Have we raked her over the coals for using the term "gotcha day" for the day her former adoptive son joined the family? Every time I saw that term in the video thumbnail which has been posted frequently I cringed. Wasn't until I looked it yesterday that I saw that although this is a term many adoptive parents use, I'm
not alone in finding it horrid.
To me it sounds like you're talking about a Pokemon. When you read about why the term is disapproved of by many, it starts to make sense that Myka would use this term for a child which she would treat as a returnable object. People find it offensive, parent-centered, treating the child as an acquired possession or even an animal, and making light of the often sad circumstances which lead to a child needing to be adopted. (Other parents might use "Homecoming" or "Adoption Day.") The page I linked above mentions how this term did not become popular for human adoptions until the 90's/early 2000s. One reason people take issue with it is because it's the same term people use when they adopt an animal. Given that Myka's choice to adopt was the product of literally a childhood fantasy (she has stated that growing up she "always wanted to have 3 bio kids and an adoptive kid" and she already had names picked out for some), I would say it's very likely that she was at some point exposed to the idea of a "gotcha day" during that time and thus acted out that fantasy in adulthood.
I usually tend to fall on the side of playing devil's advocate and defending creators/YTers/influencers, but the more I see of this woman the more it all seems obvious that she is just plain nasty.
I would personally (in the future if it’s possible) have biological children and adopt because I want to give someone a better upbringing. I’m sure many others agree too.
Part of my confusion stemmed from my understanding that it was not the norm for people with 3 small children to adopt a fourth small child (and then have a fifth). This has been cleared up pretty much. Myka could not adopt
a baby in many countries (presumably including the United States) because she already had multiple small children and had no fertility issues (she stated this in
this video at the 7:30 mark). This is basically why she adopted from China. She could have adopted from an African country as well, but she was impatient. The only way she was going to be able to adopt from many countries would have been if it was an older child, a profoundly special needs child, or orphaned siblings. The last option there is the path that all three of the families I know with bio as well as adopted children took--orphaned siblings. I think it's obvious now that Myka did not adopt Hux because she wanted to give him a better upbringing, or she could have taken other easier options. She specifically wanted an adopted baby and this was the only way to get it. Bonus points for him being sympathetic coming from what most assume is a traumatic environment.
You mention adoption, but I'm talking specifically about infant/toddler adoption. If you choose to have multiple small children, adopt a toddler or infant, and then have another biological child, honestly I think that would be selfishness--unless that small child is somehow connected to you. Otherwise you're acting like you are a "collector of children", because there are many people out there who can provide good upbringings to children who do not have the means of having their own biological children, and you perhaps are denying them that experience. At that point you can't really explain it as you just want to give them a better life becuase there were multiple parties interested in doing so.
(Actually go to around 6:55 in that video for explanation, sorry.)