That’s it, Im quitting my job right away!!! It doesnt cover a mansion with 6 hectares of gardens like I always wanted so what’s the point right?! Oh, wait, she meant it’s only for those who reached the “up" in the standard of living, I see, aha.. so I’ll keep working then..A lot to unpack here
1.) Must be hard to downsize from having a nanny or expensive sunscreen or regular takeaways
2.) The logic that you better shouldnt work if it doesnt cover all costs is certainly something. imagine if everyone had to attitude? she seems to survive so far, imagine if she had a couple of grands per month on top of it, especially if she also downsizes
3.) seems to have the same attitute with online time: dw Alice, even if you work you can still fight plenty on twitter
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My friend who is getting divorced from abusive narc husband hasnt worked all the years she was married. She paid for it with housework (he used to say since she doesnt work it was her responsibility and used to check she washed the floors every day, hovered, dusted etc etc. every day. And she looked after two kids. Never a nany, baby sitter or even relative to help, even for a day. He never helped either because it was - you guessed it, her job. Instead of not working, you know.
But now she is nearly free of him and waiting in financial settlement decision etc, Im seeing some Alice-i in her! The guy was rich, she used to certain living conditions and she is now terrified how is she ever going to get by even if she works (she realises it would only be low paid due to no experience in 18 years) and she really judges things by the lifestyle they had. Im telling her: think about millions of people who live happy lives on way less that you’ve had as a family. And she does realise it but she does not have a point of reference with another life style nor experience, hence its hard for her to imagine how it will work out
But here is the thing: she is trying. She is learning. She is looking for ways. She has started working part time (even though he still actively trying to get her to miss work shifts etc because of her job being "unimportant and low paid"
The moral of the story: yes Alice, it is difficult to re-adjust. It is scary. It is at times painful. But people do it! And you can - just try, you will see!
PS editing to add: but you won’t Im afraid. You would rather go here obsessively and read what we say about you and then complain about us on Twitter because it gives you one and only thing you live for: attention. That is sad indeed. Try listen to all the good advise on here, it might change your life
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