The advice thread for random problems

[Snippysnips]

I’m a knitted but took up crochet in lockdown. I don’t hold it properly because I’m so used to knitting but I had to stop because my little finger hurt so much. Sorry that’s not helpful, but I feeel your pain

I've tried so many different ways to hold the yarn but there's only one way that works for me an it just makes my hand hurt but can't just give it up now, not that I really want to either

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Just looking for some advice as I’m not sure what to do or how to go about this situation. My friends in RL are split pretty 50/50 so I’m taking it to the Internet

So last night one of our family cats died. I have three children (6 - just turned 6 today, 8&10) as you can imagine we are all devastated.

The vets have said we can have her cremated and she stay with them. Or we can pay a little bit extra and bring her ashes home. I can’t work out how to handle this situation, weather it’s better to give the cat some form of send off. Allow the children to say their goodbyes etc. Or let the vets deal with the cat and leave the kids to heal in their own space and time. Today they seem much more chipper however, I think that may be because it’s my youngest birthday and We are out celebrating. I don’t want to keep bringing it up and hurting them all over again but also don’t want them to feel robbed off saying goodbye.

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way. Let the vets take care of the cat and then ask the children if they’d like to have a little ceremony.

 

[monga]

Just my luck to miss out by a few days supposed to be on a cruise on Tuesday which will have to be rearranged hopefully they'll let us push it back a week or we'll have to cancel it completely.

How unlucky ,hopefully they’ll let you change the booking.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

I would block him. You said you’d noticed that he had unblocked you and you messaged him. He’s already going to know youve noticed at this stage lol Not being rude, but if you know he still has a gf I wouldn’t be messaging him at all and vice versa lol I’d just block him and forget about him

Nooo that was last time he unblocked me last year, he would reblock me when he was in work then unblock me when he finished so I messaged to get the whole thing out the way then he blocked me and left me blocked till yesterday so I haven’t bothered this time round

 

[Slaybutter]

Yes it’s safe, keep them refrigerated or frozen, you’ll heat them way beyond the danger zone to make broth.
If you have a butcher, you can usually get free meaty bones. Use your veg scraps (cauli leaves, peelings, stalks, onion skins, old lettuce etc can all be frozen until you’re ready) add to the bones and put them in the oven when you have it on. 20 mins min then add a load of water or roast until it catches then get it out & boil. The roasting first will give you the best flavour.
(Sorry if you know this)

Thanks so much! This is so helpful

 

[rainbowlemon]

Neighbours on both sides have cats. My cat doesn't like anyone in our garden.

My cat and the one on the right have never got on and they do fight. Next doors cat however has started coming over to our garden a lot more sitting in my cat's favourite flowerpot. She usually gets chased off by my cat or we bring our cat inside when we hear them hissing at each other/ see their both outside at the same time. Yesterday the garden door had been left open and the other cat came inside into our house.

How can we stop her coming over? Tired of my cat being covered in scratches, I don't want to stop my cat going out into our garden either.

 

[Dancing Dave]

Fake tan and massages.

I can't possibly go on my single trip next week without a tan and I hate the instant tan (also can't bring more than 100mls in my carry-on) - I want to book a deep muscle massage for when I'm there. Is it ok to put on fake tan (Bondi Sands) the night or 2 nights before? Or is it just not worth my while? I haven't had a massage in years.

 

[Snippysnips]

Not sure this is the right place. Does anyone have any advice about winding down after work? I just started a new job that’s a 5:30 finish, don’t get home until 6pm sometimes later but by the time I’ve sorted things out for the next day and had tea etc. i’m basically just going to bed ready for the next day. I’m hoping things settle a bit when I’m used to the routine but I have literally cried coming home every evening so far

I guess it would depend on what you preferred to do, is there any hobbies you might like to try, painting, gaming etc? Also is there anyway you could prepare for the week for your work on the weekend, like maybe sort out what you are going wear for the week on the Sunday so you don't have to do it each night an prepare a week's worth of meals so it's just coming in an heating it up?

I find colouring to be relaxing for me with some music on in the backround, maybe you could try some new things an see if there's somthing that you find you enjoy

Am not sure what all you have to organise for next day but if you can then I'd do whatever I could on the Sunday to minimise what I needed to do during the week

Hope it all settles for you an you find a way to relax

 

[Sprottish]

You can sell it no bother without the SH.

I have a close relative who works with cars day to day. It's not essential but a car with a full service history is considered to be more valuable than one without. It's no biggie though!

