Hi guys, long(ish) time lurker, first time poster here! I just wanted to say that I used to be a huge fan of this couple. I'm a personal care aide and a nursing student and during my years of doing care aide work, I've met countless of awesome, handsome, beautiful, amazing disabled people who have so much to give to everyone, so I obviously wanted to believe that these two were a real thing.
I got suspicious of their intentions and relationship when I brought up the channel to a man I worked for, who also has SMA. Different type from Shane though (for example: he's the average size of an adult man with a few extra kg's, has little to no trouble moving his head, better hand movements, can eat without difficulties etc. sorry, not a native english speaker so i don't know the correct terminology but I'm sure you get the idea
). He's in his 40's, was married etc, and he knows quite a few people who have the same disability.
He gave their channel a try, and when we discussed this the next day, he pointed out a lot of the thing you guys have as well. Mainly, Hannah being the sole caregiver. He was married for 15 years, and out of those 15 years, his wife was his sole caregiver for maybe 2 weeks in total. Only when absolutely necessary or on holidays and such. He said that he'd feel horrible having his wife take care of him, and their (even tho small, accessible, 2 bedroom) apartment, and that it just isn't possible, with both of their work schedules. And the "Shane eats a lot and drinks ton of beer lol". He can eat normally but DOUBTS that Shane can. Like we've seen him struggle thru a soup. He also mentioned that Shane definitely requires the same amount of help (and more probably) he does, such as bathing, going to the bathroom, making food etc and while they do talk about it, they don't like ACTUALLY talk about it. It's hard and thankless work, no matter how much you love the person. They always gloss over it like "oh yeah we have a wheelchair tee hee thats it!!!" Also, somewhat petty, but we both HATE Shane's sense of humor lmao. This youtube channel thing adds little to no value to the disabled community, because it doesn't send a realistic version of what dating someone who has a disability as severe as Shane's is actually like. Me and this dude are still friends, and snark on sQuIrMy and GrUbZ to this day on discord while having beers, and he OK'd me to post!
This message probably serves no purpose to anything at all here, but just wanted to join in on the conversation and show that, yep, even disabled people do question their relationship and whats behind it.