Yeah, it scared me as I thought I wasn't feeling "that" bad but has made me realise just how ill I must actually be then. Definitely mention to your HV please, and don't suffer alone in silence. Motherhood is a whole other world, I always imaged it to be the perfect lifestyle, at home with the kids and housework all done, dinner cooked, me happy as I could be etc but honestly mine is nothing like that. It takes time, I didn't realise how isolating it actually is. When I first went to the GP about how I was feeling after my son, the Dr told me his wife manages fine herself with 3 kids so surely I could manage with 1 and it's not that hard. I broke down crying and left feeling so helpless. This is probably what's made me be so honest and open with my HV as she's more involved in our lives and has done so much to help me. There's a great charity called PANDAS foundation, they help with perinatal/mh. I've never called them myself but check on fb too for support groups. It's helped me realise I'm not in this alone.
). Baby biscuit was born early yesterday morning and we’ve just about survived the first full day at home! Tbh all my pregnancy anxieties have now been transferred to baby ones (typical!) - I’m just staring at her constantly checking she’s still breathing and worrying her skin looks the wrong colour or she’s too hot or making funny noises 
I’m hoping this will get easier as we get into the swing of things!
Im glad you’ve finally reached out. It takes a really strong person to admit when they’re struggling, I feel better for it already even just telling my husband! I’m still waiting to hear back from the hospital about birth reflections…hopefully I hear back soon cause I’m desperate to know what went wrongThat’s exactly the reason women don’t tell people about it or don’t speak up about how their feeling because they are scared it’ll be dismissed or nobody will listen. It’s heartbreaking to hearI’ve been struggling to with my mental health from I had my baby nearly 5 months ago, I had a long, difficult labour and a really tough recovery period and finally went to my GP the other day as I’d had enough of it and was finding it hard to function and do day to day basic things and look after my baby. Im on medication now and my HV knows now too and referring me for birth trauma counselling and also going to a private councillor for depression and anxiety. The hardest part was telling people, I hope you get the help you need and keep on at drs etc until they listen to you, you shouldn’t have to keep on at them but sometimes it’s the only way to get anywhere!
Awful isn’t it? You feel more frustrated because your feelings are not valid & that you should miraculously be ok.
I'm just catching up on this thread and wanted to reach out to you.Thank you for your lovely reply
it’s nice to talk to others who are recently new mums themselves , I don’t ever feel judged here which is lovely
It’s difficult to get my nearest and dearest to understand how I’m feeling, and I get quite upset if someone says something I don’t like.
My husband is really supportive, but I find he doesn’t understand the female mind and our need to nurture and procreate. He says he gets it, but I can tell he’s just as confused as I am
I’ve tried to reach out to birth reflections at my hospital, to no avail. They only have an answer machine
And I’ve contacted birth trauma association, they are good but again only able to speak to someone via email.
I was told by my GP I must try these before I am referred to further help.
but I think I need that further help sooner rather than later, I feel like I’m fighting everyday with these feelings.
I feel guilty at times also as there are so many I have befriended over Instagram still trying to get their babies, i should be grateful
Lmao that’s just reminded me of this.I ate my lunch the other day with her asleep on me. Dropped a bit of mayo on her head
Lucked it off. Its all good
If she wants to sleep on me and nowhere else, she'll have to accept it
Hahahaha that’s amazingI ate my lunch the other day with her asleep on me. Dropped a bit of mayo on her head
Lucked it off. Its all good
If she wants to sleep on me and nowhere else, she'll have to accept it
on one of his first days back at work, partner came home and changed her and said “oh look she’s got some little freckles at the top of her shoulders”. Had to admit I’d eaten chocolate muffins while feeding her and the crumbs had obviously slipped into the neck of her sleepsuit This response fucks me off more than anything!!! I hate how women’s feelings and experiences are totally downplayed. I had the same response from family after my traumatic birth ‘he’s here now and that’s all that matters!’ Yeah it’s great the baby is fine but have a thought for the mother who’s actually going to remember and cope with all of the shit they went through.
we are now, unsurprisingly, running late 
People are obsessed with the sleep thing! I was so worried. Even now they’re like ‘I bet you hardly sleep’ but I’ve been getting more sleep with a 3 month old than I ever did when I was pregnant. My lazy boy slept 11pm-6am then 7am-11am today.
they were all so good though, and we are home now thank heavens 
They are all full of beans and I’m knackered!Same! My partner will be lucky to see my foof before Christmas, cba!bloody hell you lot are keen! I’ve told my husband we have all our babies, I have no need for that sort of business anymore
