Good luck! Try and get some sleep tonight! Just take everything as it comes, you will be fine! How exciting you will meet your baby tomorrow!Ok, so I was admitted with reduced movements last night. Diagnosed with preeclampsia and they have scheduled my C-section for tomorrow.
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Oh goodness, hope you and baby are both doing ok this evening. Best of luck for tomorrow, canāt wait to hear your news!Ok, so I was admitted with reduced movements last night. Diagnosed with preeclampsia and they have scheduled my C-section for tomorrow.
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Good luck mumma. Donāt stress youāre in safe hands and everything is going to be fine xxOk, so I was admitted with reduced movements last night. Diagnosed with preeclampsia and they have scheduled my C-section for tomorrow.
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Thank you xxx
Felt weird reading that back
itās so unexpected but definitely welcome cause of the complications of preeclampsia ! Iām in a side room so hoping I can sleep enough to be recharged for the op xx
Were both actually ok, my blood pressure was sky high and they found high traces of protein in my urine , I didnāt actually feel unwell so I was lucky.
Babys movements have been abit off but its cause I had steroid injections so they said it would make him slightly idle and sleepy. Every so often he gives me a kick! Iām gonna miss him kicking and moving about
I guess it has to end at some point! Il try to update the thread when Iām up too it xx
Good luck and sending lots of baby love!!Ok, so I was admitted with reduced movements last night. Diagnosed with preeclampsia and they have scheduled my C-section for tomorrow.
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Shocked, nervous, excited..all in one!
Get lots of lavender oil if you are having a vaginal birth. This was an absolute godsend for me. I soaked my pads in it and put it in my baths and it really helped.
The only other advice is to not have any visitors you donāt want! I didnāt dare say no to anybody with my first baby in case I looked rude, but I really struggled to breastfeed and I remember sitting upstairs really struggling and being paranoid I had visitors downstairs waiting to meet the baby. In hindsight I wish I told them to just leave and let me concentrate on feeding my baby. Itās definitely something Iād do with my next.
The only other advice is to not have any visitors you donāt want! I didnāt dare say no to anybody with my first baby in case I looked rude, but I really struggled to breastfeed and I remember sitting upstairs really struggling and being paranoid I had visitors downstairs waiting to meet the baby. In hindsight I wish I told them to just leave and let me concentrate on feeding my baby. Itās definitely something Iād do with my next.
My advice would be to watch your moods! I watched out for mine after baby #1 and was convinced I was mentally fine after the first 3 months. As time went on I was SO emotional, crying over every little thing, angry over every little thing.. at 1 year postpartum it all came to a head when I was suicidal and I was diagnosed with moderate postpartum depression and it suddenly all made sense.
Second time around, Iām not half as emotional over milestones, etc. It all makes sense now I can look back and compare both pregnancies/births.
Second time around, Iām not half as emotional over milestones, etc. It all makes sense now I can look back and compare both pregnancies/births.
100% this! Iām actually glad weāre going to be in a partial lockdown still and no one can come round to visit. The first day we were home we had visitors from 9am-11pm and the only times I held him were when I went off too feed him upstairs. I still canāt look at photos of people holding him from that day now it makes me too sad. Biggest regret I have.
I remember it was 10pm and he was crying as he was due a feed and my sister in law was holding him telling him it was fine for him to cry, I was mortified looked at my husband who just looked at me distressed. I snapped shouted give me my baby back, took him away and she followed me to our bedroom shouting at my husband I was depressed. I wasnāt I was 2 days pp my baby was crying for milk and you wouldnāt let me have him,I had spent the last 2 hours sitting on our lounge floor while they all sat on the sofa while I was sore and swollen from stitches and I was tired and hungry after only eating biscuits all day
didnt intend to go into that but it feels like therapy finally admitting that! Not been able too before
I have heard far too many stories like this. Ones where new mum is expected to be making tea/coffee/snacks for everyone and play hostess while baby is passed round Like a parcel100% this! Iām actually glad weāre going to be in a partial lockdown still and no one can come round to visit. The first day we were home we had visitors from 9am-11pm and the only times I held him were when I went off too feed him upstairs. I still canāt look at photos of people holding him from that day now it makes me too sad. Biggest regret I have.
