Personally I also don't think it is 'kind' for anyone close to Gabby to ignore that her sitting at home on her own in her smelly swamp of a house is normal or fine. Being kind sometimes means telling people what they don't want to hear, not appeasing them for the sake of it or to avoid upset. Somewhere along the line (cough Jane cough) Gabby has been taught to ignore any kind of constructive feedback or criticism as 'being bullied' and now she's incapable of distinguishing between unwarranted nastiness and genuine criticism that would help her. What's 'kind' about any of that?