sorry but having a preference isn’t fetishisation? if she wants to date black/mixed guys so what? don’t make it more dramatic than it needs to bethe fetishisation of Black men by white women is more than cringe to me
sorry but having a preference isn’t fetishisation? if she wants to date black/mixed guys so what? don’t make it more dramatic than it needs to bethe fetishisation of Black men by white women is more than cringe to me
look up fetishisation of Black men, scroll through the threads where this is discussed at length previously, look at graces friend group which IS ALL WHITE then come back with your wayward behavioursorry but having a preference isn’t fetishisation? if she wants to date black/mixed guys so what? don’t make it more dramatic than it needs to be
People who have known her irl have literally said she behaves incredibly strangely around black people in general…sorry but having a preference isn’t fetishisation? if she wants to date black/mixed guys so what? don’t make it more dramatic than it needs to be
I agree, not everything is some kind of attack on others. If she didn't date black guys that would also be an issue. If that's who she finds attractive then so be it. What about men wanting to date petite women or women wanting to date tall guys, is that fetishisation of height or sizesorry but having a preference isn’t fetishisation? if she wants to date black/mixed guys so what? don’t make it more dramatic than it needs to be
the literal definition of fetishisation is to make someone an object of sexual desire based on one aspect of their identity. so to answer your question, yes it is tho obviously less problematic than racial fetishisationI agree, not everything is some kind of attack on others. If she didn't date black guys that would also be an issue. If that's who she finds attractive then so be it. What about men wanting to date petite women or women wanting to date tall guys, is that fetishisation of height or size
"is it flattering?"Grace: Will it make my bum look *offensive*?
Employee: Umm… yes?
Grace: Approved.
*in lowercase with at least one careless mistake"is it flattering?"
"of course"
"is the promo post written in all lowercase letters?"
"...yeah"
"alright approved"
there’s a difference between finding something attractive and having a fetish.. i find men with beards more attractive but it’s obviously not a fetish. am i discriminating against men without beards? is this fetishisation of beards?? make it make sense, we all have preferences. people can prefer lighter/darker skin tones, hair colours or literally anything without it being a fetish. just because you find something attractive doesn’t mean you’re ‘making someone the object of sexual desire based on that one aspect of their identity’the literal definition of fetishisation is to make someone an object of sexual desire based on one aspect of their identity. so to answer your question, yes it is tho obviously less problematic than racial fetishisation
If you want to learn more about the fetishisation of Black bodies, I'd recommend reading bell hook's "Ain't I A Woman". Scott Poulson-Bryant has written a book on race, sex and power with a focus on Black men's depictions in Hollywood and pornography, and Ben Carrington has written on the Black male body and sport.there’s a difference between finding something attractive and having a fetish.. i find men with beards more attractive but it’s obviously not a fetish. am i discriminating against men without beards? is this fetishisation of beards?? make it make sense, we all have preferences. people can prefer lighter/darker skin tones, hair colours or literally anything without it being a fetish. just because you find something attractive doesn’t mean you’re ‘making someone the object of sexual desire based on that one aspect of their identity’
What does that have to do with someone just finding someone attractiveIf you want to learn more about the fetishisation of Black bodies, I'd recommend reading bell hook's "Ain't I A Woman". Scott Poulson-Bryant has written a book on race, sex and power with a focus on Black men's depictions in Hollywood and pornography, and Ben Carrington has written on the Black male body and sport.
to add, I’ve found an article that explains the difference between preferences/attraction and fetishisation (it’s regarding queer relationships but I chose it because the site is owned by queer/trans people of colour rather than a Metro article):If you want to learn more about the fetishisation of Black bodies, I'd recommend reading bell hook's "Ain't I A Woman". Scott Poulson-Bryant has written a book on race, sex and power with a focus on Black men's depictions in Hollywood and pornography, and Ben Carrington has written on the Black male body and sport.
