Jugs in the UK generally means boobs and lugs for ears although jugs can be for large ears (like jug handles).
I find it so odd how she goes on about her daughter's body. Think it, say it to your friends if you want but don't discuss it publicly. I might say to my friends how my daughter is lovely and lean like her dad because they are close friends, and we may be talking about similarities, but I don't post this publicly OR ever say it infront of her. The only thing I ever tell her about her body is that it is strong and healthy and enables her to do all the things she wants to do. With Alice it boils down to her own insecurities about her body and using her daughter's to booster her own image as if this is the most important thing: I may not look good anymore but have you seen my daughter? Clearly losing her looks has been a huge challenge for Alice given how much she relied on them in the past.
This is for everyone, not just you, dear Howdy:
To be honest, I struggle a lot with aspects of that baby post, in particular, because my mother used to make lil comments about my boobs when I was growing up. She made them
to me. And Iāll defend my mother until the end because that was one of her many ways of being proud of everything about me and I love her for it/itās nobodyās place to tell me that the ways in which my mother expressed genuine (reciprocated) love for me was wrong. They were just
rare, passing, funny remarks about my boobs, about me becoming a āpretty lil ladyā or about how the boys will soon be āringinā my damn doorbell every hour, baby girl.ā (Spoiler: they sure as
duck didnāt, lol.) I always laughed. I liked her humor.
I honestly think the line of what is appropriate vs. inappropriate regarding this subject is REALLY fuzzy and depends on multiple factors. What makes me uncomfy with Alice specifically is that she, likeā¦this will be hard to explain, but I see a difference between her and my mother. Alice made those comments to 70-some-thousand people (maybe a handful of them possibly people with filthy interests in children, btw). My mother just made them to me, not even friends; maybe because to her, that was as far as she personally wanted to take them, not making them to anyone but me. Alice has also made comments about vaginasāthere was once a photo of her and the girls and she said something to the effect of, āAll vaginas and not a dick in sight (referring to Ioan).ā For me, personally, vaginas are where I get particularly uncomfy; like, talking about your daughtersā vaginas? Talking about them to thousands of strangers? Iām sorry if my feelings offend anyone who has a different perspective on that, but thatās where I personally donāt feel as comfortable anymore. At least in my country, vaginas are and have always been extremely privatized body parts, far more so than boobs.
If Alice had made that ājugsā comment to herself or to Ioan while idly looking at the photo trying to figure out which baby girl was pictured, I feel thatās a totally different scenario and I wouldnāt have minded at all, because it reminds me of my mother and her own little jokes. But justā¦the audience to whom she makes these jokes, and what body parts sheās referencing, and how OFTEN she makes these jokes, is where it gets a bit murky for me.
Like I said, itās a very fuzzy line. Please, please, I hope no one will tell me itās not, because thatād literally be insulting/criticizing the way my mother loved me in a personal relationship between the two of usā¦itās a fuzzy line, full-stop, even if it doesnāt feel that way to someone else. And I really hope this whole talking-about-your-daughtersā-body-parts convo in which Iāve chosen to partake doesnāt spark huge debate, and if it does then I hope we can all respect each other to the highest degree. Itās a very hard thing to parse, but what I can definitively say is that Alice is doing it wrong.