Yes it's normal. I'm sweltering too and no AC. The weather is weird - it's normally nice in September and NEVER this hot. We don't need AE 99.9% of the time so it's no big deal.
Yep, we are just sweating our arses off with no A/C. If I get desperate during the week when it's really hot, I go work in the office for the day. Luckily the government is not allowed the steam bake their staff. Otherwise I go chill out in the Tesco frozen sectionOh my goodness!I’m in a fan club for a beautiful young singer who passed in 2016 and a few years back I met a girl from the UK who’s also in the fandom. I checked in on her a few days ago actually because there was a benefit concert on Saturday for the singer’s foundation (created in her memory) and everyone was emotional about it.
The FIRST thing she said, before even discussing the concert, was that there’s a huge heat wave in the UK and that because it’s usually a little rainy and “gloomy” (her word for it lol, not mine!) she never cared to have AC in her home, so she, her husband, her two young boys, and her infant son are all SWELTERING right now—buying as much ice as they can and sitting extra-still so as not to raise their body temps.
Is that normal in the UK? Not the heat wave—I’m talking about the lack of AC in people’s homes. Because most Americans have cooling systems in their homes (…if they can afford them, which is unjust but that’s a whole separate convo). It just stunned me and kind of broke my heart that my friend doesn’t have AC. She must be exhausted and miserable tbh I might DM her again in a bit…
They're so beautiful together. Have you seen how they look at each other? Their love for each other is palpable.i was kidding. As a F1 fan moaning about tiny things is my hobby
anyway, here is the whole interview. geo blocked (not home for hours so if someone needs a copy they may have to wait unless someone else does it)
Tbh I don’t even think she’s worth a FLING lmao. Maybe a brief half-smile on the opposite side of the counter at a pub, but not a fling. And my words of degradation are CERTAINLY not coming from fuckin Beyoncé—I ain’t no catch either, haha. But her behavior and poor hygiene and overall attitude have actually awakened in me a deep disgust for her. Like, to the point where some pics of her make me physically cringe.
Thank you, RTP. Your words - like those of @CookieMonsta and @luloo - have done so much to help my self-esteem. I now feel at home in myself (although I’m not really sure what my ‘self’ is - I told my therapist that I only had three core things (integrity, honour, truthfulness) and he said that was enough, but I’m not sure about that. Nowadays I’m jovial with my father, but I don’t give him anything that could count as ammunition. I’m absolutely appalled that your father assaulted you. (I know that you mentioned it before re: strangulation, which is abhorrent and should’ve landed him in a gaol cell.) No-one has the right lay hands upon another. I hope that you never, ever blame yourself. If you want to continue this discussion on the Other Thread, I’m always here, ride or die.I’m always heartbroken hearing about your abusive, alcoholic, narcissistic father, Autisteuse.I say that not to guilt you into speaking less of him (heavens, no—if anything I hope it’s healing for you), but just to express how sorry I am that that was your childhood, and that it became your adulthood.
My sister is four years older than me, and when college time came about she FLOCKED to a Boston school as soon as the semester began, while I was stuck in high school with my mama and father—who loves me to the ends of the bleeping earth but has a hot temper and an even hotter slapping hand. When I wept to my sister at some point about having him for a father, she firmly told me, amongst other things, that “This is the hand we were dealt. But it doesn’t have to be the hand we keep.” My point: we can change our realities despite the hardship, and I say that to EVERYONE in this thread—contributors, lurkers and all.
You can change what doesn’t serve you.
Autisteuse, I’m just so blessed that, despite still living with your abuser and dealing with his irrational chaos, you’ve nonetheless carved out an extravagant life for yourself of knowledge, pleasure, talent, and love. Had you never spoken a word about the abusive people in your life in these threads I would have NEVER in a million years guessed that you hailed from those backgrounds of torture.
I applaud you, I am amazed by you, and I honor you.
Also, Sam Vaknin!!!
