That's not what anyone is saying. It's about taking responsibility for your choices and owing them and not using your crappy childhood as an excuse for everything. Loz is a useless sack of tit and its her fault she's like that, not her mums.Sorry but I hate this whole 'I had the worlds most traumatic childhood and I got over it so you should too' thing. Maybe some people aren't as strong as you. Maybe some people lack self awareness and the ability to change and grow. My child would be absolutely bereft if I sent her off. Just because it hasn't affected you (even if you had it worse) doesn't mean it shouldn't affect someone else.