able to contact him when a question arose and heard back from the surgeon quite quickly.

I am actually wondering if the surgeon dropped her? Wasn't he the only surgeon to offer to do the surgery?
Something isn't adding up.

Also, I actually think Tiffany looks quite ill in her latest video.
If the surgeon has changed his mind about proceeding with surgery for Tiffany, then she sure is too daft to get it if he tried to ever gently let her know/down by giving her options. Her medical team as well. They need to tell it to her as is, in her face. They might already have done so, to her dismay, and that's why she's confused, because as most have said here, she tends to lean toward the belief that she has no more cancer. Many are careful to not declare the death sentence to their patients when undergoing treatments, because there is also that human spirit that may surpass the expectations of what man can/cannot do.

And yes, in this era we are living in, it's relatively easy to reach your primary care provider, phone call, text messages, email, etc. Which goes to show she's rather passive about pursuing any of those options.
 
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I didn't watch more than 5 minutes of yesterday's video but did she mention any follow up calls or appointments with the mental health team?she badly needs their help in my opinion but will probably do nothing to follow up on it
 
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I didn't watch more than 5 minutes of yesterday's video but did she mention any follow up calls or appointments with the mental health team?she badly needs their help in my opinion but will probably do nothing to follow up on it
I haven't watched for a couple of weeks now. I can't bear to! I rely on fellow Tattlers. Thank you for taking the bullet.
 
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I didn't watch more than 5 minutes of yesterday's video but did she mention any follow up calls or appointments with the mental health team?she badly needs their help in my opinion but will probably do nothing to follow up on it
No word from her on it since her Letters fr Hospital vid, in which she said she would call to make the appointment now, and it cut to the next scene of talking. I assumed she did call, because there shouldn't be a reason to lie when she said she would call. I understand it could also be a over the phone kind of counselling session, if not in person. Doubt she will update, seeing that she has other priorities in mind.
 
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I didn't watch more than 5 minutes of yesterday's video but did she mention any follow up calls or appointments with the mental health team?
No, she didn't.
It seems she thinks after her next scans it all will be over and that she's almost healthy - she said "i have a little bit of the journey left and i need to complete it".
 
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No, she didn't.
It seems she thinks after her next scans it all will be over and that she's almost healthy - she said "i have a little bit of the journey left and i need to complete it".
she has oddly always thought that, from the start I don’t think she’s truly ever grasped how serious her situation is. The whole ‘I’m going to do my boomerang’ thing and the just a little bit more to do. I truly have nothing against her, however the whole thing is really bloody frustrating.
 
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Possibly someone who is potentially addictive in their nature and has already used work and income to mask things.

From what I’ve seen of Tiffany she definitely has a leaning to being addictive.
I do think she's handled exposure to morphine very responsibly (besides the driving experiment given morphine can have a long half life). But, it has not led to her using it more than is needed or developing a dependency on it. I have not seen a lot of justifications or excuses given to when or how often she uses it.

I used to sympathise with her situation. However, now I think that she’s cunning and acting stupid (to gain more pity and views) when she already knows everything abt her case. If she’s cancer free, she should throw the boomerang like she said. If she still has cancer, then she needs to do something or die prematurely. Surely her family and relatives should be more informed and could advise her on the right direction she should go.
Yes, I am trying to take into consideration how putting an audience in front of someone changes their own narrative. I think a camera can make it hard to admit when one is wrong, to vocalize a change to worsening, to resistance to post about a treatment plan that is in contrast with what subs are advocating for, etc. All this affects what she shows and even the prism in which she understands information. It can all have a powerful impact.

I thought at first this might be really good news (didn't it sound like it initially when she left the surgeon's office with Matt). Yet, they both seemed guarded, confused. She seemed genuinely shocked by the avalanche of input by subs that she get the surgery. That has turned into vagueness and a resistance to clarifying exactly what the situation actually is. And now a protracted delay.

And to stop labelling videos with things like 'blood and mucus' too.
Yes she is not very bright overall and no common sense but she is calculating in terms of youtube. She literally asks her viewers whether they watch her videos from start to finish (!!!) She might as well just ask them to not skip ads in her videos 😅
Someone on here suggested that she should do separate videos about the cancer and separate about her silly activities so that we can just watch the cancer stuff. She will never do it as she knows that cancer is what pulls people in. That's why she never fails to put the word 'cancer' in her titles along with something overly dramatic instead of putting 'My silly ramblings about christmas trees, cozy socks, jumpers, darling Matt, and other foolishness'.
Yes she might reveal something on Thursday but it will be vague and confusing (as is she). It will last a couple of minutes and the rest will be about cooking, Matt, the garden centre ...
It's when I see this kind of manipulation, or her pulling influencer tricks ("let me know if you watch this til the end"), her video titles or her inputting the food delivery service or her repetitive WGT merch promos, I realize she is strategizing content from a commercial perspective too. And not haphazardly either, it is quite calculated and multifaceted. So, I tend to be less apt to give her the benefit of the doubt and I view the opacity and lack of clarity more suspiciously now.

