ButterTart
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Are you joking? Serious question. This has been escalating to the point that people here are afraid that Alice may physically harm Bianca and Ioan. It’s been nearly three years. In that time, she could have done a lot to improve her circumstances but all she seems to have done is ratchet up the abuse, create dozens of online socks (and yes, we believe it’s her as the socks are going after years’ old tweets, using language VERY familiar to Alice, and posting about things only she would care about, like his girlfriends from 20+ years ago). Not to mention weaponizing her girls, including pulling the oldest out of school and having her falsely accuse him and Bianca of physical abuse. Before she took aim at Bianca, she insisted for about a year and a half that her soon to be former mother in law was the issue and Ioan was a mommy’s boy (and also made insinuations about him being involved in child s*x abuse because of that supposed attachment).I will never ever justify abuse. I wanted to end my life after being lied to for many years by an older man.
I read the texts which IG put to the court. These were all after he had said he wanted to leave and this came as a surprise.
I read about the things IG says AE would say to him. I believe these things have hurt him. I say horrible things to my adult siblings as jokes, as they do to me. One used to always joke about how blind and deaf any husband would have to be. It was always in context of general ribbing. It's lessened as we got older. I don't assume that AE was having any 'banter' with IG though many of her posts do show her at least trying to be funny, though many here don't find it so.
In many countries lying to people isn't a crime, nor is cheating. In some places it is. In Austria the age of consent is 14. In other countries it's not. I just thought I'd say my feelings here which are that I would very much want to know what the truth was about the new relationship, not least to know whether my spouse was sleeping with someone else whilst still doing so with me too.
IG isn't a poor isolated young man who grafts on the building site before he went home to his ungrateful wife. He's a rich actor who, yes, hired a nanny. AE seems to imply that he didn't like being around the family for too long as he gets bored. I haven't seen any of AE's acting, do you think it's not good?
Maybe if things calm down a bit after the divorce is granted then they will start to get more agreements in place about co-parenting. I just wanted to say that I have sympathy for anyone wanting to know the truth in terms of whether their loved ones (which could be family members not just other halves) have lied or are lying. It made me question so much to find out the lies one person had told me and that they'd done it whilst claiming to 'love me' as well as using me for a lot of things.
He’s not rich. You’d know that if you had truly taken the time to read the court documents. Whatever money he had has dwindled because she pulled out of collaborative divorce and files frivolous motions and requests for delays. He had to borrow money from his (not rich) parents to pay the last few months of his mortgage. Alice refuses to work or contribute financially in any way. She has hidden money, and might have taken $100k fro their joint account without permission, which is why he hired a forensic accountant. She is on her fifth lawyer. Even if he had Elon Musk’s money, was he supposed to stick around and be abused? Would you give the same advice to a woman - you married, it’s a contract, shut up and take it?
I’m sorry that you experienced a difficult relationship. But what you’ve experienced - very fortunately - is nothing like this scenario.