The advice thread for random problems

[al255]

So.

I was driving at Asda last month, i think I hit a car (scuffed it) but when I got out to check I think it was just the post and not a car and I’ve had an email / calls off my insurance saying someone has claimed.
Now - I’ve not admitted I’m at fault cos I’ve just said I’m not sure if I was there, the Asda they’re talking about is a while off me and I wouldn’t generally to unless I needed something urgently. please nobody have a go, I don’t want to admit I might have scuffed it cos I genuinely thought i hit the post. My car didn’t have any damage on it.

All they’ve got is my reg, and not sure if they’ve got any cctv either. They’re waiting for more information. I really don’t want to lose the 1 year of no claims I’ve got, 2 in October….. my insurance will go up to around £800 again. Has anyone been in this situation? Thank you x

 

[and so say we all]

First time posting in this thread so here goes.
I have the opportunity to move to a beautiful part of the world. My child starts school next year. The new place has work and a really relaxed and beautiful lifestyle. Our current place has work and my child's friends, all of whom are going to different schools next year so catch ups will be limited to Sundays only.
I told my child that we're likely moving and they are kind of heart broken. How can I soften the blow? Also, how do you know if you're doing the right thing? After the initial settling in period, I feel confident we are both going to love it but right now, I'm feeling guilt. Any advice please? Thank you

 

[If you say so...]

aahhh that’s so awkward that your husband did that haha. Have you got another space you could make use of one in? I have a soda stream at home but I work all week in the office so my sparkling water intake is unfortunately reduced. If I had a free spare I’d take it to work

are they likely to come around and say anything if you weren’t using theirs?

This is so ridiculous but.
I met a group of my partners mates and they were really rude to me. He was annoyed and said he’d say something but I told him to leave it because I met them at his flat for his severely delayed graduation and I didn’t want to make the night all about me. On that day one of the girls from their group gave him a picture she’d drawn in a frame as a gift (???) it’s proper shite like a kids done it and I really don’t get it but fair enough different people different lives. It’s on the windowsill at his flat, every time I walk in his flat it instantly reminds me of that night, how rude they all were and it puts me in an irritated mood. I can see it out of the corner of my eye when we watch tv so I’m sitting side on to avoid seeing the stupid picture. I literally want to find her and throw it at her head. I can’t exactly say anything without sounding like a psycho can I but it really irritates me. Just needed to share anonymously

Tell me about it Yeah actually I think it would be useful in the canteen at work. Thank you!

and about the picture, do you live together? I'd probably just tell him it annoys you because of that night, it's so much easier to be honest than sit on it and let it wind you up!

 

[Cruising Into Obscurity]

This is dumb, but how do you carry your smartphone in your purse without cracking the screen protector to bits??

I can't find a phone case like the old PDA cases that had hard plastic flip lids to protect the screen. The only cases with anything over the screen are those big wallet cases that are too hard to hold.

Does everyone else know something I don't, or is it normal to have to replace your screen protector every few months?

 

[Sunflower91]

Not a problem but a question. How can Google know what you've saw/spoke/heard when you aren't carrying your phone on you?
My phone has been relaying these things to me the last few years and I still don't know how.

It’s not just what is picked up on your mic off your phone. But also whatever devices you have logged into your account.
I’m doubtful that it’s all the devices “listening” Companies pay good money for people to create ways of targeting people for advertising/ messaging etc. If it’s cookie/history based they can take browsing data to spot patterns of behaviour which make targeting easier. More complex models can overlay with voice data too. These models learn what’s effective over time and get smarter.

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone ever sent alcohol to US from UK? A couple of friends want to try some local whisky, it's just the little tiny size I'd be sending that you get in those gift packs

US customs says 1L is the max I can send but royal mail says it can't be that size or over 24% alcohol, these little bottles have 40%

Would I be able to get them over with using another service?

