I'm still catching up on the last thread but have read all the latest court documents. Reading the transcript of Alice berating the girls, calling Ella a 'witch', and Ella trying to appease her and saying she will 'change' Ioan has upset me so much.
As I've mentioned in my previous posts, both my parents were emotionally abusive to me, and my mother was emotionally and physically abusive. I heard things which no child should have heard. My parents used to fight in front of me all the time, and both would also badmouth and belittle the other to me. One of my earliest memories was trying to act as peacemaker between them (I was three years old). I have CPTSD from my childhood, and the horrible comments my mother made to me over the years about various things are still vivid in my memory and I think about them often.
I'm in my mid-30s and currently do not have a relationship with my mother, which is my choice (my father has been dead for a while). She acted the worse of the two towards me. I do not want children and I partly blame this on my dysfunctional upbringing. I have had therapy for the past 1.5 years and am doing better, but I do not want my mother in my life again.
Ella and Elsie will realise what Alice has done, and they will cut her off. I really hope that with the help of Ioan, psychiatrists and therapists, they can be healed. But the truth is this will have impacted them for life. How dare she do this to them? She's a bleeping evil monster who only cares about herself. In her mind, everyone else exists to prop her up and make her happy. Anyone who deviates from this becomes the target of her vitriol.
Guess what Alice, you've lost your looks, your health, your reputation and your self-respect. The whole world sees you for who you really are. duck you.
EDIT: I forgot that Alice was drunk and berating Ella on her birthday. I had two awful birthdays (seven years old - my mum smacked me because I wouldn't stand still as she combed my hair as I was too excited to open my presents; 13 years old - my mum 'forgot' it was my birthday and didn't get me any presents (I spent the whole day in my bedroom crying)). These memories hurt even more because they were birthdays, and because they were birthdays, were easier to remember. Poor, poor Ella.