Where is the line drawn between favouring something and fetishizing it? If someone just isn't attracted to something (not just skin colour but also height, size whatever) then that's something they have little control over. We like what we like. If were attracted to a person solely for the reason of them being black, tall, skinny whatever while disregarding any other thing about them, then imo only then would I consider it to be a fetish. And also on a sidenote: my husband is black. I'm white. The amount of times I've had black women treat me like tit just because "I am stealing a black man from them" baffles me (he was the first black man I've ever been with btw). Wouldn't them ruling out anything else than a black man make them "fetishize" black men themselves? I'm not a POC, so I can't speak for them, but I can only say what my husband says to me when stuff like this comes up: "I simply like white girls and noone is stealing me. I alone chose what I like and what I find attractive and what I find attractive is you and your pasty ass" lol. We as a society should be a lot more aware of calling people Stuff like Fetishists or something like that. Not everything is just black and white. Not everything is a reason to criticize others. Simeone preferring something is no ones business than their own. I fully trust every strong, smart and self aware person to realize if someone is interested in them or their features. But what do I know. I acknowledge there's an issue there l, but I don't necessarily agree with people just deciding that that is what's a fact and nothing else is also possible.If you want to learn more about the fetishisation of Black bodies, I'd recommend reading bell hook's "Ain't I A Woman". Scott Poulson-Bryant has written a book on race, sex and power with a focus on Black men's depictions in Hollywood and pornography, and Ben Carrington has written on the Black male body and sport.
Where is the line drawn between favouring something and fetishizing it? If someone just isn't attracted to something (not just skin colour but also height, size whatever) then that's something they have little control over. We like what we like. If were attracted to a person solely for the reason of them being black, tall, skinny whatever while disregarding any other thing about them, then imo only then would I consider it to be a fetish. And also on a sidenote: my husband is black. I'm white. The amount of times I've had black women treat me like tit just because "I am stealing a black man from them" baffles me (he was the first black man I've ever been with btw). Wouldn't them ruling out anything else than a black man make them "fetishize" black men themselves? I'm not a POC, so I can't speak for them, but I can only say what my husband says to me when stuff like this comes up: "I simply like white girls and noone is stealing me. I alone chose what I like and what I find attractive and what I find attractive is you and your pasty ass" lol. (Edit: but I'm only the second white girl he's dated) We as a society should be a lot more aware of calling people Stuff like Fetishists or something like that. Not everything is just black and white. Not everything is a reason to criticize others. Simeone preferring something is no ones business than their own. I fully trust every strong, smart and self aware person to realize if someone is interested in them or their features. But what do I know. I acknowledge there's an issue there l, but I don't necessarily agree with people just deciding that that is what's a fact and nothing else is also possible.
it 100% is a fetish is you only date people who have a beard. Fetishisation of black people is racism, it is reducing them down to their features rather than them as a person. It is not a compliment when someone says I like “black men/women”.there’s a difference between finding something attractive and having a fetish.. i find men with beards more attractive but it’s obviously not a fetish. am i discriminating against men without beards? is this fetishisation of beards?? make it make sense, we all have preferences. people can prefer lighter/darker skin tones, hair colours or literally anything without it being a fetish. just because you find something attractive doesn’t mean you’re ‘making someone the object of sexual desire based on that one aspect of their identity’
"100% a fetish",no, it's being attracted to something. Very much doubt you have an actual fetish if you say thatit 100% is a fetish is you only date people who have a beard. Fetishisation of black people is racism, it is reducing them down to their features rather than them as a person. It is not a compliment when someone says I like “black men/women”.
“The psychological impact of being desired or sexualised because of your ethnicity is multifaceted, Being racially reduced to a sexualised object can negatively impact a person’s sense of personal safety, their sense of self, self-esteem and self-worth. It can be demeaning and infuriating not to be seen as a real person who is multidimensional and who has lots of different things to offer a potential partner. To know that in a sexual or relational context, your social currency is not who you are, but which racial group you belong to, is also devastating, disappointing and humiliating”
The viewpoint of the poster @DietGossip (race unknown) clearly originates in the books they recommended by three POC authors.I still need to educate myself further on the fetishisation of black people, most importantly from a poc viewpoint so I'm reluctant to listen to opinions from white or racially anonymous viewpoints on here.
if you have a “preference“ it’s you prefer apples over oranges but doesn’t mean that you won’t ever eat oranges. You actively seeking to only date black and mixed men but turning ur nose up at white men is very . that’s just an analogy - think grace’s ex was white so I don’t really think she has a fetish but it’s really weird to just date one race of people and say it’s a “preference” it’s a fetish. You ask that person why they’re only dating black people and they’ll give all types of excuses and BS. When it probably just comes down to wanting cute mixed babies or being a BBC lover.sorry but having a preference isn’t fetishisation? if she wants to date black/mixed guys so what? don’t make it more dramatic than it needs to be