HomewithShan #6 Still ignores her kids & asks ‘why does George scream at me?’, would take a poke in eye for free

[cosmicstar]

Iat this stage I'm almost convinced that they're a lot more worse off now ash has left the army because with both their wages living in a very 'average' house plus ads and YouTube etc she's incredibly frugal
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I was going to say this too it's 100% the real reason!!!!

Ive been saying this for a while!

She's been so beggy with her content the past few months, pushing bloody HelloFresh and awfully made cheap Amazon toys (which she would get money or credit on if anyone purchases via her link) at every opportunity, that the only thing that makes sense is that they are really struggling financially. However that doesn't make sense with her story which is that she has maternity pay plus £2k per month of maternity saved, plus Ash's salary.

Yet she needs to do numbers to work out whether she can afford to go back to work full time or not?!

She also can't possibly be the big earner she pretends she is if she is claiming child benefit (which she says she saves up for the children). Isn't she meant to be on £35k-ish? It wouldn't take huge social media earnings to tip her over the limit.
That also means Ash is hardly making huge bucks. But realistically with his new job, who would be.


I also thought her HelloFresh credit must have ran out Great minds, guys and girls, great minds...


I actually don't really shop around too much (mostly because I prefer to buy organic/free range as much as possible) but my biggest shop comes from Ocado and they do a price-promise. As many supermarkets do. So if my standard items that you can also buy from other supermarkets cost more for me, they give me the money back. On occasion I get a couple £ back, most of the time my shopping is cheaper.

I feel like if you buy online you are more likely to stick to what you want to buy as you aren't tempted by middle aisles or random goodies at the checkouts. No idea why she doesn't do that as it would save her so much time too.

 

[sageandoak]

She makes motherhood sound horrific. Yes some days are hard but they aren’t all hard. Halle isn’t even 1 so what is she talking about that “they’ve both been a lot”, can’t imagine she’s that much trouble unless she’s grumpy/clingy because she’s teething but there is two of them at home on the weekend.
Also, how is she going over budget on days out? From what she shows she doesn’t do anything with them other than soft play, not like she’s out with them daily taking them places.

 

[Puffin_island]

Also, how is she going over budget on days out? From what she shows she doesn’t do anything with them other than soft play, not like she’s out with them daily taking them places.

I think she budgets something like £50/month for days out if I remember correctly from one of her youtube videos. So naturally that won't last long at all! Even if you take packed lunches and snacks!

Also, as if she's said that kids entertainment is one area she's not willing to go over 'budget' like wtf are you FOR REAL?! Family time is the one area we allow to overspend! It's the most important? Would be interested to know which areas she's happy overspending after hearing that at this stage I'm almost convinced that they're a lot more worse off now ash has left the army because with both their wages living in a very 'average' house plus ads and YouTube etc she's incredibly frugal

I wouldn't even call her frugal as that implies you're careful in how you spend money but also resourceful. She's just a beggy cheapskate.

I live in a small town and we have so many toddler groups run through the church or local community groups that are literally only £2 a visit and you get tea and biscuits. The local library and children's centres have free sessions. Otherwise most others classes are around £5 which isn't terrible if gets you out the house for most of morning and you get to socialise yourself and our child.

I get the impression she grew up quite well off and a bit of a snob but can't maintain the lifestyle she wishes she had so won't go to places that are what she deems "below her".
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I actually don't really shop around too much (mostly because I prefer to buy organic/free range as much as possible) but my biggest shop comes from Ocado and they do a price-promise. As many supermarkets do. So if my standard items that you can also buy from other supermarkets cost more for me, they give me the money back. On occasion I get a couple £ back, most of the time my shopping is cheaper.

I feel like if you buy online you are more likely to stick to what you want to buy as you aren't tempted by middle aisles or random goodies at the checkouts. No idea why she doesn't do that as it would save her so much time too.

Groceries is one thing my husband and I don't skimp on, we'll buy good value food but we're fortune enough to not worry if we go above our expected weekly cost.