Thank you so much - you’ve put my mind at total ease! Accepted I won’t get as much for it, I was panicking it’s not even legal to sell without.

Great help - thanks again!

 

[monga]

Id probably trip over the mat and break something else

Colour it in a similar colour ? Maybe there’s flooring repair kits on eBay?

 

[littlepup]

If you’re not worried about the door, How fit are you? If it’s just a single bolt lock where the bolt has a curved side? A hard kick from the outside landed right on the lock can jump it out. If the door is really old and weaker than the lock it could break at that point though.
Alternatively YouTube drilling out a lock

 

[monga]

Does anyone else get clothes of the washing machine and they have stains on that weren't there when they went in? It only happens to cotton/Jersey tshirts. How do you avoid it?

It's happened with a couple of different washing powders, I might try without fabric softener to see if that makes a difference.

Maybe the door rubber needs cleaned? Home Bargains sell a machine cleaner/ deodoriser it works well you clean the rubber then put the rest of the powder in an empty machine on a normal cycle.

 

[Purrrrrrr]

It definitely makes it better and really improves the overall mood.

Thanks I will give it a go

 

[monga]

Can anyone help me identify the song of one of the Gusto adverts? I know it and I can't place it, and it's bothering me so much .

It's quite rocky and energetic , then there's male vocals right at the end. I asked my husband and he suggested Lenny Kravitz but it's not .

Enola Gay ? (OMD)

 

[Purrrrrrr]

Ahh sorry I misread your post. I guess the housing people will be making sure the adaptations fit and are practical. The OT should give them recommendations.

OK, that makes sense. Just seeing if the things the OT said I need are feasible.
I am actually pleasantly surprised at quickly things are moving after having to wait so long for an OT visit due to the logback from covid.

 

[Choco88]

Call your GP today and see if you can be seen - tell them all your symptoms

thank you I gave up trying to get through to the go after 50 attempts I’ve had tea & toast and that seems to have gone down ok soI’m hoping I’m over the worst

 

[Snippysnips]

and if you got an interview and weren't successful would you still be this vexed about it? I understand it's frustrating but you can either contact them and ask them why you didn't get an interview or you could just move on and keep applying until the right job comes along!

Obviously not, it's because they stated this an didn't keep their word, makes me think they just want to weed out anyone that has it since it's know in this town that MH and disabilities are discriminated against, there's even company's I know won't hire woman, calling them useless but nothing gets done

The Guaranteed Interview Scheme was replaced by the Disability Confident Scheme, if they mentioned they were part of this then I believe there are certain legal obligations. However if they haven’t declared they are part of this then I don’t think much can be done.

THANK YOU

yes they said they were part of this

 

[rainbowlemon]

This is a bit of a sticky subject but maybe somebody here has been through similar. I’m with my partner almost two years and we are very happy together. He had a small bit of weight on when I met him similar to most people but in the last 3-6 months he has put on a lot more weight I’d guess maybe 2 stone. We were away in April and he said he wanted to eat healthier and lose some weight. I cook healthy dinners for us and the house is stocked with fruit/salad and nutritious food. He goes home once a week for a night or two and I think this is where the damage is happening as there will be takeaways and a night or two out drinking. If he calls to his aunt next door there is cake and sweet things on offer.
His own mother commented to him today that he had put on a few inches so it’s not just me that has noticed as I’m sure he has himself. He is a very intelligent guy but when I counted my calories back in April and May as I wanted to lose 1/2 stone for our holidays, unless meals were laid out for him and prepared he didn’t have much interest in eating healthy but yet said he wanted to lose weight.
Any ideas on what I could do to help support him? I don’t want it to become a bigger problem for him and I’d like for him to take better care of himself.

Go for walks/ bicycle rides together.

Encourage him to join a gym and or group club like hockey or football.

There’s also a website with an active supportive community called myfitnesspal.

There’s a few good youtubers he could watch too.

 

[Slaybutter]

I’ve been collecting bones during cooking to use for broth. Is it safe to use bones left over after eating?

 

[Purrrrrrr]

Maybe the batteries are done if they’re not holding the charge? My son’s lasts for age’s .

They are new.
They do last ages when they are fully charged when the kids use them.. it's just when they are not being used they turn themselves on and the batteries run down within the week. so when the kids get here a week later and go to use them they are very low battery

I just wondered if there is a way to stop them from turning themselves on. I can understand if they were just on standby.