I remember it was 10pm and he was crying as he was due a feed and my sister in law was holding him telling him it was fine for him to cry, I was mortified looked at my husband who just looked at me distressed. I snapped shouted give me my baby back, took him away and she followed me to our bedroom shouting at my husband I was depressed. I wasnāt I was 2 days pp my baby was crying for milk and you wouldnāt let me have him,I had spent the last 2 hours sitting on our lounge floor while they all sat on the sofa while I was sore and swollen from stitches and I was tired and hungry after only eating biscuits all day
didnt intend to go into that but it feels like therapy finally admitting that! Not been able too before
With our first, my in laws had arranged to come over and stay 3 days after her birth (I was induced and they live in another country). I said to my husband I would prefer they stayed elsewhere, just with my parents, as I didnāt know how Iād feel, how feeding would be etc. I know they were really offended, but far too nice to say anything! All was fine in the end and the could have stayed, but Iām still glad I did it.
Now I welcome them ASAP after birth for as long as possible to help with the older kids
my MIL stayed for a week last time and Iām gutted she wonāt be able to this time!
I definitely agree with the keeping visitors at bay. Lockdown or no lockdown, itās so important. I did a breastfeeding workshop and the lady who ran it talked about the importance of not getting overwhelmed with visitors and taking the time to recover and establish feeding with baby. There were mums there who had had people just turning up with the first 
just remember you donāt have to answer the door and also your partner could just say you and baby are asleep and theyāll contact you with a better time. You have to be firm and people have to respect that you need time and space to recover.
I had a very difficult birth and an episiotomy that resulted in 3 cuts. I could barely walk, had to be helped to sit and get off the sofa. I couldnāt get into bed for a few days so we slept on our sofa. My stitches were just so painful and uncomfortable.
Luckily anyone wanting to visit were understanding and waited for an invite and weād just say it was for an hour and picked a time so theyād have to leave just before dinner or a midwife visit. The only time we went over was my husband parents visited on the hottest day ever (34 degrees
). We asked them to come an hour before our midwife was due. The midwife was really late and they stayed. As it was so hot and I was feeding, I should have drank so much but I forgot and then ended up feeling awful later that day with dehydration.
@Heybooboo Iām so sorry! That sounds awful and I can totally relate to how distressing that must have been. I canāt believe they made you sit on the floor
I could barely sit on my sofa so thereās no way Iād have been able to get onto the floor. I remember when my uncle visited my daughter would get uncomfortable with wind and it was better to hold her upright. He held her laying down and she was whimpering and my mum asked him to put her more upright but he ignored her. So my mum went over and readjusted her and he told her she was interfering. My mum was only there as she knew theyād be overbearing and overstay their welcome.
Then when we did a huge 30th party for my husband, Iād been in a really dark place with breastfeeding (baby had a tongue tie, health visitors had hounded me every day about her weight, saying they wanted to support breastfeeding while trying to force me onto a prescription high calorie formula, my daughter wouldnāt take a bottle so I couldnāt even supplement with normal formula, they tried to get us admitted to hospital for failure to thrive but no GP ever agreed to it which they blamed me for, which led to them on some witch hunt against me, until finally I got given the contact details for my local infant feeding coordinator from someone at a volunteer breastfeeding group, the coordinator found the TT and I went private to have it cut and it saved our BF journey) so my mental health was in tatters. Iād still had the health visitors breathing down my neck and I was feeling very vulnerable. My uncle kept making comments all night at the party to everyone about my mum holding my daughter. This was around the time coronavirus was surfacing, although nobody knew what it was, we agreed our baby wouldnāt be passed around at the party to avoid germs and to make it easier to feed on demand, only me my husband and my mum would hold her because we knew her feeding cues. She was feeding a lot because weād been set back on our breastfeeding journey. Most people understood except my uncle. Kept telling people my daughter was mollycoddled and my mum was controlling etc. All the while not even bothering to ask if we were ok or why we were being careful or why it was important I fed my daughter on demand (he even said she was a bit old to feed at 4 months old
). As the night went on, she got irritable as sheād missed her afternoon nap as my uncle and his family were meant to help us decorate but didnāt turn up. So we did it all alone, then literally had 10 minutes to get ready for a fancy dress party and when I kept trying to find quieter places to feed her and settle her, perhaps have a nap, I ended up outside in my car. Silly me, sat with the engine on, the heater and radio. The battery died and my uncles house was nearby so he sent his wife to get jump leads for me. Made sure to open the door and tell me I was making a rod for my own back and my daughter just needed to get used to noise and parties. Didnāt ask if I needed anything like a drink.
