Ruby Granger

[amarantine]

In fairness to Ruby she's 20 (21?) and living away from home during a global pandemic. I know some people might be completely fine with doing that but for others it's actually not ideal, particularly if your mental health isn't great (which Ruby has said hers isn't before). I'm a 24 year old student doing my second degree and I'm homesick sometimes despite having not lived permanently at home for years. It's also worse at the moment because I went home during lockdown (the first one) and so now have to readjust to being alone again (I live alone).

I know some people are very independent and can totally cope with living alone (and we don't know that her flatmate hasn't gone home, prompting this!) but others can't and I think it's a bit unfair to criticise her so heavily. I know this is a Tattle site but sometimes I think people forget that everyone is different and if she's not breaking rules or whatever then it's kind of an unnecessary criticism. I also know that a fair few of us on here are a bit older than Ruby and might do well to remember what it was like to be 20.

/rant

Yes, this. I'm 33 for goodness sake and haven't lived at home for over 10 years. Lived on my own for the past 5. Still get homesick! Ruby has said before her mental health isn't always great and she was anxious about going back to uni and Covid (and I expect going back to living alone - or at least not at home), so in terms of her mental health maybe home is the best place for her to be right now. I do worry for her housemate though, hopefully she'll have found someone else to live with or she has chosen to do the same thing. Would be a bit mean to leave her on her own seeing as it's just the two of them! I do hope for her own sake though that Ruby can build on her independence a bit more. It was sad to see her feeling so anxious about someone getting into the house. Probably best for her to be home right now, but maybe not as a permanent measure. Shame, I like her uni vlogs! (I went to Exeter way back when, and it makes me feel nostalgic!)

This aside though, I do really feel for the students who aren't in a position to nip back home, whether for financial reasons or because of the tier they're in. Where I am we're only tier 1, but I've been self-isolating for the past week. It's pretty rough. And I'm used to living on my own. It must be really crap for the students stuck in cities they don't know well, unable to go out and not allowed to go home. Hang in there!!

 

[figgypud]

When I was at uni, a big part of my social life was going to societies and going to friend's houses and even when I didn't do those things, I had the social interaction in my classes - now with Covid restrictions and online teaching, a lot of students can't do that. They can meet up at cafes or pubs but those things have to be planned out. It's not like the summer where people could easily still socialise outdoors.

From her vlogs last year, Ruby spent a lot of time in the library, in the gym (not sure if the uni one is open but even if it is she seems to be keeping her distance), she was involved in the Harry Potter society and she obviously enjoyed her classes - most of those things she can't do now or they're online which isn't the same at all. She seemed to be socialising well with her housemate but being in the same four walls with the same one person endlessly, without any of your usual options to get out and about, must be hard. In her situation I probably would have come home too. It's a pandemic and its unprecedented and at least at home she knows where she stands a bit better, she knows what she can and can't do. It's not a bad thing for anyone to be looking out for their own mental health right now.

 

[3calico3]

How is she capable of simultaneously looking like an old lady and a little girl but not like a 20 year old?


Yeah, I posted a similar idea on GG about the possibility of them having problems in the house and that maybe being the last straw to the decision of going back home. I think that's plausible.

Yeah, Ruby hasn't really twigged how to dress vintage in a modern way. So many people on YouTube could be her inspiration (e.g. Jessica Kellgren-Fozard).

Those glasses also really don't suit her - clear frames are hard to pull off at the best of times, but the lenses are also way too big for her face.

 

[Jeeen22]

It’s not Ruby’s fault that she’s able to go home, her going home doesn’t take away from the fact that others can’t, if she hadn’t said anything people would be wondering why is she keeping it a secret

 

[whatshesaid123]

It’s not Ruby’s fault that she’s able to go home, her going home doesn’t take away from the fact that others can’t, if she hadn’t said anything people would be wondering why is she keeping it a secret

It’s not her fault that she’s able to come home (but it does show how extremely privileged she is that she can afford to leave her student house) but if she was that scared she shouldnt have gone in the first place. Every student knows the risk when you move back to uni, I’m on my own at uni in a tier 2 city with poor mental health and all I want is to see my family. But ruby can come and go as she pleases, she doesn’t have to think about rent, tenancy contracts or being in a high tier for lockdown. I don’t think it’s all her fault but she knew what it was going to be like, and her behaviour just reflects her privilege

 

[tsuyu]

I personally don't think her going home reflects her privilege. It's a shame there are students who won't be able to, for whatever reason but Ruby should not be made to feel guilty as that is not her fault. When I was at uni, my student loads covered my rent meaning I wasn't spending any of my own money on it, it was the same with a lot of people I knew. She may be paying for a place she's currently not staying in but that doesn't mean she's wasting her own money, thats what student loans are for. Some students at various unis were forced to rent somewhere despite classes being fully remote otherwise they couldn't enroll, how do we know she wasn't promised some in person teaching which changed to fully remote?