Wow, I haven’t heard his name in SO long. I became good friends in high school with a smooth jazz musician I loved and really warmed up to his wife (an opera singer), who was always posting educational content on her Facebook profile.
That guy came up a few times and I think I followed him! Funny thing was that I didn’t even KNOW what a narcissist was at that time, haha; I guess I followed him to learn more about narcissism but my undiagnosed ADHD brain pulled me towards other subjects and I forgot about him!
What do you think of him? He’s a self-aware narcissist, isn’t he?
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Also, a note for friends in here: SELF-AWARENESS MATTERS, PEOPLE!
In my opinion, being a narcissist doesn’t automatically mean you are utter scum (as easy as that is to believe, trust me, I used to think that as well and STILL fall into that trap to this day!!)—if you are (1) self-aware of your problematic behavior, and (2) ACTIVELY working to correct that behavior for the safety and comfort of others, that is still praiseworthy! (MOO)
It’s STILL unknown how personality disorders develop, but it has been mostly agreed that they are due to a combo of genetics and environmental influences. (Example: I grew up in a severely abusive household, I developed BPD.) We can JOYOUSLY tit on narcissists who don’t want to get help because they don’t think they’re behaving wrongly (*cough* ALICE), but I personally believe that we can lend some respect to narcissists who know what they are and actively work to protect others by closely monitoring their own actions.
We can almost NEVER control the environment in which we grow up. The personality disorder wasn’t your fault, but managing it is 100% your responsibility!I’m done blabbing lmao cue curtain close and tomatoes!
We don't need AE 100% of the time....
and I'm a sun worshipper! Last night at 2am it was 26° 
I don't even run for a bus! I really hopes he finishes the course, today is the last day right? I also see he raised more than mAlices GFM...that must sting eh mAlice 
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Oh I missed those days. When the bleep sent me here, everyone had realized
Oh I agree. But she still had to run away, which makes you wonder.
Do you think the people behind the sock accounts will be made public? That would make for very interesting viewing.
Yes, it's normal. It's 32 degrees in the shade in London today and only the gym has AC. It's almost as hot inside my house as it is outside. We have one small desk fan.Oh my goodness!
The FIRST thing she said, before even discussing the concert, was that there’s a huge heat wave in the UK and that because it’s usually a little rainy and “gloomy” (her word for it lol, not mine!) she never cared to have AC in her home, so she, her husband, her two young boys, and her infant son are all SWELTERING right now—buying as much ice as they can and sitting extra-still so as not to raise their body temps.
Is that normal in the UK? Not the heat wave—I’m talking about the lack of AC in people’s homes. Because most Americans have cooling systems in their homes (…if they can afford them, which is unjust but that’s a whole separate convo). It just stunned me and kind of broke my heart that my friend doesn’t have AC. She must be exhausted and miserable tbh I might DM her again in a bit…
Not standard but in the south where it’s hotter, people have started buying the plug-in type units for a room in their home. They are very expensive due to the electricTy costs, so people make do with a plug in stand/table fan, sometimes with a bottle of frozen water in front.Oh my goodness!
The FIRST thing she said, before even discussing the concert, was that there’s a huge heat wave in the UK and that because it’s usually a little rainy and “gloomy” (her word for it lol, not mine!) she never cared to have AC in her home, so she, her husband, her two young boys, and her infant son are all SWELTERING right now—buying as much ice as they can and sitting extra-still so as not to raise their body temps.
Is that normal in the UK? Not the heat wave—I’m talking about the lack of AC in people’s homes. Because most Americans have cooling systems in their homes (…if they can afford them, which is unjust but that’s a whole separate convo). It just stunned me and kind of broke my heart that my friend doesn’t have AC. She must be exhausted and miserable tbh I might DM her again in a bit…
She’ll do a Rebekah Vardy and use Ioan’s money to pay someone to fly across the country and drop the phone in Chesapeake Bay.
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)...thank you! 
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