A lot of people donāt understand baby behaviour and thereās too many āexpertsā out there. Iāve always followed my daughter and let her lead the way. Iāve researched everything like weaning so I know Iām doing what is right for now, not what people did in the 80s. Mothers instinct is very powerful and being baby led has always worked for us
itās your baby and your decisions at the end of the day
just remember you donāt have to answer the door and also your partner could just say you and baby are asleep and theyāll contact you with a better time. You have to be firm and people have to respect that you need time and space to recover. I had a very difficult birth and an episiotomy that resulted in 3 cuts. I could barely walk, had to be helped to sit and get off the sofa. I couldnāt get into bed for a few days so we slept on our sofa. My stitches were just so painful and uncomfortable.
Luckily anyone wanting to visit were understanding and waited for an invite and weād just say it was for an hour and picked a time so theyād have to leave just before dinner or a midwife visit. The only time we went over was my husband parents visited on the hottest day ever (34 degrees
). We asked them to come an hour before our midwife was due. The midwife was really late and they stayed. As it was so hot and I was feeding, I should have drank so much but I forgot and then ended up feeling awful later that day with dehydration. @Heybooboo Iām so sorry! That sounds awful and I can totally relate to how distressing that must have been. I canāt believe they made you sit on the floor
I could barely sit on my sofa so thereās no way Iād have been able to get onto the floor. I remember when my uncle visited my daughter would get uncomfortable with wind and it was better to hold her upright. He held her laying down and she was whimpering and my mum asked him to put her more upright but he ignored her. So my mum went over and readjusted her and he told her she was interfering. My mum was only there as she knew theyād be overbearing and overstay their welcome.Then when we did a huge 30th party for my husband, Iād been in a really dark place with breastfeeding (baby had a tongue tie, health visitors had hounded me every day about her weight, saying they wanted to support breastfeeding while trying to force me onto a prescription high calorie formula, my daughter wouldnāt take a bottle so I couldnāt even supplement with normal formula, they tried to get us admitted to hospital for failure to thrive but no GP ever agreed to it which they blamed me for, which led to them on some witch hunt against me, until finally I got given the contact details for my local infant feeding coordinator from someone at a volunteer breastfeeding group, the coordinator found the TT and I went private to have it cut and it saved our BF journey) so my mental health was in tatters. Iād still had the health visitors breathing down my neck and I was feeling very vulnerable. My uncle kept making comments all night at the party to everyone about my mum holding my daughter. This was around the time coronavirus was surfacing, although nobody knew what it was, we agreed our baby wouldnāt be passed around at the party to avoid germs and to make it easier to feed on demand, only me my husband and my mum would hold her because we knew her feeding cues. She was feeding a lot because weād been set back on our breastfeeding journey. Most people understood except my uncle. Kept telling people my daughter was mollycoddled and my mum was controlling etc. All the while not even bothering to ask if we were ok or why we were being careful or why it was important I fed my daughter on demand (he even said she was a bit old to feed at 4 months old
). As the night went on, she got irritable as sheād missed her afternoon nap as my uncle and his family were meant to help us decorate but didnāt turn up. So we did it all alone, then literally had 10 minutes to get ready for a fancy dress party and when I kept trying to find quieter places to feed her and settle her, perhaps have a nap, I ended up outside in my car. Silly me, sat with the engine on, the heater and radio. The battery died and my uncles house was nearby so he sent his wife to get jump leads for me. Made sure to open the door and tell me I was making a rod for my own back and my daughter just needed to get used to noise and parties. Didnāt ask if I needed anything like a drink. A lot of people donāt understand baby behaviour and thereās too many āexpertsā out there. Iāve always followed my daughter and let her lead the way. Iāve researched everything like weaning so I know Iām doing what is right for now, not what people did in the 80s. Mothers instinct is very powerful and being baby led has always worked for us
itās your baby and your decisions at the end of the day
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Your uncle sounds like a bit of a dickI definitely agree with the keeping visitors at bay. Lockdown or no lockdown, itās so important. I did a breastfeeding workshop and the lady who ran it talked about the importance of not getting overwhelmed with visitors and taking the time to recover and establish feeding with baby. There were mums there who had had people just turning up with the first
I had a very difficult birth and an episiotomy that resulted in 3 cuts. I could barely walk, had to be helped to sit and get off the sofa. I couldnāt get into bed for a few days so we slept on our sofa. My stitches were just so painful and uncomfortable.
