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New baby and post birth advice #2
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Sending you loads of love. I canāt imagine how hard it must be for you reaching the milestones, and packing things up, and knowing itās this one time only. I am sure your lovely son will not suffer in the slightest for being an only child, and maybe if your brother has children then your sonās cousins will be as close to him as you and your brother are. My kids are very close to their cousins, and itās wonderful relationshipReading posts about those of you who are keeping hold of your baby stuff makes me happy for you all but sad for myself. A few on here may know that my little boy was conceived via NHS funded IVF. Iām only entitled to one round so we wonāt be having another baby.
I am so infertile that thereās more chance of pigs flying to the moon than having a baby naturally
I sold his Moses basket & lots of other baby stuff that heās grown out of and the lady buying them asked me āare you not planning on having another one then?ā Because she was a stranger I just said āno unfortunately notā
Deep down I wanted to say āmind your own business, just give me your money and get outā
I did have a little cry after at the realisation of my situation
my boy is 4 months old and I have absolutely loved every minute of it, even the sleepless nights
But I do worry that he will struggle having no siblings, but I do try and tell myself that he wonāt know any different so it shouldnāt affect him too much
I had an older brother and he always looked after me, he still does, and over the years weāve made some amazing memories with all of our family. We have such a close bond too.
anyway, not really sure of the point to this post but I guess itās just niggling away at the back of my mind. Sorry if Iāve brought the threads mood down
Thank you for your kind words, they made me smile! Youāre right , I really hope he grows up with his cousins. Although his only cousins atm are much older than him, they arenāt overly interested in him right nowSending you loads of love. I canāt imagine how hard it must be for you reaching the milestones, and packing things up, and knowing itās this one time only. I am sure your lovely son will not suffer in the slightest for being an only child, and maybe if your brother has children then your sonās cousins will be as close to him as you and your brother are. My kids are very close to their cousins, and itās wonderful relationship
Trying not to dwell on things and enjoy these moments
As you said, he won't know any different. And that's the main thing to think about.Thank you for your kind words, they made me smile! Youāre right , I really hope he grows up with his cousins. Although his only cousins atm are much older than him, they arenāt overly interested in him right now
Trying not to dwell on things and enjoy these moments
No different to people with siblings can't picture being an only child, because they know no different
He'll grow up knowing how wanted and loved he is and that is the most important thing!
@Hairraiser my boy is probably going to be an only child out of choice. I was very lucky to get pregnant quite easily but I just donāt think I can go through the ordeal of a birth again. My partner is also adamant that this is it and seems to think siblings cause more harm than good (I think heās triggered by his own childhood 
) but weāre sure it wonāt be detrimental to him growing up. He sounds like a very lucky boy to have such caring and loving parents!
) but weāre sure it wonāt be detrimental to him growing up. He sounds like a very lucky boy to have such caring and loving parents!I know increasing numbers of people who are choosing (and so lucky to be able to have that choice ) do only have one child, for lots of reasons. I think having siblings is great, but I honestly donāt think any āonlyā children will be at all disadvantaged in life. Possibly the opposite! My cousin grew up with no siblings and she is so mature, intelligent, and has such a sensible head on her shoulders. Sometimes she makes me feel like the child (sheās 18, Iām 35 )
) do only have one child, for lots of reasons. I think having siblings is great, but I honestly donāt think any āonlyā children will be at all disadvantaged in life. Possibly the opposite! My cousin grew up with no siblings and she is so mature, intelligent, and has such a sensible head on her shoulders. Sometimes she makes me feel like the child (sheās 18, Iām 35 )Yeah youāre absolutely rightAs you said, he won't know any different. And that's the main thing to think about.
No different to people with siblings can't picture being an only child, because they know no different
He'll grow up knowing how wanted and loved he is and that is the most important thing!
We have so many photos of when he was a 3 day old embryo and up until now, Iāve put them all in an album for him. I canāt wait to show him
How he was made
I know increasing numbers of people who are choosing (and so lucky to be able to have that choice
Aw thank you so much youāre very kind. And the same to you , itās not all bad being an only child@Hairraiser my boy is probably going to be an only child out of choice. I was very lucky to get pregnant quite easily but I just donāt think I can go through the ordeal of a birth again. My partner is also adamant that this is it and seems to think siblings cause more harm than good (I think heās triggered by his own childhood
I canāt seem to quote your other post but just wanted to send you love. As long as your little one has your love Iām sure thatās all that matters. So pleased that IVF worked for you though, definitely enjoy every moment, itās such a wonderful timeThank you for your kind words, they made me smile! Youāre right , I really hope he grows up with his cousins. Although his only cousins atm are much older than him, they arenāt overly interested in him right now
Trying not to dwell on things and enjoy these moments
It really doesnāt help when people say āwhen are you having another babyā i think it can be just as hurtful as saying āwhen are you going to have childrenā
Oh I agree, I had that same question for 3 whole years before I snapped at people. I had the most horrific birth aswell as the gruelling IVF treatment and have had many people say to me āwhenās the next baby due then?ā Seriously???!!!I canāt seem to quote your other post but just wanted to send you love. As long as your little one has your love Iām sure thatās all that matters. So pleased that IVF worked for you though, definitely enjoy every moment, itās such a wonderful time
It really doesnāt help when people say āwhen are you having another babyā i think it can be just as hurtful as saying āwhen are you going to have childrenā
If I wasnāt a mother now Iād be giving them a few choice words
Itās so bizarre how interested strangers are in other peopleās family planning. Iām quite sure my husband wouldnāt ever have been asked those questions, but I had them all, especially when I only had 1. I even remember the midwife on the ward with no1 saying to me āweāll see you again in two years, will we?ā I had literally popped one out and she was asking when I was having another?!
My health advisor is like that!! I said that this is probably it with her knowing full well how crappy my birth was and she was like āoh no, it will be nice for him to have a brother or sister, just wait a year.ā
Thatās so rude!My health advisor is like that!! I said that this is probably it with her knowing full well how crappy my birth was and she was like āoh no, it will be nice for him to have a brother or sister, just wait a year.ā
Wow. Very unprofessionalMy health advisor is like that!! I said that this is probably it with her knowing full well how crappy my birth was and she was like āoh no, it will be nice for him to have a brother or sister, just wait a year.ā
I actually had someone at work asking when I was going to have babies.... (a male btw) and we had been trying for just under 18 months at this point so I felt a bit sensitive. My response was āwhy are you so interested in my sex lifeā that shut him up. Iām very blunt when I want to be
Markās and spencer I find stay the softest and have cute designs for girls and boys. Plus thick enough you donāt have to change them every half an hourMorningHas anyone got any suggestions for nice dribble bibs?
Iāll have a look, thank you. weāve got some from Sainsburyās I think and the label says one size but theyāre tiny, tried putting it on the other day and it felt like I was strangling him haha.
Iāve found that with some Asda ones we were given, also very rigid they just look uncomfortable.
My second was a dribble monster. If you have a heady dribbler I really recommend getting Fleece backed dribble bibs, because they stay much drier and donāt soak their clothes.
I always found independent makers were much better quality for heavy dribble amounts than high street shops, so definitely check our Etsy.
I always found independent makers were much better quality for heavy dribble amounts than high street shops, so definitely check our Etsy.
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