Oh! Didn’t realise that
I’ve ordered the cot so I’ll see what the situation is when it arrives
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I’ve ordered the cot so I’ll see what the situation is when it arrivesHey, so I am 10 weeks pp and have just finished bleeding - I saw you say you had an infection, did you have any other symptoms other than bleeding? This is the longest I’ve ever had pp bleeding for (4 kids) so it does worry me a bit!
I breastfed all mine, with my first my period came back at 9 months and it just went straight back to normal, same with the others (at 20 and 17 months), so I would say if yours returned at 11 months that may well be it now.
I’ve spoken to, and heard of, people who get pregnant again like 4 weeks after birth. My question is always wtf were they doing having unprotected sex at 4 weeks pp?! Like you say, not the smartest infection control. Plus how did they have the time/energy/desire?!They’ve changed the advice now to when you feel ready.
(Not sure why though, having a dinner plate sized wound in your womb where the placenta detached is not a smart environment for inviting infection obvs even if your bits feel ok!)
Not having a go at anyone who has btw, I just genuinely don’t understand how anyone does that
Haha right?Hey, so I am 10 weeks pp and have just finished bleeding - I saw you say you had an infection, did you have any other symptoms other than bleeding? This is the longest I’ve ever had pp bleeding for (4 kids) so it does worry me a bit!
I breastfed all mine, with my first my period came back at 9 months and it just went straight back to normal, same with the others (at 20 and 17 months), so I would say if yours returned at 11 months that may well be it now.
I’ve spoken to, and heard of, people who get pregnant again like 4 weeks after birth. My question is always wtf were they doing having unprotected sex at 4 weeks pp?! Like you say, not the smartest infection control. Plus how did they have the time/energy/desire?!
Not having a go at anyone who has btw, I just genuinely don’t understand how anyone does that
Who is there with a 4 week old thinking you know what? I want another. I love this lack of sleep and emotional mess
Again, no offence to anyone who has. Each to their own
I have to applaud anyone who has the energy and desire to be shagging that quickly again - I’d kill my husband with a look if he even suggested itHaha right?
Who is there with a 4 week old thinking you know what? I want another. I love this lack of sleep and emotional mess
Again, no offence to anyone who has. Each to their own
Which cot is it? I got fitted sheets for my travel cot, it’s a red kite
I would love another one now tbhI have to applaud anyone who has the energy and desire to be shagging that quickly again - I’d kill my husband with a look if he even suggested it
people think I’m mad. I’m 15 weeks pp but after the delivery I had my body would probably need about another year to heal plus I’d be going for an elective c section next time just due to the delivery I had 1st time roundNot sure on size but we got our travel cot sheets from Asda
it’s a joie kubbie one!Which cot is it? I got fitted sheets for my travel cot, it’s a red kite
I would love another one now tbh
I would also love another one now tbh, just not the right time at the moment! I’m actually studying whilst I’m on mat leave as I’m having a complete career change and if I have a new employer (currently self employed) I’ll have to work for a bit to get any form of maternity pay! So probably not the best time for another baby, plus I think my husband would cry 1000 tears hahahah
I got these off Amazon their good I don’t think their for one specific travel cot either. I’ll post the link below if you want to have a look
I’d have another tomorrow we’ve agreed to wait at least until our first turns 2 we want no more than 2 years between them ideallyhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B00NMKP0YQ?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title
This is a bit of a personal one but would be really grateful for your opinions. Baby no2 is 5 months this week. With my first our days were full of socialising and baby classes. This time around we have obviously had lockdown to contend with plus my dad died when baby was 2 weeks old. To start with I was booking national trust places and getting us out and about a few times a week and continuing my toddlers acitiviities. As time has gone on I’m finding it harder and harder to motivate myself to do anything for either girl and want to just stay home. Trying to decide if this is because there’s two of them or because there’s something wrong.
I was accessing counselling through the gp but found it was just another demand on my time I couldn’t handle.
I was accessing counselling through the gp but found it was just another demand on my time I couldn’t handle.
So sorry to hear about your dad. That must of been really tough for you.
How are you in other aspects of life, like washing your hair and stuff?
I feel the exact same as you regarding the children. It just seems like an effort to get us all out but I think that is down to lock down. I just haven't got the energy. I find it hard we can't just go out on the day and everything needs prebooking so I just don't bother. Lock down has made me so lazy.
I have found that taking my eldest out with the dog for a walk really helps my mood and helps us get that 1 on 1 time. Otherwise I find it hard to split my time. Is there something like this you can do?
I would say if you feel like you need to talk someone it would really help. Have you contacted your health visitor as they could have some ideas.
Sorry if I've rambled on and haven't made much sense. We are all here for you xx
Yes I do wonder if like you said it’s a bit of a lag effect of lockdown. I can’t be bothered booking things to then find the toddler needs a nap etc and lien you said getting two out is so much harder than just one.
