HomewithShan #6 Still ignores her kids & asks ‘why does George scream at me?’, would take a poke in eye for free

[Puffin_island]

I've heard of better help but only through American youtubers. I've just googled how much it costs and it's £40-70 per week. I'm hoping to see that expense in he next montlhy expenses breakdown video!!!

 

[whatshernameagain_93]

Velcro baby she has nooooo idea. If she's got time to sit and make ridiculous reels and YouTube videos she has no right to sit and talk about 'being in the trenches of motherhood' because she hasn't got the foggiest idea!! She can come back when her baby never settles, she can't get a shower and literally doesn't manage to get George to nursery on time/get to the shops/orders takeaways/can't get out of bed etc and talk about those things. When you're sat in front of a camera, hair curled, lashes on etc she has no business making out she has it hard. She should know this, she just wants a pity party and a bunch of "me too" comments

 

[whatshernameagain_93]

I've actually lost count of how many ads/gifted items have 'fixed' his sleep issues she has no shame! Such a liar!!!

 

[Tom_Nook]

An 11 month old. In a bouncer. Having a bottle. Unattended while their parent is in another room. Shan then leaves the room again to get Halle some clothes, leaving her on the floor next to a hot cup of tea! She does all the number 1 things you're warned not to do

 

[cosmicstar]

I actually can't believe that she's not had it seen to, however... Would this really be the first time she's mentioning it of it had been going on that long all the sleep issues and 'solutions' she's promoted and said have worked etc not once has she mentioned of him saying he had any pain. It is neglectful you're right, poor kid, so she's got Halle at private appointments the second she can't sit at a certain age (very prematurity that she worried about this in my opinion) however George is awake every night for half his life complaining of pains in legs etc and she's not attempted to get any advice or help??????????

That's a good point, she did take her to the docs about her tongue tie and even a specialist about her presumed "hypermobility" but nothing for G?

Tell me you love one child more without telling me...

 

[ohsosweet]

“G has never been this calm and nice to be around”

uhhhhhh???

 

[GamerLlama87]

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Genuine question. Is it not common practice that if one parent is doing bed time, the other one will be tidying up/cleaning/cooking/chores?!?! Or if they aren't at home, tell you to leave it and they'll do it later?!

I'd bet Ash is the type to sit on his phone while Shan battles the two kids to bed then expects her to be the affectionate wifey afterwards but she's just as much of a mug for putting up with it

 

[myst3ry]

It freaks Me out so much when she films herself talking to George and pans to look at us in the camera like.. it feels so invasive? And she rolls her eyes like can you imagine growing up and your chats with your mum being dramatised and filmed? Poor George

 

[Puffin_island]

She's just posted a reel about what she spent in May. So because they had to get a locksmith out and that was paid from the joint expenses, she then had to use HER OWN MONEY to cover groceries that would have normally come out of the joint budget. What the actual F?!?! I'm surprised she didn't take the locksmith money out of George's savings seeing as it was apparently "his fault" the locksmith had to be called out

 

[Puffin_island]

Genuine question. Is it not common practice that if one parent is doing bed time, the other one will be tidying up/cleaning/cooking/chores?!?! Or if they aren't at home, tell you to leave it and they'll do it later?!

 

[cosmicstar]

Urgh, that last IG story: "I still don't know what I'm doing but they're still alive".

If that's as low as your parenting goals reach maybe motherhood isn't for you.

 

[ohsosweet]

Her latest moan about being "overstimulated" at the park, she wrote all George's "muddy crap", why couldn't she say muddy clothes or muddy wellies? Why does it have to be "muddy crap"?! She's so hateful all the time there's absolutely no need.

I have a 2 and a half year old and my god, it is bloody tough, I come home from work and am exhausted, all I want to do is lie on the couch and decompress but I have a wee boy who's probably waited all day to tell me stories or climb on me or sit too close and touch my face a bit too much and in that moment it's his feelings that matter most cause he's too wee to understand that mummy is "overstimulated" and needs 5 minutes but Shan doesn't think like that, her feelings are first and foremost and unfortunately George is going to start realising this and by the time she realises the damage will be done and she will have raised an emotionally insecure child who doesn't know who he can rely on when his emotions become too much!

Well, as you know, us mums need to start putting ourselves first!

She absolutely shouldn’t be giving him calpol night after night either. It will never have any effect on him if he’s so used to the dosage. It literally says speak to your doctor if you need to use more than 7 days in a row.

