Yep definitely go with birth preferences rather than plan . I think it’s important to know your options, so I originally did say no when they said episiotomy and ventouse. They gave me more time to try get the baby out. They also wanted to do it in theatre in case I needed emergency c section but I said no to that too. So I definitely agree with not declining medical care when it’s in your babies and yours best interests/life or death. But you can still have a say.On the subject of birth plans, I have a vague one. Water birth would be nice and of course no forceps etc if possible. But I don’t see the point in writing up some strict list of rules I’m expecting the medical professionals who are charged with getting me and my baby through the birth process safely to follow to the letter.
I can’t be the only person on here who’s screamed at the TV watching a births (both documentary and dramatised) where a pregnant woman and/or her baby need something like an emergency c section, forceps etc. and the woman’s point blank refusing, sometimes even when they are explaining it’a life or death, because it’s not in her bloody birth plan
This is my first but reading the responses on here from ladies who’ve had previous births I feel like this is the right attitude to have. A vague plan sure, but anything can happen and you need to be open to it. The priority is safe mum and baby.
this time round I am saying no to ventouse and forceps and would prefer a c section as my choice of intervention
) it’s bloody awful isn’t it
Best of Luck!
. Purely from googling i think my bleeding was caused by the progesterone pessaries i had to take (we had IVF) which can irritate the cervix. But still don't really know for sure. I'm 21 weeks now and baby is doing well 
My question is, in the early days, did your symptoms come and go? Some days I feel nauseous, exhausted, boobs are aching. Other days (like today) I feel nothing at all, totally normal….which makes me worried it’s going to be another loss. Thanks for reading ladies. 