Luckily anyone wanting to visit were understanding and waited for an invite and weād just say it was for an hour and picked a time so theyād have to leave just before dinner or a midwife visit. The only time we went over was my husband parents visited on the hottest day ever (34 degrees
@Heybooboo Iām so sorry! That sounds awful and I can totally relate to how distressing that must have been. I canāt believe they made you sit on the floor
Then when we did a huge 30th party for my husband, Iād been in a really dark place with breastfeeding (baby had a tongue tie, health visitors had hounded me every day about her weight, saying they wanted to support breastfeeding while trying to force me onto a prescription high calorie formula, my daughter wouldnāt take a bottle so I couldnāt even supplement with normal formula, they tried to get us admitted to hospital for failure to thrive but no GP ever agreed to it which they blamed me for, which led to them on some witch hunt against me, until finally I got given the contact details for my local infant feeding coordinator from someone at a volunteer breastfeeding group, the coordinator found the TT and I went private to have it cut and it saved our BF journey) so my mental health was in tatters. Iād still had the health visitors breathing down my neck and I was feeling very vulnerable. My uncle kept making comments all night at the party to everyone about my mum holding my daughter. This was around the time coronavirus was surfacing, although nobody knew what it was, we agreed our baby wouldnāt be passed around at the party to avoid germs and to make it easier to feed on demand, only me my husband and my mum would hold her because we knew her feeding cues. She was feeding a lot because weād been set back on our breastfeeding journey. Most people understood except my uncle. Kept telling people my daughter was mollycoddled and my mum was controlling etc. All the while not even bothering to ask if we were ok or why we were being careful or why it was important I fed my daughter on demand (he even said she was a bit old to feed at 4 months old
A lot of people donāt understand baby behaviour and thereās too many āexpertsā out there. Iāve always followed my daughter and let her lead the way. Iāve researched everything like weaning so I know Iām doing what is right for now, not what people did in the 80s. Mothers instinct is very powerful and being baby led has always worked for us
I know a lot of the older generation just donāt āgetā that we donāt parent the way they did, which is fine, Iām sure one day Iāll be the same. But donāt be a dick about it.When I had my first, he was due around Christmas and my brother in law and his partner had come down for Christmas as they live far away. My baby was very poorly at birth and we had to stay in nicu for a few days. We were eventually allowed home after 5 days and my brother in law and his partner were going back home that night. We were discharged at about 8pm and they phoned asking if they could come round to meet the baby as no one had been able to visit in hospital as my baby had been in Nicu. We reluctantly agreed and when they came over they ordered takeaway and stayed until about 11pm! I was so shattered, weād had basically no sleep for about a week and they didnāt seem all that interested in the baby anyway! 2nd time around we were a lot more strict about visitors!
Glad for this thread.
am meant to be getting induced in a few weeks, but have heard horror stories from my 2 friends about how they werenāt given any pain relief (not even gas and air) till delivery room!
can anyone shed light on their induction experience?
i have already had one baby, was meant to get induced with her but she came early and it all happened so quickly so laboured at home and was ready to push by the time i got to hospital, managed to have gas and air at the end!
If I went into natural labour i think iād be more relaxed but have heard how Intense it is with induction and think Iāll definitely need something earlier in that case.
more worried about labour this time around tbh because I know whatās in store
am meant to be getting induced in a few weeks, but have heard horror stories from my 2 friends about how they werenāt given any pain relief (not even gas and air) till delivery room!
can anyone shed light on their induction experience?
i have already had one baby, was meant to get induced with her but she came early and it all happened so quickly so laboured at home and was ready to push by the time i got to hospital, managed to have gas and air at the end!
If I went into natural labour i think iād be more relaxed but have heard how Intense it is with induction and think Iāll definitely need something earlier in that case.
more worried about labour this time around tbh because I know whatās in store
That has actually reminded me that my SIL had decided she was going to come and stay with us on the day I was going in to be induced. She asked my husband would he pick her up at the station (she had been elsewhere and had gotten the train up) and would he be able to run her round! She didnāt get it when he was like āerm no- we will be at the hospital!ā She then said we could give her a key and she could just stay at ours until we came home. Absolutely not, matey. I told my husband to give her the address of places to stay, and in the end there was absolutely no point to her visit as my induction went on quite long and she was away before I was out. Some people are just idiots.