I hate food shopping online but I agree you can definitely budget really well doing it and plan meals around whatever is on offer that week. But then again, Shan considers going to Lidl is like having a spa day.

 

[Amyx1518]

Was ash even there on the bus trip? If Shan had George next to her, and Halle in front, then Unless ash sat on the other side of the aisle, he wasn’t there…

 

[cosmicstar]

Was ash even there on the bus trip? If Shan had George next to her, and Halle in front, then Unless ash sat on the other side of the aisle, he wasn’t there…

No, there's been no sight of him all week and she's not been fussed to explain why. It's as if he doesnt exist.

I knoe she mentions she only shows glimpses of her life (which is pure BS). But not even seeing the back of his hair or see him with the kids and a face emoji EVER makes it seem as if he's never really there. Other than when he looked after the kids so she could do the weekly shopping... sorry, spa day

 

[Emsie]

Going to lidl is not a spa day. Your husband looking after your kids so you can do the basic necessities of life isn't anything to be celebrated. If you need a break Shan your husband should step up and give you one not allow you to do a household chore alone and mask it as a break.
crappy narrative she's pushing.

 

[MrsHeather]

I saw this on Instagram yesterday and immediately thought of Shan with all her "I'm with you/you're not alone" bullshit reels.
She definitely doesn't have a willing partner.

 

[cosmicstar]

My husband and I take turns all the time to take care of the kids at weekends (we both work full time) so we can each have our own 'me time'. For my husband that could be his haircut or a drink at the pub with a couple of friends. For me a meal out with the girls or literally a 'spa day' where I either go for a facial, get my nails done at a salon or a pamper hair day. We've been doing this since my eldest was weeks old and it's no different to what my other mum friends do with their partners.
I partly feel bad that Shan probably never gets to do this because she has a useless husband but it should be the norm. It's the kind of thing that helps you keep your relationship alive after having children.
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I saw this on Instagram yesterday and immediately thought of Shan with all her "I'm with you/you're not alone" bullshit reels.
She definitely doesn't have a willing partner.

Spot on. More or less what I was saying at the same time

 

[Emsie]

I can imagine Ash being like "I've been at work and you've just been at home so no you don't get a break"

 

[ohsosweet]

I can imagine Ash being like "I've been at work and you've just been at home so no you don't get a break"

Definitely this!

I imagine now that H is nearly 1, she’s developing her personality now and in S terms, that means she’s starting to become annoying from being noisy and mobile.

A trip on the park and ride (so SHE can go and arse about in clothes shops for herself) is not what you call family time on a Saturday. Why can’t she go with H alone in the week?

 

[Puffin_island]

I saw this on Instagram yesterday and immediately thought of Shan with all her "I'm with you/you're not alone" bullshit reels.
She definitely doesn't have a willing partner.

This is so true! One thing I never see on social media when it comes to lightening the load of motherhood is that both mum and dad need to compromise somewhere, something I can't imagine Shan or Ash doing.

@cosmicstar I bet even if she had the time to do a day to herself, she would probably go shopping in Home Bargains (buying tatt for G & H and claim she felt guilty leaving them), get her nails done, after trying to beg for a freebie by "asking for recommendations" and have a "pamper session" in her bathrooms as she sure as hell won't want to spend money going to a proper spa.

 

[ohsosweet]

I will say that I do think food has crept up a bit more but it really is all about shopping around. I’ve started to meal plan just to try and save money / waste less and go to Asda. However, I have a child with a dairy and peanut allergy so always find that the bits for him always push the price up in terms of cheese, butter, yoghurt etc subs. Not all supermarkets label nuts and peanuts on packaging separately - Asda don’t - so I often have to pop to Waitrose to get items I know are safe because they do label own brand items separately (he’s not allergic to tree nuts, just peanuts at least) and that puts my weekly shopping up quite a bit too. By the sounds of it, she’s got the hump that no one is buying hello fresh from her 50,000 plugs of it.

