New baby and post birth advice #28 being a mum is the best present I could have ever wished for

[bottombanana]

@Babyyoda88 Happy birthday to tiny babyyoda I hope you’ve all had a lovely day celebrating. It’s been a tough year for you all so you definitely deserve it x

 

[onlyheretoorbit]

I can’t remember if we discussed it here or in the pregnancy threads, but there’s that phenomenon that as soon as a man needs to be somewhere, he’ll start doing obscure jobs around the house instead.

Mr O has bought us a Dominos which needs to be collected. I’ve told him several times that I’m fecking starving and may eat the dog. He’s currently watering the garden.

 

[Definitelyme]

I can’t remember if we discussed it here or in the pregnancy threads, but there’s that phenomenon that as soon as a man needs to be somewhere, he’ll start doing obscure jobs around the house instead.

Mr O has bought us a Dominos which needs to be collected. I’ve told him several times that I’m fecking starving and may eat the dog. He’s currently watering the garden.

I laugh because it’s so true but also wtf? Who disregards the need for dominos like that

 

[Dipdab]

I can’t remember if we discussed it here or in the pregnancy threads, but there’s that phenomenon that as soon as a man needs to be somewhere, he’ll start doing obscure jobs around the house instead.

Mr O has bought us a Dominos which needs to be collected. I’ve told him several times that I’m fecking starving and may eat the dog. He’s currently watering the garden.

Yes my kw is always like this! If we’re tidying up the house for visitors etc he will decide to clean something totally random like the inside of the wardrobe (true story) rather than being useful and hoovering the living room .

Happy birthday baby @Babyyoda88 hope you’re having a lovely weekend celebrating together

 

[Dak1988]

Just woken up and baby Rita had wriggled herself to one side of the cot and had her face squished up against the side. I’m now terrified to go back to sleep

My little girl does this!!! She insists on shuffling to the top and squash’s her face against the side or the corner! It used to freak me out but now I figure she just likes it I sometimes put a dummy in her mouth with the logic that there’s then more of a gap to breathe

 

[bepobee]

Yes my kw is always like this! If we’re tidying up the house for visitors etc he will decide to clean something totally random like the inside of the wardrobe (true story) rather than being useful and hoovering the living room .

I got my KW to help cleaning the house for some friends of his to stay a few weeks ago and despite there being a bunch of different jobs to do, he spent an HOUR cleaning the bathroom which I said just needed a quick wipe down. He was scrubbing it to death and as he said "doing it properly" insinuating that I don't clean it well enough usually! Cheeky fucker - could have murdered him and I did point out he's free to clean it whenever he likes!!

 

[Cucumberthunder]

Bit of a random one. Does anyone know where I can go that is baby friendly in Gloucester on a Sunday? We're there for a couple of hours in the centre, but with no car. I'm thinking a baby friendly cafe and a nice park with baby swings etc. It's that or I'll just be doing loops of the outlet centre with the pram.

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Ive had enough of being a mum today, twin 2 has only taken 7ozs of milk all day. She's pulled her NG tube out 3 times before ive even started a feed
Shes had 3 meals. I just worry its not enough, she won't drink anything recently
I can't even feed her whilst she's asleep because trying to NG a sleeping baby is like wrestling a lion when you're covered in meat
This sounds so selfish, but I absolutely despise that she's not "okay" I hate life because of it.

 

[Cucumberthunder]

Yes my kw is always like this! If we’re tidying up the house for visitors etc he will decide to clean something totally random like the inside of the wardrobe (true story) rather than being useful and hoovering the living room .

Happy birthday baby @Babyyoda88 hope you’re having a lovely weekend celebrating together

Mine completely fails to understand the impact of different tasks, like putting away the laundry makes a much bigger impact on how tidy the room feels than fixing the plug socket.

Ive had enough of being a mum today, twin 2 has only taken 7ozs of milk all day. She's pulled her NG tube out 3 times before ive even started a feed
Shes had 3 meals. I just worry its not enough, she won't drink anything recently
I can't even feed her whilst she's asleep because trying to NG a sleeping baby is like wrestling a lion when you're covered in meat
This sounds so selfish, but I absolutely despise that she's not "okay" I hate life because of it.

Sorry you're having a tit day and that's not selfish at all. It's a valid, honest feeling and hopefully sharing will help.

 

[onlyheretoorbit]

Yes my kw is always like this! If we’re tidying up the house for visitors etc he will decide to clean something totally random like the inside of the wardrobe (true story) rather than being useful and hoovering the living room .

Happy birthday baby @Babyyoda88 hope you’re having a lovely weekend celebrating together

Wait…your guests don’t check out the insides of your wardrobes???