Either she's afraid to publically admit a change in status because she's embarrassed or she feels it impacts people's perception of her (I have noticed she's been extremely vague about any discussion about what the proposed pelvic exenteration actually involves). Or, she feels clarifying will somehow affect viewership #'s, however she calculates that, and her popularity/revenue stream. Sadly, she's made clear how important that is to her, so it must also be taken into consideration when analyzing her behaviour.

I would think if the news was that there is NED, she would be shouting this from the rooftops, even if not quite ready to do the boomerang dance! Even if it wasn't that spectacular, but still very promising news...why wouldn't she be expressing great excitement over this dramatic change in status? Why oh why has Tiffany now become vague and nonresponsive?

That is the question: will tomorrow's video be any more illuminating, or just more of the same? Sadly, I think she's trying to transition viewers to be as enthusiastic and supportive of her life videos as her cancer journey.

I am quite resentful that she pleads poverty but flaunts her ugg slippers, coffee machines and smeg kettles amonst other things. I can't afford those (not that I would waste that amount of money anyway) and we are helping her buy them.
You can't take it with you Tiffany!!!!
Like others, I am just not that interested in watching her open gifts, arrange her house, what she's wearing or eating. She's losing her audience inputting such materialism (this is NOT a segment of Fine House & Homes!). Small fillers were fine, but when they are the majority of content or repetitive, I am no longer all in.

And when they are cinematically remixed with music, I become even less so, it is not making the content more interesting for me at all. I wonder why she's spending so much time editing her videos and trying to improve the entertainment value. They're supposed to be about her cancer journey, not making her cancer journey into as cinematically an emotional experience as she is capable of producing! THAT approach definitely influences what she presents and how she presents it. That is exactly what so much of her community does NOT want to happen, the method affecting the content itself!
 
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Does anyone remember seeing the video of an older woman who wrote and sang a song for Tiffany? Tiff posted the YT link in an IG story last week maybe but it disappeared. Tiff hasn’t mentioned it since.
It was so sad that she fell for Tiffany like so many others who get strung along week after week.


My bad: She didn't write the song for Tiffany, she dedicated one she previously wrote to her.
This is so funny but also sad. Poor lady even wearing that awful jumper with the most unoriginal slogan. Tiffany completely brainwashed some really vulnerable and kind-hearted people.
 
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This is so funny but also sad. Poor lady even wearing that awful jumper with the most unoriginal slogan. Tiffany completely brainwashed some really vulnerable and kind-hearted people.
Wow, I didn't even realise she was wearing it till you pointed it out. I am going mad, as well as blind!:eek: Her merch have reached far and wide. Viable business...
 
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I took a look at her latest video, many, many things that she is saying makes no sense:
She said she didn't call her Surgeon because it was late when she got home from the Hospital. Okay, but why didn't she mention the Bleeding while AT the Hospital??? Does she think only the Surgeon can help? And, the staff would have reached out to her Surgeon to let him know; so she didn't have to go another night with questionable bleeding.
She keeps mentioning that the blood may be from the Chemo/radiation/meds, but none of that makes sense either, and if she just called the office, she would know!

Denial is based on knowledge, but stupidity is based on ignorance! As almost everyone has mentioned here, she's hoping it'll just go away.

Odd that she's mentioning about VlogMass, because didn't she say in another video not too long ago that she can't make plans because she's unwell?
She said she feels like December is the last month...... ya, because it is!!! lol

What I find odd with her too, is praying in front of the camera. I think Prayer is personal, and it always sat kind of wrong with me. That's probably just me.

Blah, Blah, Blah... about her favorite shows

Then she says: "I just want to say thank you to you who see's a comment that isn't very nice and you will write Block and Delete, tick, tick, tick. Honestly, thank you so much, like sometimes I feel bad blocking these people, but it's good to get rid of any negativity, towards this channel and us." By negativity, she means honesty, and from the very people who helped build her channel.

It makes her happy to go through the comments for support, and helping each other. How is she helping others??? There's no honesty on her channels besides the color of the T-Shirt she is wearing that day!

Sorry it's so long. I watched this one with a good friend who is a Surgical Nurse and she shook her head all the way through, and agrees, that something is not adding up. Doctors/Specialists aren't that incompetent. She also reiterated that all Doctors can be reached especially Oncologists when a Patient is going through treatment, and Royal Marsden has some of the Best in the world.
Very true. In yesterday's vlog she was like 'I know nothing and I'm so so confused'. She was telling us about the bleeding and the mucus (this is the first time she mentioned it) and she was saying she has no idea what it's all about BUT she just had a meeting with her oncology team prior to that. Didn't she ask them about this issue? It's like she is living in a bubble and no knowledge reaches her.
And absolutely she is not helping anyone with the same type of cancer. The information was never complete and never clear. Even her symptoms videos were done so chaotically after people kept asking for months. She eventually did a few vlogs about it but it was so unhelpful and brief and nothing beyond what all of us already know the symptoms would be (tummy pain, bleeding, weight loss) and instead of providing further information which may help someone, she made those videos about "How she told her family members about the cancer'! How does that help anyone or even interest anyone? She dragged that out for several useless vlogs. Just shows she doesn't care about her 'youtube family'. She only wants to film what is entertaining to her.

