I had physically and emotionally abusive parents and remember a therapist saying to me in my late twenties that I had to let go of not getting the parents I deserved and wished for and accept I got the ones I did. It was painful but powerful. How she can treat her mother like this still surprises me even now. Not least because Rachet is so bleeping neglectful and emotionally abusive of her own kids and step kids, in plain sight and for money. I wonder how often they feel abandoned and forgotten about. She doesn’t provide them with a safe and private space to have meltdowns or make mistakes, everything is public and everything is conditional. “You get nice things but you have to make content for them” seems to be the constant grind in that house.
I know I’m so bloody grateful I didn’t have social media as a mixed up teenager and it would have been me documenting and sharing too much not a parent, her kids have got no chance. It’s all out there forever. She has gifted anyone who wants to stalk or bully her children everything they need to. That Teflon coating is wearing off surely? Things are going to start to stick soon?
Not dissimilar and also had very similar therapy. As you say, living in acceptance and letting go of ‘it’s not fair, why couldn’t I have had a better childhood like everyone else did?’ Was the best thing I ever did. The only person continuing to suffer was me. That is cycle breaking stuff and frees you up to live the rest of your life in relative peace and not f@ck up your children along the way. I’ve said before that her therapist is
tit because if after years and multiple sessions you’re still in a mess they are not doing their job.
I know we all know this but I suspect R would have turned out exactly the way she is now even if she had the perfect childhood (even though we know it wasn’t that bad, she was the problem, not her parents). There would always be some drama and trauma to get her claws into because she is ‘poorly in the head’ and thrives on being the victim and manipulating people to turn everything to her being wronged. We probably have all met people like her in our lives, usually narcissistic sociopaths, who you would say one thing to but they would chose to hear another and then run with their made up narrative. People who quite literally leave you thinking ‘what the
duck?’. They don’t need therapy but psychiatric treatment. I feel sorry for every single one of the children whose childhoods she has destroyed by selling to the world, who she has manipulated into believing things about themselves thst simply aren’t true, who have been whipped into a frenzy not only to validate her ego but also make her money. I hope at least one of them breaks free in young adulthood, no matter what R does to control them she cannot control their inner thoughts forever. Ironically I think it might be L and W, it’s known that NDs are direct and honest and have a strong moral compass and not ‘bystanders’ and they are clever enough to see her for who she is.
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