Hey, just so you know this wasn't aimed at anyone in particular - I honestly don't remember who said what! So I'm sorry if it seemed like targeting you because genuinely I don't know what you said or not. I agree Joe seems good at cooking, likes cooking etc, but remember some of these comments she's made are while he is cooking anyway - like the burgers. When you live together it's not like he can just go and make food without her noticing tbh, someone in a previous thread commented how it seemed he was hiding behind a cupboard door to get some crisps out for example. Also, I get where you're coming from re putting his foot down but I don't think she started off this controlling, people never do because others would run a mile! If you went on a date with her making all those food comments most people wouldn't go back. She's ramped it up over time with lockdown being the peak opportunity to control what he eats and how much. To me the comments like 'he's a big man who can eat what he wants' fundamentally misunderstand the nature of both eating disorders and controlling behaviour (again not aimed at you as it doesn't seem to be you that said them!) I'm so sorry you've been affected by EDs, my husband had bulimia which was very hard to get any GPs to take seriously and affected me greatly so I know how difficult it is.