One guy I had been talking to for a while got in a huff with me when he asked if I liked him and I honestly said I didn’t know and I couldn’t know unless I met him in person. He seemed to think it unreasonable that I couldn’t declare my undying love for him without meeting. We didn’t end up meeting!
One guy I met on a number of occasions who refused to admit we were having any sort of relationship because he had a checklist of what he wanted in a girl and I didn’t tick all the boxes (I think he was still hung up on his ex who he dumped because she was larger and had a health scare but didn’t do anything to minimise it happening again which he didn’t like? from what he told me) He also decided I must still have feelings for my ex (projecting much?) when I told him minutes after my ex randomly turning up on my doorstep after work one night with some sweets for me obviously looking for some company, I turned him away obviously.
One guy I was talking to about gigs and I was saying I wanted to go see a band and he said yeah we should go together etc so I told him I’d bought a ticket so he should buy one and come with me. He got annoyed because I hadn’t thought to buy him a ticket when I bought mine (£30, we hadn’t met yet, gig wasn’t sold out) so he refused to (still went on my own, had a great night)
Despite this I still went on a ‘date’ with him to watch deadpool at the cinema (I really wanted to see the film so thought fuck it). I say ‘date’ because cinema trips don’t really allow for much conversation and he turned up late just before it started. Afterwards he offered to drive me home and took offence when I agreed as long as he understood that I wouldn’t be inviting him in.
Anyway, despite this we were talking about another band that would be good to go to but was sold out so I suggested that we go anyway and see if we could maybe get tickets from a tout out front and if not we could maybe do something else instead. He drove us there so I’m the car I was making suggestions of other things we could do instead and trying to have some banter but he just didn’t seem to be entertaining the idea. When we got there he found a tout who didn’t have any tickets but basically told us to go wait in a nearby pub and he would let us know if he got any. So we went and had some food but he wasn’t great chat tbh and once we’d eaten I was trying to say it was pointless hanging around because the tout would likely charge more than I was willing to pay because we were waiting around so maybe we should do something else rather than hang around and be overcharged. We disagreed on this and he pretty much just stopped talking to me and went on his phone. So after about ten minutes of being ignored I googled the next train time home and left. In that time he’d already blocked me on pof! He did however send me a picture later of him in the gig with a ticket but didn’t respond when I asked how much he paid for it. It was a quite liberating feeling because I was an hour away from home but rather than staying in an uncomfortable situation for a ride home I just left. First time I’d needed to do it but glad that I could!
But I also met my partner on pof. He messaged me and his was the only profile picture I ever saw that made me actually go “oh! He looks nice!” Every other one was sort of a “they’re alright, have to see what they actually look like in person”. He just looked really nice and genuine and in person he still made my heart skip and I was grinning for days after. He’s just wonderful
It was a long time ago when online dating was kinda laughed at so you never admitted to it, but I have a few:
I politely said I had work in the morning so no thanks. Gave the security guard at my office a good laugh, tho.
