No you’re right, kids aren’t inherently good or bad. I wasn’t trying to suggest mine was “better” than theirs, although see how it came across as such. (I have another three who haven’t reached the teens, so theres plenty of time for one to push many boundariesI don't think it's even about "their kids are bad and other kids are good". Teenagers can be dicks, some will rebel and do stupid things and others will just be "good" with very little parental guidance. It's the fact that they don't seem to give 2 shits about what their teenagers are up to. I'm not even sure what a reasonable curfew for 13/14 year olds is, as mine is totally not fussed about being out in the evenings. But to let it get well past when they were supposed to be back, and not even being that worried? Nope! Especially after sharing those bikini shots of Lula, not only were they entirely inappropriate to be shared by an underage child on an open Instagram account, she's out in the sea on a paddleboard - anything could happen! And obviously far more interested in posing and looking hot, than staying safe with life jacket etc. Would Rancid even know where to look for her if she didn't come home? T is irresponsible / immature enough to start fires in her own home, I can't imagine she'll have much regard for safety at sea / tides and currents etc.
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It’s absolutely parenting (or the lack of) that has caused their situation, along with pitting them against each other for favouritism. No wonder they aren’t in the house for as long as they can possibly get away with, given it’s toxicity, but then rules they break don’t get enforced. Kids thrive with clear set, fair boundaries.