I'm sure a lot of people posting here, if given the option and the means just like Ruby has atm would go home to be with family during all of this. I know I would.

We don't know if she moved to uni in the first place because she thought she could handle it, has struggled with the isolation aspect of it or the anxiety of being in a big city (she's rural to be fair) and has decided for her mental health it was better off her living at home instead. The list of things that could have happened it endless tbh but until she clarifies why I don't think it's fair to call her immature or privileged and to make her feel guilty for going home.

 

[JellyWobbles]

Well she is privileged in the sense she has the option to go home but I don’t think it’s in a ‘check your privilege’ type fashion, however I can understand that students that are stuck and cannot leave but wanting to will feel crappy.

I would like her to address being paid for sharing the hands face space ad she did, I think personally for me that’s pretty disgraceful to take money from the govt and struggling NHS to reiterate something we already see advertised everywhere. That is privilege, she absolutely does not *need* the money, anyone can see she is quite affluent, perhaps she was naive taking the ad but I’d still like her to address her commenters questions regarding it. She is 20, and needs to stop acting so child-like, seriously.

 

[Deeznutslol]

Well she is privileged in the sense she has the option to go home but I don’t think it’s in a ‘check your privilege’ type fashion, however I can understand that students that are stuck and cannot leave but wanting to will feel crappy.

I would like her to address being paid for sharing the hands face space ad she did, I think personally for me that’s pretty disgraceful to take money from the govt and struggling NHS to reiterate something we already see advertised everywhere. That is privilege, she absolutely does not *need* the money, anyone can see she is quite affluent, perhaps she was naive taking the ad but I’d still like her to address her commenters questions regarding it. She is 20, and needs to stop acting so child-like, seriously.

Based, realistically shes not really one to recognise her privilege and I think thats her downfall, bc she can be quite relatable at times. And yeah I still can’t believe she didn’t address any of the comments about the NHS ad, like I really think she should’ve at least said something even if it was half arsed but instead shes just carried on posting as normal

 

[lemonlime]

Yeah, Ruby hasn't really twigged how to dress vintage in a modern way. So many people on YouTube could be her inspiration (e.g. Jessica Kellgren-Fozard).

Those glasses also really don't suit her - clear frames are hard to pull off at the best of times, but the lenses are also way too big for her face.

She doesn't dress vintage in a vintage way either imo, I feel like she wants to achieve something similar to Bernadette Banner but still wants to keep the childrens wardrobe aspect as well and it clashes a bit.

 

[nissigossips]

Her morning routine video is bizarre for so many reasons?

1. It's a video from when she was at uni... but she moved back home. And she hasn't mentioned that on YouTube yet? Surely that makes a big difference to her routine?!

2. Chugging down a whole glass of cold water first thing is such a classic eating disorder move

3. also weird to wash your hands as soon as you wake up?

4. Courgette porridge

5. the music from 5:30ish onwards is such a weird choice hahaha way too dramatic, a shame because the rest of the music seemed like a great fit

6. Why does she call it a year seven rucksack? More child pretending?

Also her flatmate Blakeney seems super sweet... I hope she hasn't left her alone in Exeter...

 

[Anon576]

Her morning routine video is bizarre for so many reasons?

1. It's a video from when she was at uni... but she moved back home. And she hasn't mentioned that on YouTube yet? Surely that makes a big difference to her routine?!

2. Chugging down a whole glass of cold water first thing is such a classic eating disorder move

3. also weird to wash your hands as soon as you wake up?

4. Courgette porridge

5. the music from 5:30ish onwards is such a weird choice hahaha way too dramatic, a shame because the rest of the music seemed like a great fit

6. Why does she call it a year seven rucksack? More child pretending?

Also her flatmate Blakeney seems super sweet... I hope she hasn't left her alone in Exeter...

Tbh I don’t see that much wrong with the water thing. I can’t speak in a morning before I’ve had a glass of water so I have to

 

[Magallanes]

Her morning routine video is bizarre for so many reasons?