I was induced with babies 1&2. Both times I was able to have G&A, over the counter pain and a bath for pain relief while still on the induction ward. I donāt have natural labour to compare it to, but people do say it is much more intense in terms of contractions and pain. But you will be fine. I survived and I am an absolute wimp! Honestly I am the worst with painGlad for this thread.
am meant to be getting induced in a few weeks, but have heard horror stories from my 2 friends about how they werenāt given any pain relief (not even gas and air) till delivery room!
can anyone shed light on their induction experience?
i have already had one baby, was meant to get induced with her but she came early and it all happened so quickly so laboured at home and was ready to push by the time i got to hospital, managed to have gas and air at the end!
If I went into natural labour i think iād be more relaxed but have heard how Intense it is with induction and think Iāll definitely need something earlier in that case.
more worried about labour this time around tbh because I know whatās in store
I think with Covid itās completely fair enough to expect people to call ahead and ask before visiting anyway. Even once the restrictions lift, Iāll be being very careful with who is around my newborn and the idea of people just turning up isnāt appealing at all. I would always call ahead before visiting a new baby - what if theyāre just chilling out, not showered, havenāt slept, just not in the mood to see people?
It seems like as soon as thereās a new baby thatās what everyone focuses on and thereās not much thought given to the parents.
It seems like as soon as thereās a new baby thatās what everyone focuses on and thereās not much thought given to the parents.
Exactly! His downfall is he thinks he knows everything and knows best. Heās ruined his relationship with me because I got sick of it and it hurt. I just needed support and understanding. I think like you say some of the older generation think they know everything, luckily my mum and mother in law just accepted all of the new things like weaning around 6mYour uncle sounds like a bit of a dick
If restrictions allow, are you able to bubble with your MIL? You could really do with her support again and I honestly donāt know how weād have managed without my mum and my daughter was our first.
When I was induced I had paracetamol and diamorphine but no gas and air until the delivery suite. I donāt have a natural labour to compare to either but honestly my contractions werenāt that bad. I was induced at about 10am and had my baby at 4:44 am the next day so itās not always a really long labour.
My other half can only take a week off after my c-section so my dad is taking the week off after that to help with the school run for my eldest and heāll pop by to help with the toddler if needed. Iām hoping he doesnāt bring the whole clan along. Thereās my mum, and then my brother still lives at home and heās on furlough. My family have a tendency to visit (before lockdown I should add) and stay for the entire day. I can imagine them all popping by sat in our tiny living room while Iām trying to establish breastfeeding (first time breastfeeding so Iām clueless) so I perhaps need to say something now to give them a heads up about expectations. Not sure what to say that isnāt, āPlease donāt all come round for the entire dayā 
No we bubble with my parents, and my MIL canāt travel in to our country without a 10 day quarantine period so we wonāt be able to see her until all the restrictions are lifted, unfortunately. My parents will do all the school runs for me (Iām having a section) and take my toddler a few days, which is a big help though.Exactly! His downfall is he thinks he knows everything and knows best. Heās ruined his relationship with me because I got sick of it and it hurt. I just needed support and understanding. I think like you say some of the older generation think they know everything, luckily my mum and mother in law just accepted all of the new things like weaning around 6m
If restrictions allow, are you able to bubble with your MIL? You could really do with her support again and I honestly donāt know how weād have managed without my mum and my daughter was our first.
I was induced in January. I was terrified as had read so many horror stories.Glad for this thread.
am meant to be getting induced in a few weeks, but have heard horror stories from my 2 friends about how they werenāt given any pain relief (not even gas and air) till delivery room!
can anyone shed light on their induction experience?
i have already had one baby, was meant to get induced with her but she came early and it all happened so quickly so laboured at home and was ready to push by the time i got to hospital, managed to have gas and air at the end!
If I went into natural labour i think iād be more relaxed but have heard how Intense it is with induction and think Iāll definitely need something earlier in that case.
more worried about labour this time around tbh because I know whatās in store
Mine was all positive tho and was a really quick induction (I didnāt even make it to the labour ward). The only negative was that my partner missed the birth due to how fast it was.
My contractions with my 2nd baby (natural labour) were way more intense than my induced contractions. But I know itās different for everyone.
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