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yep super expensive. I was going to try whirli at around 6 months old. Less expensive - also less fancy / Montessori looking stuff - but thatās what I have my eye on for toy subscription.Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?!View attachment 756660
Mega expensive! Surely it makes more sense to buy what you want, as you want it? I feel like you could get the same stuff from Amazon for half price or less with very little effort. I know the point is that itās effortless but I wouldnāt pay double for that personallyJust had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?!
Sooooo expensive. I was delighted to see them doing stuff in the UK now, and I really subscribe to a lot of Montessori principles, and their stuff looks great butJust had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?!
ā so expensive! That said when I looked up the bits I wanted it worked out very expensive that way too as a few pieces seem quite unique to them (obvs the ones Iām after 
). Plus I can see this stuff lasting well, and I dread to think what is spent on toys overall 
but since this is our last baby I canāt justify that price.Yes! Crazy expensive. I guess some of the toys in there are quite niche ones you canāt get elsewhere so if there are specific ones you wanted it might be worth a one off, but stillā¦Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?!
my 2 week old still prefers staring at a black and white cushion Iāve had for about 10 years as opposed to the Ā£27 Etta Loves sensory muslins I bought the other day out of guilt I wasnāt stimulating her enough!
Oh wow....I've not seen these before (why would I? My kid is now 23 years old!)Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?!
"Ā£38 per month of play".
. I've spent loads of money on kids toys over the years, and with the benefit of hindsight, I can tell you now, that your kids will prefer the noisiest, most horrible plastic tat that you can find. I love the idea of "developmental research", gender neutral toys, things that don't harm the planet, etc, etc. But children have other ideas. My son's favourite toy was, at one point, my plastic pasta spoon (which I still have), we couldn't leave the house without it. I taught him the colours, before he could speak properly, simply because he got very excited when he saw me painting my nails red one day. Within 3 hours, he had learned the names of colours, just by me pointing out other things which were red like my nails, then blue, then yellow, and so on. My son is definitely not a genius, but you honestly don't need expensive subscription boxes in order to help your children to learn and to play. Just make sure that you talk to them all day (so do get off your phone!) Read to them often, and especially at bedtime. Let them play with cardboard boxes, let them rip up newspapers, let them bang your saucepans with a wooden spoon. Kids will play with anything, even now, mine will instantly grab the long tube from the inside of the Christmas wrapping paper, and wave it around while making light saber noises! 
Just have to say what a lovely name Finn is. It was our boy choice but we got a second girl. My toddler tells me her baby will be called Finn!Thank you everyone for all the support and info. Iām just gonna go with the flow with Finn and let him tell me how heās doing and what he needs and try not to worry what the general rule is. I struggle with worrying about doing stuff wrong and my anxiety means I like to be in control and if I donāt know what Iām doing I spiral. Anxiety is worse when Iām tired so this is why Iām like this today. I love Finn, Iām a good mom and I can do this. Itās just new and Iām learning every day. I mustnāt be too hard on myself anymore. Thank you for allowing me to ask lots of questions. I get much more info off here than anywhere else. My mom is a firm believer of ālet them cryā so I donāt ask her for advice and I donāt really have anyone else to ask so I appreciate you all a lot.
We use whirli and itās brilliant. Really come into its own now thereās 2. We borrowed some brilliant baby bits and itās so easy to return as they grow out. Iām not sure if itās allowed but I have a referral code.
See when you actually say Ā£38 a month I donāt think that then sounds that bad 
if you think you get about 4-5 toys they will play with for a while, whereas something like this monstrosity is Ā£30 and has quite limited potential! We donāt have noisy, plastic stuff in our house, no toys that take batteries. I just absolutely hate them, my kids are noisy enough without adding another layer 
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if you think you get about 4-5 toys they will play with for a while, whereas something like this monstrosity is Ā£30 and has quite limited potential! We donāt have noisy, plastic stuff in our house, no toys that take batteries. I just absolutely hate them, my kids are noisy enough without adding another layer Amazon product
Baby OIM update. We should be discharged later today. Sheās gone all night without the feeding tube. Sheās had about 6oz of milk since 7 last night but managed some purĆ©es and water so they feel thereās nothing they can do here that we canāt do at home. Iām excited to get her home but also terrified of her deteriorating. They seem pretty sure sheās at the end of bronchiolitis and thatās why sheās off her food plus teething. We wonāt know much more about her seizures until we see the specialists in October. Just crossing everything she wonāt have another before then.
