I was on these Rachel threads when it started as a rave thread. I defended her when it turned into a regular tattle thread and members were really slating her.
I felt that are was doing what she needed to make some money while she could and I felt that insta was her downtime and place to speak.
Then as time went on and it came to light that there was a huge go fund me for her, that the village had helped get the house built and work done for them, that she wasn't going to be struggling for money as I first thought, well I quickly saw what others were seeing.
I have no problem at all with anyone using Instagram as a career choice. (if you can call it that)
I have no problem with influencers getting free products in exchange for reviews or getting paid to do ads. What I do object to is using your children to secure your content and revenue, I object to the children's grief being paraded when they have no choice in the matter.
I object to her withholding their bears that Daniel made for them. The kids don't know about them but potentially 200thousand strangers know.
I object to her having her children perform like monkeys for the gram, I object to her posting herself in tears because she's missing Daniel and she's having a hard day, then 15 seconds later she's doing an ad for fake tan or a shopping haul.
There are other widows on insta, some of them mentioned here as shining examples yet I find their content distasteful too.
If you're grieving, don't post a fucking ad on the same day as posting yourself crying or posting your children upset or in therapy.
If you're grieving, of course talk about your partner/spouse and celebrate their life but don't ask your followers if you should read pieces of private correspondence that your deceased partner has left for you.
There is a line that shouldn't be crossed at all. Where is her dignity and pride? Where is the dignity and privacy for her children?
I did really like Rachel, my heart broke for them all as Daniel approached his final weeks and days. I know some folk go overboard here and pick the tiniest fault but on the whole, I agree that she's changed hugely and is cashing in on her husbands death and her children's grief