To me the story as shes told it is this
In July of 2020 she had a meltdown on Twitter about how he is a “pussy,” afraid of cancel culture, because he wanted her to delete Twitter. This was after/during all of the fights she had with people over politics.
Said tweeted in Nov 2020 that he told her he didn’t love her anymore when he came back from Australia which I believe was in August (after the fight about Twitter).
Then she says for 6 months it was yes I’m leaving, no I’m not leaving, maybe I’m leaving until he finally decided to go. I guess that’s the part she considered mental torture. She now says she cried and screamed and begged for answers but other than I no longer love you & most recently she said at one point he said he didn’t want the responsibility of being a full time partner/father that’s all he’d say.
So they’re fighting. He tells her he doesn’t love her. Then after some time he says he’s leaving and does so. She posts she’s fighting against it but that no matter what they’ll remain friends. He files papers and she finds out through the tabs. He releases a statement asking for privacy, saying they’re focusing on the kids. They go into collaborative instead of court to try working things out themselves. She’s unhappy with this. Says it’s a scam and not binding. If hes to have the kids certain nights but she wants them with her she’s going to keep them etc.
He is still seeing the kids (despite her initially implying he’s abandoned them) but won’t do so in the home they shared even though the eldest especially wants him to (and starts refusing to see him at all, which AE supports). She says now they were to communicate through Wizard almost from the start, so when calls and FaceTimes the kids, if Alice walks in the room (or butts in as she did recently) he hangs up. But she doesn’t want to go through Wizard she thinks they should speak directly.
She disputes their prenup first saying it was 100 pages long and confusing at the time she signed, then saying it’s different now than what she signed then. Thinks it’s unfair to her. also complains about him blowing through their savings.
Shes sharing all of this on social media and has been warned (she says threatened) to stop. She says she knows sharing will have consequences but feels if they end up in court it’ll be worse for him somehow. And that she’s at the end of her tether, desperate, so why not keep going at him I guess?
Along the way she’s said he wouldn’t stand up for her as much as she wanted him to against fans online, has a fake persona of being Mr Perfect and sort of encouraged her to take on the role of the zany pants wearing wife as far as the public goes, says he’s been absent for most of the kids lives working, he’s a mamas boy & she feels his moms always wanted them apart and is trying to “take her down” now that they are. Mentions him yelling at her & backing her against a wall at some point. BUT she’s also said that until this all started “18 months ago” they were blissful. Best friends, lovers, him her winning lottery ticket. That she still doesn’t know why he stopped loving her and wanted to leave, basically.
I guess my point in writing all that out is because I see the FMs going on about Ioan as if he’s a monster for what he’s done, but to me it seems he’s been pretty reasonable. After 20 years, he had enough. He voiced that. For 6 months he stuck around maybe hoping it could be fixed? Hoping to prepare everyone if it couldnt? Then left. Could there have been or be another woman? Sure and cheating is never excusable. But even AE says she doesn’t think so (after implying there was). Is he a perfect man/husband/father? No. Even in times she’s said he was, of course he has faults as everyone does. Of course their relationship wasn’t perfect up until 18 months ago or whenever she feels this truly started. According to him the past 4+ years have been tough on them due to him working away a lot.
I think it’s a fundamental difference in personality that he isn’t willing to put up with anymore. She says he and his family won’t associate with anyone who might make them look bad. He doesn’t want to alienate fans by defending her or alienate people who could hire him by speaking out politically or against the likes of Weinstein. He isn’t comfortable sharing on SM as she is. She’s a very loud person with all of that. I think he tried many times to explain that and she just is who she is and does what she wants so he decided he was done putting up with it and realized he’s happier when he’s working away from her.
I believe he meant to stay amicable but AE has made it impossible with her hate campaign against him online. That’s what it is whether she sees it or means for it or not. She’s painting him as a “dick” and her supporters and people who haven’t paid attention to the inconsistencies or backstory are piling on, thinking the worst of him and championing her for speaking out.
I know AE reads here and probably her FMs too. Maybe reading through and seeing things from the perspective I have based on everything she’s shared will clue them in about why not everyone is “on her side” in hating him and they’ll stop encouraging her to lean in to her anger as she is, because sadly it seems the reason he’s being so cold and distant now is because of her actions.
She thinks everyone who questions her or doesn’t agree with everything she says is against her or blaming her. a lot of comments are critical of her and some downright mean, but I think the majority of people just find her frustrating because she can’t seem to get out of her own way and it’s not a good thing for anyone involved.