1. It's a video from when she was at uni... but she moved back home. And she hasn't mentioned that on YouTube yet? Surely that makes a big difference to her routine?!

2. Chugging down a whole glass of cold water first thing is such a classic eating disorder move

3. also weird to wash your hands as soon as you wake up?

4. Courgette porridge

5. the music from 5:30ish onwards is such a weird choice hahaha way too dramatic, a shame because the rest of the music seemed like a great fit

6. Why does she call it a year seven rucksack? More child pretending?

Also her flatmate Blakeney seems super sweet... I hope she hasn't left her alone in Exeter...

THIS!!! oh gosh i think the same about everything.... 1. yup, i'm assuming it's an old video, but anyway she could have address that she's currently in different circumstances AKA at home? number 3 and number 4, all the hand washing and the courgette porridge...good Lord.....
6. about the backpack, yeah, she said it's the same bag she used in year 7. apparently last year she bought a kanken but it's not big enough for all the supplies she wants to carry to uni so she went back to her old rucksack

how i mean HOW was that video a productive morning routine?? she woke up at 6:30 but she didn't start to do proper uni related work until...what? 9 AM? well if you tick off from your to-do list "wash your teeth", "make some tea", etc. it's definitely productive...
also i agree with you about blakeney, i could not stop thinking about her and how she might feel now that ruby went home so suddenly? ruby still follows her on IG so i'm assuming they're OK but i wonder if she was left alone or if she travelled back home as well...
i guess their idea of "tea time with blakeney and ruby" is more than over now which is kind of sad (i don't drink tea and i'm not interested on it but i thought it was a very sweet moment for both of them!)

 

[lemonlime]

Same with the water, and it helps me wake up (not to mention I have medication to take). I thought glass of water before meals was supposed to supress appetite, didn't know about waking up thing.

 

[whatshesaid123]

Her morning routine video is bizarre for so many reasons?

1. It's a video from when she was at uni... but she moved back home. And she hasn't mentioned that on YouTube yet? Surely that makes a big difference to her routine?!

2. Chugging down a whole glass of cold water first thing is such a classic eating disorder move

3. also weird to wash your hands as soon as you wake up?

4. Courgette porridge

5. the music from 5:30ish onwards is such a weird choice hahaha way too dramatic, a shame because the rest of the music seemed like a great fit

6. Why does she call it a year seven rucksack? More child pretending?

Also her flatmate Blakeney seems super sweet... I hope she hasn't left her alone in Exeter...

Off topic but blakeney is such a nice name

 

[bananasparklingsoda]

strange how she brings all those disinfection supplies but wears such an ill-fitting mask...

 

[Lola123]

She takes her temperature every morning?! Surely that’s a bit excessive? Like you would know if you were feeling a little but unwell?
I feel really bad for her housemate if ruby has left on a long term basis and she’s in the house by herself!!

 

[tuneyloon]

The temperature checking is responsible if you're going to be around other people and feel a bit off. If not, I see it as excessive. If my uni had given me a thermometer I would have become obsessed and I see a bit of myself in Ruby. I have terrible bouts of health anxiety and I suspect she can be the same way. Makes even more sense now that she moved home. Her anxiety was probably through the roof with all the self-checks.

Courgette porridge sounds effing disgusting. But who am I to judge. Nah, I'm judging.

Her to-do lists continue to be extremely regimented. "Have cold shower". I've done those kinds of detailed to-do lists on occasion but I will still condense my morning routine into one item to check off.

The "year seven rucksack" comment seems more to me like a way to explain why her bag isn't *aesthetic*

Also, I really like that blouse she's showing off on Instagram, it's totally my style. I wish I had companies sending me things, lol

 

[figgypud]

"Year Seven rucksack" is just a bit of a joke I think, because Year Sevens always tend to bring every single thing they might potentially need to school and don't make use of their lockers so they just haul everything around all day. We had the same joke when I was at school.

 

[ECH]

"Year Seven rucksack" is just a bit of a joke I think, because Year Sevens always tend to bring every single thing they might potentially need to school and don't make use of their lockers so they just haul everything around all day. We had the same joke when I was at school.

Yeah, it's a joke about the kids you see with backpacks as big as them because they're bringing all their notebooks, their PE kit, and their food tech stuff to school everyday.

 

[kingdomhearts]

My biggest issue with Ruby’s latest video is this. I think she has the ugliest nails anyway but I can’t stand it when people film their hands and they have chipped nail polish.