It’s definitely a personal choice and unique to your family. We weren’t going to at all but we decided to use my husbands grandpa’s name as our sons middle name, it just felt right. He has passed on and did not meet our son. It’s a somewhat unique name and we don’t think it will be weird for our son. Naming another human is hard! Do what feels best for you and don’t overthink it!Off topic slightly but related to the above point.
I’m four months pregnant and my baby boy is having a fully honoured name after mine and my partner’s Grandads. His first name will be my (living) Grandad’s name - Grandad is 90 and my absolute hero. He’s named after his dad, and so on and so on.
The second name is my parents’ Grandads who I was fortunate enough to meet and love (fortunately they share the name!) and the third name is my partner’s Grandad - which my partner and his dad also have as their middle names.
Do you think the massive age difference, and the fact the second two people being honoured are no longer with us, will help our boy find his own identity?
I’m just named my name because my parents liked it and I’ve always wanted a story / a namesake so that explains my choice but your point does make sense and I’m a little concerned now.