She’s clearly so resentful about her life. Resentful that she doesn’t get mum time. She doesn’t want time with other mums either, she just wants time alone to do her own thing. Her channel isn’t growing so she’s resorting to any desperate measures to try and get her name out there with either paying for ads or tagging instagrams with larger followings. She blamed G for her not having the special newborn time with H. She hasn’t been able to replicate baby weaning videos or ditl with my 8/9/10 month old, so I suspect A has told her she can’t give up her job unless she’s super influencer (which she isn’t). She’s deeply unfulfilled and as I can see it, she has healthy children, a well paid job, a roof over her head and food on the table. She’s won the life lottery and it’s not enough for her.

 

[Thinkevilthoughts]

I reckon she made the mess with the toys to pretend to the HV that George did it

He doesn’t usually do that. Usually it’s a few magnatiles in the living room

 

[Srb93]

It really annoys me she calls Halle a velcro baby because my toddler was most definitely a velcro baby and while I know you shouldn't compare babies, Halle is absolutely nothing like my velcro baby. We never used the bassinet on the pram, pretty much all of her day naps were contact naps until she got to around 10 months and went to 50% (I don't want to go into how the nights were 🫠) and the baby bouncer and playmat were show pieces.

No I agree my 6 month old will only contact nap with me a won’t be on the play gym long. Halle is no way a Velcro baby

 

[ohsosweet]

Have they not gone a way a few weekends in a row now to escape the bathroom being done? Surely they could have put that money towards a professional to have it done in half the time.

 

[whatshernameagain_93]

I think it would be really interesting to know what's really going on in her life. She barely ever mentions ash, they stayed in the house the majority of Easter weekend. She doesn't really have anything to talk about so just repeats herself over and over and the occasions where she does go out and do something, she has the camera on. I get overstimulated quite frequently however I don't have autism but struggle with anxiety/OCD. I could imagine that ranting on socials every time I got overstimulated would just be a really negative way to live. She contradicts herself constantly, last week she was acting a lot more positive with her posts etc now all she seems to do is whine again!

 

[Puffin_island]

What was the battery thing?

Please tell me I'm not the only one who finds it annoying that the battery being full says 19% left when maybe it should say 81%?

 

[shoppingismycardio]

What has she got against putting him to bed early? When my little one dropped her nap she would go to bed as early as 6pm most nights for a while, even 5.30pm if she’d been awake early.
Why is she trying to make him stretch to a “normal” bedtime if he’s not had a nap. He’s clearly exhausted.
I have absolutely zero time for people like her who moan and moan about their kids sleep (or lack of) and never actually do anything usual to address it

 

[Dramallama2]

View attachment 2939693I saw this earlier and Shan needs to accept this.



Or perhaps drop it completely!?

My LG is 6 months younger than George and she dropped her nap completely around October last year. Since then bedtime was been so much easier, quicker and no battles, much earlier and at pretty much the same time every night and she sleeps better through the night. It was a tough few weeks cutting it out but it was totally worth it. The only problem is that it takes time and effort but we know she lacks that when it comes to her children. I mean I'm sure she still mentions (not that she likes talking about personal things about G) that G still has toilet accidents but I'm sure it's nearly been a year since she started potty training. I appreciate its different for every child but for him to be still regularly having accidents isn't entirely his fault. He needs guidance and support which she never offers, but if he isn't getting it, he'll never learn about bladder control.

She mentioned the other day she had bought him a doughnut because he’s managed a day at nursery with no accidents. That’s mental that he’s still having soo many accidents a year later Yet she doesn’t even put a nappy on him for bed? Yet another example of her making life unnecessarily difficult when she’s undoubtedly having to change bedding all the time. My little boy is a year younger than George (2.5) and we started Easter bank holiday and after a few days fully focusing on it, he totally got it and never has to be prompted or go and never has any accidents even at nursery he’s very reliable in saying when he needs to go. She said in a recent video that the 3 day potty training method is bullshit and doesn’t work, well clearly it does to some but obviously it won’t if your a bone idol parent like her who does nothing to support or encourage him. I’m surprised the nursery are happy to still keep changing his shitty pants daily for a year now, god knows what they think of her parent skills.

 

[ohsosweet]

I wonder if all her followers who support her realise of the irony. That her whole channel's theme is complaining about motherhood yet she does videos on how to succeed at it.

Well said. The whole vlog was a paradox. She spent the whole time telling everyone how to make the transition work, yet admits she hasn’t managed to get a grip with transitioning to two kids yet. Also, most things she suggested she didn’t even do. All she did was have a strop that her son got in the way of her newborn time with H and wanted him to go away basically. Or shoved him in front of the telly to stop him needing attention and interacting. Very sad. She definitely isn’t mature enough to be a mother of two and that isn’t down to her she, it’s down to her as a person.