My understanding is that you address the Duchess as "Duchess" if you work for her it is Your Grace. My conclusion is that if your are subservient to her or him, Your Grace is the way to go.Years ago (a solid 40 years back), I had lunch with a Duchess. I was interviewing her for a badge for Girls' Brigade (random) along with the company captain (responsible adult). On the way the captain had a panic because we had no idea how to address a Duchess. We guessed 'your grace' but it honestly didn't matter, she was lovely.
Side story: The Duchess invited a couple of teenagers to keep me company over lunch ( very thoughtful). They were insanely posh and asked me where I summered. I replied "a supermarket" as I was a council estate kid that had been working from the moment I legally could
There was also a rather naughty pug that kept jumping on the very long dining table and running up and down it despite the Duchess telling it off.
Great fun it was![]()
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All the talking heads are having a good laugh at Harry because they are referring to her as the one who got away.
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