So I thought having visitors would be nice but I actually hate it haha. My parents came round this afternoon and my dad overstimulated the baby and didnāt let him sleep for an hour and a half and just basically shouted at him the whole time āsay grandadā and all this tit and in the end Finn just cried and couldnāt be soothed cause he was over tired. Heās never been like that. My dad obviously wasnāt interested once he was crying. My dad kept saying how babies are more fun from 18 months old and how he wants to be the first to take him swimming and to the seaside etc. So treats him like heās older whereas heās two weeks old and just needs to sleep. But apparently thatās āboringā. I actually wanna say ok come back when heās 18 months old and no, weāll be the first to do all this stuff with him. Heās our son. Me and husband are now physically and emotionally exhausted and we feel frustrated that we love our own little bubble and visits mess it up. Felt like we havenāt had any time to ourselves just us three today. My mom is absolutely lovely with him and actually listens to what I tell her to do with him, itās amazing. I think they expect to come over every weekend but itās actually exhausting to deal with. Havenāt had a nap today and tonight is gonna be so hard. I felt so positive this morning after the pep talk from you guys and I was doing so well with following Finnās cues but now I just feel fed up again. Sorry, rant over.
Your dad sounds just like my FIL. The whole āwhen can he start playing golf? When can we take him to football?ā Stfu heās 6 months old
heās just dropped my husband off at home now and asked if he could say a quick hello, I was just finished doing his bedtime story so I was like errrrrrm 2 mins cause heās not sleepy yet but I donāt wanna stimulate him. So what does he do? Tries to tickle the poor thing, which then set him off crying. My in laws do a really crappy job of trying to convince me theyād be great at looking after him. Whereas my mum, like yours, is absolutely fab with him. Why do people think that babies want to be tickled all the time?Have you got the day together with just your husband and Finn tomorrow? Time is so precious when they are back at work. Iām really selfish and Iām not afraid to admit it. We are going away for our wedding anniversary in November and his parents have asked if they can come for the night so my husband and his dad can play golf. Obviously it was a flat no from me!
Oh god, why canāt people have a little thought and try to respect what weāre saying as their parent? Itās just tiring.Your dad sounds just like my FIL. The whole āwhen can he start playing golf? When can we take him to football?ā Stfu heās 6 months old
Have you got the day together with just your husband and Finn tomorrow? Time is so precious when they are back at work. Iām really selfish and Iām not afraid to admit it. We are going away for our wedding anniversary in November and his parents have asked if they can come for the night so my husband and his dad can play golf. Obviously it was a flat no from me!
yeah weāve got the day just us tomorrow so weāre going to have a super chill homey day together. I need to be more selfish and be able to say no. Before Finn arrived I was very emotionally reliant on my mom and would call her every day and talk to her about everything but now I feel like Iām not like that at all and my husband has majorly stepped up and shown how much I can actually rely on him and I donāt need approval and emotional support from my mom so much anymore. So I think I want to step away from my parents a bit but they want to be around me more cause of Finn lol.
As if they wanted to come away with you for your anniversary though! Boundaries, people!
I really appreciate you all on here. Youāre genuinely like mum friends who I can turn to for advice and proper chats. Youāre all lovely xx
@Kitt ugh it is so hard having other people around your baby, I definitely feel you on that. You feel like you donāt want to be rude and snatch your baby back, but sometimes babies just need their mummies again 
They need us to regulate them after some stranger (to them!) has been over stimulating them. But it is so hard, because it feels rude to just say āgive me my baby backā. Sounds like an exhausting day for you, and for Finn. I hope he sleeps well tonight and you get some rest.
You donāt have to invite anyone over. You could play the covid card and say youāre being careful, or you could just straight up say you donāt want any visitors right now and youāll be in touch soon. You donāt owe anyone anything when it comes to Finn
They need us to regulate them after some stranger (to them!) has been over stimulating them. But it is so hard, because it feels rude to just say āgive me my baby backā. Sounds like an exhausting day for you, and for Finn. I hope he sleeps well tonight and you get some rest. You donāt have to invite anyone over. You could play the covid card and say youāre being careful, or you could just straight up say you donāt want any visitors right now and youāll be in touch soon. You donāt owe anyone anything when it comes to Finn
I bleeping hate men. That is all.
The pain in my coccyx is still very much here. And mt health anxiety is just telling me more and more its something more sinister than just an after effect of child birth
I've been looking at these for the highchair! I put the toy bit from his mamas and papas chair onto the highchair tray but I think he's a bit bored of it now. Does it stick down quite well?Ladies, Iāve just got this for my little boy and stuck it to the table on his mamas and papas activity seat. He LOVES it
sorry I liked this the other night and forgot to reply. Thank you, we love his name so much
and we get so many compliments too which is lovely.would love a code! Iām not gonna start looking into it until the new year though, so if youāre still using it then and have a code can I ask you for it then?
hope your little one is doing ok today xx
I think the mamas and papas seat is one of the best things weāve bought so far. Sticks down really well! He gives it a good old whack and it hasnāt budged. I love the Lamaze stuff, my mum bought him the playgym when he was born and he still loves it now
If youāre looking for stuff to suction down I really recommend these (loads on Amazon). I imagine theyād stick well to a high chair tray, we stick them on patio doors, the floor etc and baby loves them (so does our toddler). They are great wee ones for tummy time, and they always shush him up if heās grumping
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