 

[whatshernameagain_93]

Or she's trying to make out that she does it on her own so it seems like she's got more on her plate. I noticed she said "we" but who knows what she's refering to. She's vlogged so I guess we will find out. I've noticed she often makes it look like she's on her own then people on here say something then she will post a pic that includes ash

 

[Emsie]

I think having hello fresh v a weekly food shop, you're probably breaking even.
You don't get all your evening meals with HF. Most people do 3 or 4 days so obviously you need to shop for those other days.
You still need breakfast and lunch
You still need nappies wipes dog food
You still need snack bits
You still need fruit, squash, treat food
You still need cleaning items
We've used HF a few times and it's more or less the same.

 

[whatshernameagain_93]

So sick of the hello fresh ads and the skin and me. The last vlog I watched was basically half skin and me and, going over and over and over and over again what her skin routine is like she's mentioned it a million times literally noone cares yeah £4.99 for the first month is good but then £25/£30 a month?! What a rip off. I have pcos so have always suffered with skin issues and the ordinary products are amazing quality and price with pure ingredients without the hype. Literally would never try anything else my skins the best it's ever been and I spend £25/£30 every like 6 months nevermind adding it to my monthly budget or in shans case 'spreadsheet'
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There's no way I would pay the full price for hello fresh. When it's on the offer and it's £12/13 for 3 meals for 2 then yeah maybe but I could make 3 meals for that price so would never in a million years pay £30 PLUS delivery for 3 meals?! Absolute rip off and not even that fresh!
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So in my opinion, food shopping is definitely cheaper than hello fresh, by a mile

 

[cosmicstar]

I buy top range creams but if lets say I spend £150, they easily last me most of the year. That said I don't have any skin conditions so other than SPF there isn't much I use daily. But even those work out cheaper than the subscription.

I find it bizarre that Shan is all about being 'realistic' but none of the products she evers promotes she would ever pay her own money for. She is such a cheapskate she probably buys the absolute cheapest supermarket creams if that.

 

[graceanatomy]

To be honest, I really do love tretinoin and my skin has never looked better than when I was using it. I used to get it from dermatica, I never tried 'skin and me' but Im guessing it's basically the same. I got pregnant so I stopped using it and I haven't started up again because... idk really, I love skincare so much so even though I honestly do think it's a "wonder product" I like the ritual of doing a 10000 step skin care routine and when you're using tretinoin you basically only use that and a moisturiser so. I'm sick of every influencer and their mum promoting it though. I don't even believe they use it either because if they did I'm sure a lot of them would have much better skin.

 

[cosmicstar]

It annoys me that she promotes is because firstly, she isn't a skin/beauty influencer. You can be a mumfluencer and be into your skin products and have a great skincare routine but Shan doesn't even do that. Ever. I'd love to see a pic of her bathroom to see what stuff is in there but I doubt there'd be anything remotely groundbreaking. The only time she talks about anything to do with skin is when she has to promote it.

Similar with the food stuff. She talks openly about how she tries to get the absolute cheapest shopping basket possible, but promotes HelloFresh, which at full-price, is a rip-off. She would never in a million years buy it herself. It's so disingenuous.

 

[Puffin_island]

I'd also love to know what other products she uses for her "amazing" skincare routine and also what her skin looks like without any foundation. It always looks greasy when she shows pictures of her, but I think it's because she's trying to go for the dewey clean girl look but fails. Like everything else she does

I wouldn't say my skin is picture perfect but I'm happy enough to wear it without any foundation and since doing that I definitely think my skin hasn't had any breakouts. I don't even use very many products (facewash, moisturiser and spf) and they aren't even very expensive brands either.

 

[ohsosweet]

I can’t believe in this latest reel she set up her phone in that middle of a busy supermarket isle to mess about filming a reel! Let’s be honest too, it’s not a case of just shoving the phone down, it’s getting the right position, multiple takes.

She just constantly repeats herself over and over. Even in her vlogs she says oh I mentioned this earlier. Why bring it up again?! Her “content” is shocking.