Off-topic but: any fellow introverts here who hate being the center of attention? My worst nightmare would be walking down the aisle and being stared at all day because I'm the bride. I find Anna's approach with a small wedding great, but how do you get over your fear of being looked at?
if I eloped my parents would never forgive me lol so what to dooooo
My husband is quite the introvert and still says he didn’t love the attention on him during our wedding. We’re from two different counties and weddings are important(ish) in my family. We went to city hall where everyone was in a room waiting for us/me. Once the actual ceremony got underway he relaxed a little, but we organized the wedding in a way there wasn’t a lot of attention on us. And when there needed to be attention, I took the lead — thanking everyone, ushering people about, etc.
We also made sure to spend time together with just us. We did first look photos ad that was important to him, to have some time
Before the ceremony where it was just us.
For the reception, we went on a dining tram and that made it so that there wasn’t a whole of it attention. People were busy looking at the city going by and the interesting food. I took the lead and walked and talked to people.
He says that he loved our wedding and it was perfectly us, which it was, and that he’s so it over again, but he didn’t love the attention.
At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you should do what you want and not what others want. I actually didn’t want a big wedding and a big to do, but knew that I’d want to celebrate it in some way, and my parents would be upset if we did nothing. We found a middle ground in the end, and we all loved it. Also, there is so much pressure around weddings. Do what you want and love. For us, it was finding something that required no planning, hence city hall and the dining tram.