 

[wakametango 2.0]

Ive had enough of being a mum today, twin 2 has only taken 7ozs of milk all day. She's pulled her NG tube out 3 times before ive even started a feed
Shes had 3 meals. I just worry its not enough, she won't drink anything recently
I can't even feed her whilst she's asleep because trying to NG a sleeping baby is like wrestling a lion when you're covered in meat
This sounds so selfish, but I absolutely despise that she's not "okay" I hate life because of it.

is she waking for milk during the night?

 

[I’mThankyou_]

is she waking for milk during the night?

She wakes up and throws herself around but she won't take a feed she'll just whinge until she tires herself out again

 

[Definitelyme]

Ive had enough of being a mum today, twin 2 has only taken 7ozs of milk all day. She's pulled her NG tube out 3 times before ive even started a feed
Shes had 3 meals. I just worry its not enough, she won't drink anything recently
I can't even feed her whilst she's asleep because trying to NG a sleeping baby is like wrestling a lion when you're covered in meat
This sounds so selfish, but I absolutely despise that she's not "okay" I hate life because of it.

It is not selfish at all. You are worried about her more than yourself, so it couldn’t possibly be selfish. And actually, I think to be selfish every now and again and wish things were different (easier?) is a totally valid, normal way to feel when life has dealt you a pretty crappy hand Nobody is a saint, and pretending you never feel anything but delighted with T2s special situation won’t do anyone any good. X

 

[Loubywoobywoo]

I don’t know what to do with baby. He’s constantly falling and banging his head. He done it twice today within 10 minutes (he fell out the back door - there’s no height, but I think the bit at the bottom confused him - and then his toddler brother jumped at something knocking him over…
I think I’m going to have to invest in a little crash helmet. He had some calpol after the second incident, as I would not be surprised if it gave him a headache
He is now properly on the move, and has the whole of downstairs at his knees. Pray for me

Not a mum, but I have spent years nannying and in a creche. One of the boys had a padded hat/helmet thing to protect him from injuries, it was very efficient!
For the mum worried about what to get for baby ( possibly because money is tight), there’s the Discontent about rising gas/electricity/food thread and a mum on there is in the same boat as you. Perhaps you can give each other ideas and support.
My brother and his wife got married in August 2021 and are expecting a little girl ( if the scan is correct) in November 2022. I already have a niece and nephew, but have barely seen my niece ( she was 2 and a bit when I last saw her) and have never met my nephew, as they live in my homeland. My brother and his wife live in Paris, and I am in the suburbs, so I’ll actually get to see my niece regularly, hurrah! I volunteer as tribute for all the babysitting and have bought her quite a few things already ( giraffe and duck /goose themed).
Since working in a Montessori school and the creche where I was being Montessori-inspired, I am a big fan of wooden, simple toys,rather than the flashing, noisy plastic toys I used to buy for the children I nannied/babysat/tutored. My sister also prefers wooden toys and has said no Lego/plastic stuff unless it’s second hand! I do love Lego though, but maybe once my nephew is 3 it’ll be more acceptable.
I have seen Lovevery boxes and think they look so cool, but man, they are expensive!

 

[jackolantern]

Ive had enough of being a mum today, twin 2 has only taken 7ozs of milk all day. She's pulled her NG tube out 3 times before ive even started a feed
Shes had 3 meals. I just worry its not enough, she won't drink anything recently
I can't even feed her whilst she's asleep because trying to NG a sleeping baby is like wrestling a lion when you're covered in meat
This sounds so selfish, but I absolutely despise that she's not "okay" I hate life because of it.

It isn't selfish at all. Not even one bit. Lets be brutally honest here, noone on earth would wish for a child with any sort of difficulties, physical or mental - because life is already bloody hard enough! That doesn't mean you don't love the bones off T2 or that you aren't an amazing mum. You very clearly are. It's human to feel that way and so bleeping brave to admit it. You've all been dealt a crappy bleeping hand and it isn't fair and anyone who expects you to feel otherwise is in denial and frankly, a bleep. I challenge anyone to walk in your shoes and not feel the same. Despite all this, you constantly do your best and show up for that little girl which is more selflessness and love than many folk can muster in a whole lifetime! Nevermind with other babes and a partner who works away from home. You are an absolute bleeping superstar. Don't ever forget it and don't ever feel guilty for the hard times. Resent as much as you need to and vent as much as you can. That little girl knows how much you love her, none of this changes that.

