Your triggers are not your very young childrenβs responsibility
Woosa on that
Woosa on that
She's admitting her children trigger her...what on earth? They've no chance whilst she has an attitude like that!I'm a good mum and children are our triggers sometimes, no Shan your kids are the innocent ones, irrelevant of what you went through, you birthed them and shouldn't see them as triggers. You have shown over 3k people the last 2 hours that you are not ready to have them back full time
I was just thinking..this seems worse than last year....and wondering had I just forgot...but it was def so much worse...no child should here the pure tit she gave them todaywas gonna say hope she reads this but will make no difference cos she's too arrogant and up her own arse......that's why she's no real friends left!!I feel like I've gone back in time but it's worse than a year ago
Yes she's been on live all day faffing around and trying on clothes this afternoon . Shows her prioritiesShe's admitting her children trigger her...what bloody hell they've no chance whilst she has an attitude like that!
She is the narcissist...I'm sorry but she is!
A few posts back many if us commented on how well she had done, how far she's come!
I think the point is ..she can't cope with them and maybe doesn't even want them back...one thing for sure is...she doesn't deserve two beautiful children like that ....I'm so angry and just hope the relevant people have seen that tit show from her!!
Christ, she's had all day to prepare them a meal!!!! Wtf? I'm just flabbergasted!!
Me too...they're all enabling her vile behaviour! Makes me angry and very sad!All those people in her live saying sheβs a good mum, and her believing it and saying she kept calm, she shouted once that I saw but the rest of the time she was stressed and answered the kids like they were doing her head in, says they were liars and that they were her trigger just constantly putting things into their heads, Iβm not trolling Iβm concerned for the kids itβs not fair theyβve already been through so much but sheβs putting her trauma first.
She will never keep friends, she's too arrogant, either she sees no wrong in what she does or literally doesn't care. Stupid cowI was just thinking..this seems worse than last year....and wondering had I just forgot...but it was def so much worse...no child should here the pure tit she gave them todaywas gonna say hope she reads this but will make no difference cos she's too arrogant and up her own arse......that's why she's no real friends left!!
She's had all day to prepare things, but instead has been manic and run around every shop possible for random tit. Wouldn't have been difficult to premake something for dinner, heat it up when they're round and then maybe make a pudding together or do an activity together. There's no excuse. 2 hours is more than enough time for them to have dinner. She just seems to get them McDonald's every visit.Iβm sorry but if I was fighting for my kids I would have everything prepped ready to them, activities and tea. It was like every time they spoke it triggered her, she must of known what she was doing when she kept saying to them you are allowed to talk, I mean wtf, she doesnβt work and has all the time on the world to come up with ideas and also relax! Most people get stressed at some point with their children but usually over something stressful or just needing a genuine break not 5 mins into a two hour visit!
And just to add those parenting advice videos she be stopped now itβs not helpful
It made me sad, angry and my stomach was in bits.. those poor childrenhope they stay safe where they areI had to turn the live off. It made me cry. Here's a recap:
- Shan looked like she was making good progress. She got a job, got back to uni, had some supportive friends around her...
- It's all gone to tit again a year after it first did.
- Shan is due to have the kids back full time in January, but cannot cope with them for even a couple of hours without gaslighting them, calling them her triggers and belittling them every chance she gets.
- Shan has left her job at the pub and will no doubt leave uni soon too because of her toxic ways.
- Since starting her uni course, Shan believes she is an expert in all things counselling and regularly gives out uneducated advice to her followers. She believes she's some all knowing guru with her affirmations and her "woosa" (which is just her reiterating a line from the film Wild Child).
- Shan has once again struggled to maintain any relationships with others, falling out with her good friend from the pub and then having a quick failed relationship with Kate. She is apparently in love with someone else... She cannot be alone, and when she is alone it's because she's pushed everyone away and then gaslights them by calling them all narcassists.
- Shan has fallen out with family members such as her grandma and has told her children that family members so not want to see them.
- Shan has been begging for gifts so she can afford to go to her management Christmas party next week.
- Kids are due to spend Christmas at Shan's.
Think that pretty much sums it all up...
I'm honestly disgusted. I know she's mentioned the biological dad is making her life difficult when it comes to the arrangement of the children (I believe this is the one alleged to have fractured G's skull, which if true is obviously horrific). I do hope someone is screen recording these contact times to show the social workers that she's clearly not ready to have the children back.