Reading your posts has really hurt my heart. I’m so, so sorry. I have a lot of experience with Narcs and the one thing that fucks me off is how insidious they are and how
bleeping flawlessly they can insert themselves in places where they do not belong, and do what you described and more whilst flying totally under the
bleeping radar of most people.
ASD wise, I guess I’m classed as high functioning, but I’m almost certain that part comes from my ADHD and the meds for that; it’s a strange and interesting comorbidity.
One of my kids has ASD and whilst she isn’t on the same scale as my non verbal cousin, she’s definitely not like me, either.
I can’t relate on a personal level, but raising my child, watching her struggle, finding work arounds etc, has been eye opening.
If a LARPER had infiltrated the (online) support group for ND parents with ND kids, I wouldn’t have been able to support and advocate for my child the way I have. And an alarming amount of NT people have massively damaging views/opinions on ND issues.