 

[LilyRose1234]

It isn't selfish at all. Not even one bit. Lets be brutally honest here, noone on earth would wish for a child with any sort of difficulties, physical or mental - because life is already bloody hard enough! That doesn't mean you don't love the bones off T2 or that you aren't an amazing mum. You very clearly are. It's human to feel that way and so bleeping brave to admit it. You've all been dealt a crappy bleeping hand and it isn't fair and anyone who expects you to feel otherwise is in denial and frankly, a bleep. I challenge anyone to walk in your shoes and not feel the same. Despite all this, you constantly do your best and show up for that little girl which is more selflessness and love than many folk can muster in a whole lifetime! Nevermind with other babes and a partner who works away from home. You are an absolute bleeping superstar. Don't ever forget it and don't ever feel guilty for the hard times. Resent as much as you need to and vent as much as you can. That little girl knows how much you love her, none of this changes that.

I knew you could do funny, but this got me right in the feels!
But you’ve said it perfectly, @I’mThankyou_ you’re an absolute trooper and there’s no shame in admitting that you don’t find it easy, in fact it’s hugely courageous. No advice at all just know that we’re all here to support you

 

[PrincessShark]

It isn't selfish at all. Not even one bit. Lets be brutally honest here, noone on earth would wish for a child with any sort of difficulties, physical or mental - because life is already bloody hard enough! That doesn't mean you don't love the bones off T2 or that you aren't an amazing mum. You very clearly are. It's human to feel that way and so bleeping brave to admit it. You've all been dealt a crappy bleeping hand and it isn't fair and anyone who expects you to feel otherwise is in denial and frankly, a bleep. I challenge anyone to walk in your shoes and not feel the same. Despite all this, you constantly do your best and show up for that little girl which is more selflessness and love than many folk can muster in a whole lifetime! Nevermind with other babes and a partner who works away from home. You are an absolute bleeping superstar. Don't ever forget it and don't ever feel guilty for the hard times. Resent as much as you need to and vent as much as you can. That little girl knows how much you love her, none of this changes that.

All of this. I cannot add anything.
Your feelings and emotions are completely valid 🤍

 

[jackolantern]

I knew you could do funny, but this got me right in the feels!
But you’ve said it perfectly, @I’mThankyou_ you’re an absolute trooper and there’s no shame in admitting that you don’t find it easy, in fact it’s hugely courageous. No advice at all just know that we’re all here to support you

I don’t generally dabble with meaningful, I usually have nothing helpful to add advice wise as I have no bleeping clue what I’m doing most of the time I’m that friend who backs away slowly and awkwardly pats you on the head saying “there there”

Every now and then though I have a rare moment of utility can’t bare thinking mama thank you is beating herself up over anything. Or any of you honestly, we are all rockstars in our own ways. Different problems but all loving unconditionally. What more can you ask for honestly?

 

[ThePidge]

It’s awful seeing them suffer isn’t it? Poor Little Pidge, it must have been a bit of a miserable time for you all but I suppose at least she’s got quite a few of them over with in one fell swoop! Thanks for the tips ladies (@WhatABore and @Lilykins too) - sending speedy teething vibes to anyone who is in the same boat

it really has been, particularly with Noravirus thrown into the mix… absolute tit cocktail in our house recently BUT she’s a lot brighter and seems to be managing it so much better! It does get easier I promise lots of distractions seem to help too!
I didn’t expect them all to come so fast!

@Crazycatlady18, I will continue to wait for the first tooth comment! How’s she doing today? And how’s being back at work? I’m back at the end of the month!
I feel really guilty as I’m not putting little pidge in nursery yet, I really want to (friends/independence etc.) but my OCD can’t handle it! I’m hoping as therapy goes on, I’ll be able to!

Ive had enough of being a mum today, twin 2 has only taken 7ozs of milk all day. She's pulled her NG tube out 3 times before ive even started a feed
Shes had 3 meals. I just worry its not enough, she won't drink anything recently
I can't even feed her whilst she's asleep because trying to NG a sleeping baby is like wrestling a lion when you're covered in meat
This sounds so selfish, but I absolutely despise that she's not "okay" I hate life because of it.

Girl, you and the word selfish do not belong in a sentence together so pack that right in!
Try not to worry, if she’s happy and hydrated then I’m sure she’s absolutely fine. (I should take my own advice sometimes )

 

[wakametango 2.0]

She wakes up and throws herself around but she won't take a feed she'll just whinge until she tires herself out again

Sorry, I didn’t read your post properly first of all, I just picked up on the milk intake… I’m glad you have this safe space to say how you feel without judgement because that’s a heavy load to carry. Having a child that isn’t medically ‘well’ is tough, the extra worry, appointments etc, added to another two whole other humans to care for. Just know we’re always here for when it gets too tough to handle, not physically but lots of love & support. I know the girls are similar age to baby Waka, In terms of milk does she require anymore for her age as baby Waka only had about 8oz today x