'What I find odd with her too, is praying in front of the camera. I think Prayer is personal, and it always sat kind of wrong with me. That's probably just me'. - it's not just you. Her praying in the car (for Amma, Matt AND her youtube family) is very bizarre and not accidental or spontaneous (yes I know she is catholic). She does it to pander to the religious demographic (She probably does this prayer even when not filming but the fact that she leaves this bit when editing says volumes). Notice all the messages of thoughts and prayers in her comments and people saying a miraculous cure happened because of all the prayers.
 
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I didn't watch more than 5 minutes of yesterday's video but did she mention any follow up calls or appointments with the mental health team?she badly needs their help in my opinion but will probably do nothing to follow up on it
She said that all of her appointments are booked except for the Biopsy. No mention of a Mental Health appointment.
 
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As a (very lapsed) catholic- that sort of attention seeking praying is not the norm.
 
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As a (very lapsed) catholic- that sort of attention seeking praying is not the norm.
I feel a lot of Tiffany's behaviour is not the norm. She keeps surprising and shocking everyone. Like she is from another planet.
 
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In the vlog ‘Cancer can spread’ she actually says she wants people to be blunt with her, to not sugar coat it and to tell it as it is, she likes the fact that the Tiffanythinks family says it as they see it! So what changed? I’m still so cross with her over that stunt she pulled.
 
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she has oddly always thought that, from the start I don’t think she’s truly ever grasped how serious her situation is. The whole ‘I’m going to do my boomerang’ thing and the just a little bit more to do. I truly have nothing against her, however the whole thing is really bloody frustrating.
Yeah, that’s my view too. She never accepted having cancer so this spiral into total bozo miracle-cure denial makes sense. Not that I can’t empathize, but it is the first time I’ve seen someone so disconnected from their own life. It’s really weird but I think it’s a combo of her not being bright anyway then getting a brutal cancer that requires moderate intelligence and emotional independence to tackle.

There are some new people here that think she’s exaggerating her cancer but we did hear the doctor say she has t4b on video so I’m pretty sure it’s terminal and she’s not grasping the different, gentle ways she’s been told. I know doctors can break it to a patient softly or harshly but since they referred her to mental health more than once, I’m guessing they would break it to her softly. If she’s really in that intense denial and ignorant, then she might be hearing “there’s nothing more we can do“ as “you’re cured”.
 
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I feel a lot of Tiffany's behaviour is not the norm. She keeps surprising and shocking everyone. Like she is from another planet.
Yes, that's what I mean about the method (videotaping) affecting the message (what she posts). I so relate to seeing Matt and Amma visibly appear to shrink away when they see the camera is on now. I can't imagine how hard it is for others to have the camera always on, even walking down the street. It must feel so awkward and very tiring. It sure looks it.

I cannot even imagine what kind of book Tiffany is writing. I don't know what she has to offer others: how to be blindly ignorant to reality and choose to play in sandboxes instead?
 
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Yes, that's what I mean about the method (videotaping) affecting the message (what she posts). I so relate to seeing Matt and Amma visibly appear to shrink away when they see the camera is on now. I can't imagine how hard it is for others to have the camera always on, even walking down the street. It must feel so awkward and very tiring. It sure looks it.
Hey suzeq. Just want to say your posts have been awesome to read. You’re really good at making observations both close-up and from 10,000 feet. So glad you joined. You’re right on the money every time.
 
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Awww...thanks! I am so grateful to this venue which allows me to vent (apologies for being so verbose). I think I've bottled up a lot as I've tried to understand what's going on with Tiffany. I appreciate a community that is equally as perplexed and helps me organize my own thoughts as they offer great opinions and perspectives to factor in. I can sit with my confusion a little easier now, thanks to this great group. :unsure:
 
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In the vlog ‘Cancer can spread’ she actually says she wants people to be blunt with her, to not sugar coat it and to tell it as it is, she likes the fact that the Tiffanythinks family says it as they see it! So what changed? I’m still so cross with her over that stunt she pulled.
I remember that. No I think she does not like people being blunt with her at all. She only said that in the heat of the moment when she was so impressed with getting 6000+ messages. She also kind of berated the surgeon in that video and said that he is not her family member and he does not really care for her like her 'youtube family' cares for her. She says many things that is nothing but words. I think she has no real personality and she does not know herself what she wants until she experiences it. That's why it seems she often speaks without thinking. She asks people what to do about the surgery and then she tells them she actually does not want that at all.
She also told us to stop being 'mean' to Matt and she said she is okay with people calling her naive and such but she is not ok with Matt being 'attacked'. Then in the next vlog she said she is not ok with people 'attacking' her and give her medical advise and tell her that she needs to be proactive and that she will block and delete tick tick tick unless the comments are positive (dishonest).
See, there is no consistency in her words or behaviour.
 
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