 

[Woolmercardington]

i wouldn’t worry - you can’t get food poisoning from vegetables surely? I always cook “fresh” meat sausages that are half / partly frozen that I’ve freezed and I’ve never had any issues. Apparently you’re not allowed to freese them but I don’t really get why

OK thanks. Although I'm not sure it has much of the way of vegetables in it Tbh, it did look very pale and doughy when I took it out the oven, which I thought was odd as I'd remembered it being golden brown and flakey before.

 

[Sugarbee123]

Sorry not really a ‘problem’ but ladies I need your help! Where do you recommend for bras? I’ve been looking all night and the ones I love are just so expensive for the one bra, I’ve had a good clear out so I’m in need of a few! I usually get them from M&S just because they’re good quality but non are taking my fancy I have bought a few from Ann summers before but I think the quality is pretty naff! I saw some gorgeous ones on savage x fenty thought I was in for a bargain so added loads to my basket and didn’t realise they were only less than half the price because it’s a £49 monthly subscription I’m 25 so I do like more of the pretty lacy bras but still do need that support! Thank you

 

[Snippysnips]

Not really a problem as such but more looking for any advice on best places to eat around London, want to treat the folks to a lovely dinner but having never been before I've 0 clue what's good, can't really be doing top end places that's £20+ for a meal pp, but I could do say mid range like £10 to £15 pp for a meal, it might be a long stretch trying to find a good place at that range, places here average between the £10 an £15 for a meal but it's not a city so not sure what London will take, we aren't fussy either when it comes to meals, an we will be staying around Camden but I am sure I can venture further just so long as it's not going be like a few hours bus ride away lol

 

[BettyCrockerr]

We are thinking of buying him a weekend ticket for Silverstone next year (cost will be split between 3 pf us) but maybe an additional present for the day.

Yeah perfect. Get him that and a bottle of his favourite drink or whatever for him to open on the day

 

[Pinhead Larry]

This is a multi-dimensional problem I hope I make it make sense.

I started applying for new jobs. I want to leave my job mainly because I really don't like working for my manager. She is nice enough to me face to face but a really toxic person. We work in a really small team and I feel a bit trapped and stunted in my position, because I have nothing to do most of the time, it is the most boring job ever.

I have been interviewed for 2 jobs, and I have been offered both Job 1 rang and offered the job on Monday, I accepted and they said they would send me through the information, I am yet to receive anything. Job 2 rang yesterday evening and offered the job, I prefer job 2 so I accepted that too.

My manager is going off on annual leave from tomorrow, for 2.5 weeks. I have put her down as a reference, but she obviously won't be able to give one if she is away, so I have provided a different reference for the 2nd job, explaining that she is away.

I am worrying because I haven't had any formal job offer etc through from either of these companies (both public sector) and I don't know when to hand my notice in. Should you wait for something particular? At what point is it risk free to do so, because I can't afford to have no job.

All day today my current manager has been going on about how this is her first holiday where she won't have to work through it in 4 years. She takes work stuff quite personally. I know this isn't my problem but it makes things worse for me to deal with. I know if I hand my notice in before Friday she is likely to not go on holiday, as she doesn't leave until late Friday (sounds extreme but it is true).

What would you do in this situation?

 

[Maisie842]

No, I know that. My postie is a diamond. I just meant that we should be able to refuse it and most people would.
I have a job picking it up and cant have a letterbox cage as my door then won't fully open. it's a pain.

Ahh ok. Sorry wasn’t having a go or anything, just didn’t want someone to get the blame who didn’t deserve it, I misunderstood. Yeah, I mean that would be great, and I’m sure most would rather opt out, but it’s just not going to happen. If you have a regular postie, you could just mention that you’d rather not receive it, and could they kindly put that in your recycling instead of through your letterbox for you. Most I imagine would oblige as its 6 of one and half a dozen of another for them, and it would be much more effective than writing to RM. All I know is that they are given what they’re given and they have to clear it.