Part of me thinks these early days/ years (!) are just going to be tough and then I’ll get to rest and they’ll play together and this will be a distant memory.
We are at the point with the dr where all they can really offer me is medication which I’ve been reluctant to accept as I’m not in the pits of despair just really really struggling with motivation.
My toddler is in nursery 3 days a week but I find I just spend those days watching tv and resting which feels such a waste when I’m back in work in a couple of months. I feel like I’ve wasted all of my maternity leave grieving and waiting for things to get easier if that makes sense?
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don’t feel like you’ve wasted your maternity leave at all!! You are doing more for your little ones than you probably realise. I don’t have any intentions to join baby groups with people I don’t know at the moment. Do you have any friends nearby with children? Or are you close by to family at all? the fact that you are speakingup about this seems to be good I think. I think there is a lot of pressure on mums (& dads) to have to perform and take kids on amazing days out, it’s a really difficult thing to balance.
Don't feel like you've wasted it.
Your children don't need to be out and about to enjoy their time. I can guarantee your toddler is just as happy being at home with you!
I think it's more of an adult thing to be thinking you need to be out doing things. The kids don't really know any different!
But also the thing saying about having to book times and not knowing naps ect is the worst!
That's one thing that puts me off!
It's alright booking a slot but I don't know until the day what time the baby is going to want feeds
Lockdown taught me if I couldn't get out with my eldest he didn't give a tit. Before I used to feel so guilty if I wasn't taking him here, there and everywhere then when we couldn't I realised I didn't have to be out everyday.
You must not feel guilty for resting up and chilling with your baby. These days go so quick, even though some days may feel like hour after hour. xx
You must not feel guilty for resting up and chilling with your baby. These days go so quick, even though some days may feel like hour after hour. xx
I agree with the above. Before covid I was very much “we must be out” every weekend, I had lists of places to go in summer holidays etc. But my kids (now aged 8, 5, 2.5) were so happy being at hone this last 15 months. Yes they enjoy going places, but they don’t care if we stay at home- and I’ve managed to come to that point myself now.
@OIM i do find it hard to muster the energy to get everyone out some days. Some days you just can’t be bothered, it seems like too much hassle - especially if you’re tired. But if you find yourself not wanting to go out at all, as in no days, then I do think maybe another chat with your GP, as I would worry it could be a sign of ppd.
@OIM i do find it hard to muster the energy to get everyone out some days. Some days you just can’t be bothered, it seems like too much hassle - especially if you’re tired. But if you find yourself not wanting to go out at all, as in no days, then I do think maybe another chat with your GP, as I would worry it could be a sign of ppd.
Baby has been in a pattern of waiting up every 2.5-3hr at night, I stopped putting alarms on to wake up to feed him since he hit his birth weight and was getting in a routine naturally, but last night we both slept from 12am to 5am straight! He’s 5 weeks and still exclusively breast fed so woke up feeling so guilty and was so worried he was starving, is it normal for breastfed babies to have longer stretches of sleep this early on? Or was that too long? I think he’s making it up today though. Can’t get off the bloody boob!
Motherhood is so annoying, you crave for more sleep and when you get it, you end up worrying.
Motherhood is so annoying, you crave for more sleep and when you get it, you end up worrying.
We had to wake to feed every 3 hrs from start of last feed as a new born but once she was up to weight they said it was fine to leave her until she asked/wokeBaby has been in a pattern of waiting up every 2.5-3hr at night, I stopped putting alarms on to wake up to feed him since he hit his birth weight and was getting in a routine naturally, but last night we both slept from 12am to 5am straight! He’s 5 weeks and still exclusively breast fed so woke up feeling so guilty and was so worried he was starving, is it normal for breastfed babies to have longer stretches of sleep this early on? Or was that too long? I think he’s making it up today though. Can’t get off the bloody boob!
Motherhood is so annoying, you crave for more sleep and when you get it, you end up worrying.
I have a bit of a sensitive issue and don’t really know where appropriate to ask but you guys always give the best advice so apologies it’s not new baby related but toddler related..
my son is 2.5 and keeps waking up from his nap distraught and pulling at his nappy because he has an erection. I’ve tried taking the nappy off thinking it was painful against it but then he wanted it back on and was even more upset I took it off. At the moment I’m just letting him cry it out as I don’t know what to do. Has anyone else had experience with this? It’s just the last 2 weeks but I feel a bit useless
my son is 2.5 and keeps waking up from his nap distraught and pulling at his nappy because he has an erection. I’ve tried taking the nappy off thinking it was painful against it but then he wanted it back on and was even more upset I took it off. At the moment I’m just letting him cry it out as I don’t know what to do. Has anyone else had experience with this? It’s just the last 2 weeks but I feel a bit useless
Bless him, no direct experience but my friend said her son was uncomfortable with his penis. The doctor confirmed that he did have a large penis for his age and his foreskin was very tight which was causing him pain. That’s all I can remember for now so maybe take him to the doctors? X
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