This is for everyone, not just you, dear Howdy:
To be honest, I struggle a lot with aspects of that baby post, in particular, because my mother used to make lil comments about my boobs when I was growing up. She made them to me. And I’ll defend my mother until the end because that was one of her many ways of being proud of everything about me and I love her for it/it’s nobody’s place to tell me that the ways in which my mother expressed genuine (reciprocated) love for me was wrong. They were just rare, passing, funny remarks about my boobs, about me becoming a “pretty lil lady” or about how the boys will soon be “ringin’ my damn doorbell every hour, baby girl.” (Spoiler: they sure as duck didn’t, lol.) I always laughed. I liked her humor.
I honestly think the line of what is appropriate vs. inappropriate regarding this subject is REALLY fuzzy and depends on multiple factors. What makes me uncomfy with Alice specifically is that she, like…this will be hard to explain, but I see a difference between her and my mother. Alice made those comments to 70-some-thousand people (maybe a handful of them possibly people with filthy interests in children, btw). My mother just made them to me, not even friends; maybe because to her, that was as far as she personally wanted to take them, not making them to anyone but me. Alice has also made comments about vaginas—there was once a photo of her and the girls and she said something to the effect of, “All vaginas and not a dick in sight (referring to Ioan).” For me, personally, vaginas are where I get particularly uncomfy; like, talking about your daughter’s vaginas? Talking about them to thousands of strangers? I’m sorry if my feelings offend anyone, but that’s where I personally don’t feel as comfortable anymore.
If Alice had made that “jugs” comment to herself or to Ioan while idly looking at the photo trying to figure out which baby girl was pictured, I feel that’s a totally different scenario and I wouldn’t have minded at all, because it reminds me of my mother and her own little jokes. But just…the audience to whom she makes these jokes, and what body parts she’s referencing, and how OFTEN she makes these jokes, is where it gets a bit murky for me.
Like I said, it’s a very fuzzy line. Please, please, I hope no one will tell me it’s not, because that’d literally be insulting/criticizing the way my mother loved me in a personal relationship between the two of us…it’s a fuzzy line, full-stop, even if it doesn’t feel that way to someone else. And I really hope this whole talking-about-your-daughters’-body-parts convo in which I’ve chosen to partake doesn’t spark huge debate, and if it does then I hope we can all respect each other to the highest degree. It’s a very hard thing to parse, but what I can definitively say is that Alice is doing it wrong.