Me chill out? I'm not the one with the exclamation marks

No, I know that. My postie is a diamond. I just meant that we should be able to refuse it and most people would.
I have a job picking it up and cant have a letterbox cage as my door then won't fully open. it's a pain.

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Me chill out? I'm not the one with the exclamation marks

Ahh ok. Sorry wasn’t having a go or anything, just didn’t want someone to get the blame who didn’t deserve it, I misunderstood. Yeah, I mean that would be great, and I’m sure most would rather opt out, but it’s just not going to happen. If you have a regular postie, you could just mention that you’d rather not receive it, and could they kindly put that in your recycling instead of through your letterbox for you. Most I imagine would oblige as its 6 of one and half a dozen of another for them, and it would be much more affective than writing to RM. All I know is that they are given what they’re given and they have to clear it.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

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Does anyone know if I can still use this stamp? I dropped it when getting out of the car, couldn’t find it and then found it about an hour later. It’s a bit soggy at the moment so I was going to let it dry out and then potentially stick it down with tape but I’m not sure what’s allowed thank you

Yes of course you can. Stick it on with tape or glue - anything you’ve got. It will be fine.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

I can't read tattle on my laptop, the screen is too small the ads get in the way. On my work computer and phone its fine. Bloody annoying!

Yep, I’m trying to use my iPad or phone… It’s really difficult!

 

[BettyCrockerr]

Am just tired of the amount we get, for what we get in a month is ridiculous an I shouldn't have to waste the space in my bin for all that shit especially when at times my bin is full an if they bring in the charging £50 to empty it like other towns then I'll want to limit how much I need it emptied

burn it? Throw them in a public bin when you are out? Bag the paper up and when the bag is full take it to your local recycling place?

 

[shadowcat5]

Does anyone know where I can get the council food waste bags from? I don’t have the small bin only the big one and I don’t have the white tab to leave out for them.

 

[chapterthree]

Maybe a bizarre request but maybe someone can help? I walk a lot during my commute and it is wearing down my decent shoes. I don’t want to wear gym trainers on my way because it looks odd and easily makes holes in my tights by the heel. What other comfy trainer type shoes can I wear? I don’t want something clumpy, but definitely a trainer as opposed to shoe as I feel like my feet aren’t supported and hurt if I wear regular work shoes. I was thinking converses but I was wondering if anyone had any better suggestions.

 

[Mamacita]

Not sure this is the right place. Does anyone have any advice about winding down after work? I just started a new job that’s a 5:30 finish, don’t get home until 6pm sometimes later but by the time I’ve sorted things out for the next day and had tea etc. i’m basically just going to bed ready for the next day. I’m hoping things settle a bit when I’m used to the routine but I have literally cried coming home every evening so far

Unfortunately there's only limited time in the day, I always feel like chill time after work is so short. But maybe you can try prepping meals so you don't have to spend time cooking and can just eat when you're home? Also trying to organise stuff on weekends, get your clothes, lunches, whatever you need, ready so you need to spend less time prepping it the night before?
I find going for a walk straight after work definitely helps me switch off from work mode but still need to wind down later on.

 

[Warpaint]

I stupidly burnt myself on kettle steam at work whilst reaching over for tea bags. My hand was only there for a second but has left a scalding red mark. I ran it under cold water just after but didn't seem to do much, still stinging. What's the best thing for it?

 

[Blondeangel2515]

Tbh it sounds as if he's just doing it to keep you around for whenever he wants to mess about, obviously I don't know him or if he would cheat but from the sounds of it he doesn't sound very loyal to his partners if he's still messaging others when he's in a relationship, it's best to keep guys like that out your life

I completely get where you’re coming from and I would literally think the same but it’s not even like he’s even messaging so I don’t get how it would keep me around if he’s just unblocking me and not even talking to me. Like I snitch to his girlfriend before he completely blocked me 18 months ago so surely he’ll be scared I’ll do it again. It makes no sense I rather him just get on to the fact I’m not bothered with him anymore