Ugh she's one of those people who's together with someone for, like, two weeks before she starts rearranging their entire lives to the way *she* thinks they ought to do things, isn't she?]
This recipe was originally written as an ode to *a* Mrs J, of course. Poor non-affluent Mrs J...Allegra and Louisa got come-to-bed pastas along with wine and Peggy Fitzgerald, she gets oats and water flung in a microwave View attachment 301229
My first real adult job pay was straight on food and rent. My first teenage job pay was almost certainly splurged on mediocre hot chocolate from somewhere like Costa. Why is she so bleeping weird?Can’t say that was the first thing on my mind with my first pay check! I think food was top of my list
Oh your poor dog I hope he's recovered okay this morning.This made me unutterably furious last night, posting it here because I see Jack's faved it, so it's on topic. Like Jack, there's nothing Vonny won't make about *her*. My dog has been a total mess for the last month or so, ever since the fireworks round my way started happening (and I'm not saying BAN FIREWORK NIGHT or anything but can we please have it for just one night or even one weekend so that I can plan for it? Or use the silent fireworks?). One of my neighbours' dogs died a couple of years ago after some teenagers let off fireworks in the middle of the day in a dogpark - the dog bolted and got run over. My dog has an extremely traumatic reaction to them so last night was not fun (they do seem louder this year and they were coming from all directions). But as you all say, I can plan ahead for that. What I *can't* plan for however is when I specifically take the dog out for his last walk at 2.30pm (which I did yesterday), hoping to avoid any fireworks induced drama, only to have them start going off at 3pm, leading to my dog dragging me off in a panic (amazed we managed to avoid getting run over) before eventually refusing to move from a specific spot where he felt safe (on an embankment under a tree). Some lovely passersby tried to help but nothing worked and after an hour or so I had to get my mum to come and pick us up and drive us home. ANWAY rant over except to say I am braced for more of the same this weekend because fireworks night isn't just one night, people with autism (Vonny isn't even autistic BTW) can plan ahead as you all say, and they KNOW and UNDERSTAND what is going one, whereas to dogs, cats, foxes etc it must be like being in a war zone with no idea they're not in any danger. Phew, had to get that off my chest!
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I think despite what Vonny is saying, there is actually a lot of compassion and care for people (with autism or otherwise) who can't cope with loud bangs? And as you say, it's understood and even in circumstances where it isn't, there are ways to mitigate the impact. I used to work (yeeeears ago) with a 6 year old with autism who had a lot of sensory problems and found fireworks really hard. His mum had ear defenders, a weighted blanket and a bunch of his favourite food, books and toys for fireworks night/NYE. Not saying fireworks will ever be his ideal evening, but as he got older he started actively becoming involved with planning how to distract himself. Same went for thunder storms. Animals are very different to humans, Vonny. Give people credit.
Sorry, mega post. I'm procrastinating.